Hi there! Been reading your PTR and loving it. I'm here to add my two cents about a couple of things
First, a bit about my first trip experience--the first time I went I was 40. My three kids were aged 9-16 at the time. I was always one of those "practical vacation" people--trips to see relatives, or to see educational or new experience places like the ocean or historical sites or museums. When my oldest daughter turned 16, my husband and I got to thinking that we didn't have much more time for all of us to go on vacations together and decided that Disneyworld was one of those places that you kind of "have to" go to once in your life. I had never before been interested because I just assumed it was out-of-reach expensive, and probably not at all worth it. I sucked it up, resigned myself to spending the money, and we went. Then the strangest thing happened--my husband and I loved the place more than the kids did. Sure, they had fun...but we LOVED it. We've been back twice with our youngest daughter, and can't wait to go again. My oldest daughter is going for her honeymoon in September, and my husband and I are hoping to go for a just-the-two-of-us trip at the beginning of F&W. We are even planning a 2014 family reunion there!
I know you said Glenda doesn't like buffets, and doesn't like to pay for breakfast food...but that she loves all things Pooh and hates crowds. So...I am suggesting that you at least think about an ADR at Crystal Palace in MK. It is a character meal with the whole Pooh crew! Yes, it is a buffet, and they also do lunch and dinner, but there is a really special perk if you go with a breakfast ADR: you can walk down Main Street USA BEFORE the park opens and the hoardes have entered. It is an amazing feeling having that view to the castle almost to yourselves...and a great photo opportunity. We did this on our last trip because we brought my daughter's friend who also loved Pooh and had never been to WDW. It was a big hit with her, and it was awesome for us to see Main Street practically empty!