I am sad. DD13 (gad, panic disorder, spd, possibly on the spectrum) has been taking horseback riding lessons for almost 2 years. Her instructor has been wonderful with her and DD9 (NT). The horse farm is wonderful too- a rescue farm with many different animals. It has pretty much been our refuge for the last 2 years, a calm, happy, relaxing place to retreat to when life, school, therapists etc got to be too much. So last week DD was having a very hard time putting her hair up. There are a lot of changes coming up with school, new iicaps therapist etc so her anxiety level was raised and therefore sensory issues were heightened. The staff there was already frustrated or something when we got there to help bring in the horses (about 50 total) and I was stressed so I walked away when I heard the tension in their voices. DD kept going and tried to put her hair up. She ended up pulling it back down because it was bothering her. Before she could try to put it up again her instructor said something (in a very tense voice) and DD walked away. I didn't see the interaction but I'm sure it wasn't a nice, calm voice she used. Anyway, I tried explaining (again) the sensory issue and was pretty much dismissed. I got teary because there is so much going on and I was already stressed. I walked away again. The two instructors followed me out of the barn and started telling me that DD's instructor is over her head with DD and can't teach her anymore- that she will need to take lessons with the spec needs teacher on Sundays! I was so upset. I finally said I can't talk about this now and walked away. I sent an email the next day about the situation- explaining how I tried to avoid an issue and that there is more going on here than DD's hair. Today I met with the woman in charge of the farm. She said DD's instructor has been telling her for a couple months that she can't handle teaching DD anymore. I guess they didn't tell me because they didn't have a solution. The spec olympic trainer is also a regular instructor who only recently got trained for special needs. I guess my point is that my feelings are hurt for my daughter. She has done so well recently and moving forward and making a lot of progress. It really hurts to be told that her riding teacher can't, won't or doesn't want to teach her anymore (but does want to teach DD9).