I need to get this off my chest! This is very long sorry. My DS10 plays sport A. He is pretty good at sport A, not the best on his team but one of the top. We have gotten to be good friends with a lot of the parents and the coach. Every friday and saturday one of us hosts a get together and a core group of 4-6 families are always there. About 2 yrs ago DS convinced his best bud to play and was put on his team (not the same team as now). His buddy picked it up quick and then both joined other teams of the same sport. They play year round. They have been BFFs since kgarten. Lately though the friend is very possessive of DS. I have become very good friends with the mom. I would consider her my BF right now. But she is very competitive with her kids. Pushes them to be number one in all they do, activities and school. She has 2 older daughters who are into theater. She has been known to call and make demands they are in lead roles, etc. I knew she was vocal but not to what extent until recently. She also has pushed for her son to be accepted into the advanced program at the school, he did not qualify but she freaked out until they finally agreed, she admitted this to me. Her DH is somewhat of a local celeb. They do NOT bring it up but we have noticed he gets a lot of "favors" for it. Mostly sport related. Any time we are invited anywhere I call or txt her or she will txt/call me if she hasn't heard from me. Its almost like we can't go without them. My son is not in the advanced program but actually gets better math scores than his friend. However his friend is constantly making comments that he is smarter because he is in advanced. Sport B was announced and decided new this year there would be a travel team that kids had to try out for, if they didn't make it they'd play rec league. Friend has played sport B before buy my DS has not. They tried out and most kids from Sport A that tried out did make it except my son and one other boy, the Sport A coach's son. Huge drama ensued but DH and I said no we were not getting involved and DS would play rec. Found out friend only got selected because of his dad. No, not opinion the coach that choose him told DH that. whatever, DS is happy to play on the rec league. Friend keeps taunting him though that he wasn't picked. Back to Sport A. the friend has not kept up with the development of the other kids on the team. I feel bad even saying this here but well he is pretty bad. Mom has even made comments about he is just not as good as my DS. I try and sugar coat it but lately other parents are making comments. Our coach did not cut anyone, he is all about the boys and them being together. He was supposed to split the team for the next session of indoor but has decided not to because he wants them to be together. DH wants DS to move to another level next fall. He mentioned it to the coach and he got pretty offended. I'm torn, DS is not learning new skills right now and is starting to get frustrated because they are playing teams much more skilled and he wants to be able to compete with them. DS stands up for him a lot to the other kids and has never to my knowledge said anything. I've heard him be very supportive after games. However the friend will say things like "the ref made bad calls" or this kid lost the game for us or whatever. His parents do tell him to stop but he does it all the time. DS was invited to play on another team now. Its the same level but would be different coaches with different skill levels. One of the coaches is an assistant now and he really likes him. This would be in addition to his core team. I'm proud he was asked to play. He keeps saying he is hoping playing rec league his BFF will be on another team. Lately, anything DS does the friend does. The mom will call and say oh well friend will do it too. I love that we are close and I have a good friend. I love my DS having great friends too. however, I want him to have this new team for him. Again, he'll still play for the other team and any schedule conflicts his main team wins. I know if i don't tell my friend and she doesn't get her son on this new team she is going to be offended. It'll be why wasn't my son picked? There was huge drama with Sport B. I really do not like drama. I love our core group now because there usually isn't a lot of drama. I just want to be able to let my son branch out a bit and get extra play time with some new kids/coaches. Do i have to tell friend ahead of time? Am I creating drama by not telling her?