DH Passed Away Suddenly Before Our Trip - Update Post 267

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  1. Lilo's Mom

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    My DH, Bob, and I had been planning our upcoming trip for the last year. This trip was to be a celebration for Bob's 50th birthday, we were happily planning everything to include a very dear friend, Sue, who shares Bob's May 5th birthday. Last week my whole life changed, I came home to find Bob had unexpectedly passed away in our home. The last week has been very difficult, coming to grips with the sudden loss of my soul mate.

    Initially I decided not to take this trip, but, my in-laws, friends and my daughter have encouraged me to take our trip and celebrate Bob's life in the place that he loved the most. I modified our trip and canceled the first three days where we had planned our first stay at the Polynesian complete with magic kingdom view. This part of the trip was meant to be a romantic getaway before our friend Sue joined us. I just could not bring myself to do that part of the trip without Bob, so instead I am going to be staying with my daughter at the Hilton Orlando. When Sue and her son fly in on the May 3rd we check into Bay Lake Tower for a week. The plan is to pay tribute to Bob on what would have been his 50th birthday, by releasing balloons in Epcot, and dining at his favorite place, Le Cellier.

    My head tells me that I have had a wonderful nine years with this man; three years of dating and six of marriage...but my heart is broken. Disney was truly our happy place, we have had two Disneyland trips, six Disney World trips, and one Disney Cruise. Bob was so looking forward to this trip and future trips where he could have shown Disney to our grand-daughter, Emma, who is only 4 months old now. :sad1:
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  3. iwrbnd

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    I'm so very sorry! There are no words! :hug: I will remember you in my prayers!
     
  4. Robo

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    I am so sorry to hear this.
     
  5. Art 1

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    Very sorry.
     
  6. Andrea73

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    I cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through right now.

    I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    I am so very sorry. :sad2: I honestly do not know what to say. Words just seem useless. :hug:
     
  7. Princess Sleepy

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    I can't even imagine. Deepest condolences.
     
  8. Malaguti Ball Clan

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    Heartbreak, I will keep your family in my thoughts and as the Planner of our house I would totally want my wife and family to take the trip, no better way to tribute a Dis'r than to take that trip. God bless Bob and your entire family.
     
  9. Lilo's Mom

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    Thank you all so much for your prayers and support

    That is how I am trying to get through this, by making it a tribute to a life well lead.
     
  10. AllieBoo

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    I am so very sorry for your loss
     
  11. kimgg

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    Wow what a reminder that no time is promised to us . . . I am so sorry for you and your family. I'll add you to my prayers. :hug:
     
  12. PoohsFan1

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    :grouphug:

    My heart goes out to you and your family, I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers. I am happy that you are still going to Disney during this time of need, it is probably what your DH would of wanted you to do.
     
  13. princessallegra

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    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. You're so lucky to have an amazing support group of family and close friends that love you so much. Sending you lots of hugs and :goodvibes:goodvibes at this painful time.
     
  14. le9397

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    My deepest sympathy for your loss.

    I think you are doing the right thing going on the trip. I had taken my younger cousin to Disney 2xs (in '04 & '05). She died suddenly last April at 18 years old due to a crazy infection. I was leaving the morning after her funeral for Disney. It was hard for me because I have so many wonderful memories us during those trips. At the same time, it was nice for me because I have so many wonderful memories of her there. :goodvibes I spent a lot of time that trip telling DBF stories of my trips with Lyssie and the things we did there. I've been back 2 more times since that April trip and each time is a little easier. I "feel" her most in Disney but that is a good thing. I tell people regularly that Disney is my happy place. Now I feel like it always will be because of memories I have with a special young lady.
     
  15. Duckiedee

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    Blessings to you and your family during this very difficult time.
     
  16. Poohlovr

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    I am so very, very sorry.
     
  17. alwaysmom

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    I am so sorry for your loss.

    "May the peace which comes from memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead"
     
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    Very Very sorry...
     
  20. goodfaerie

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    :sad1: So very sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you, but it is heartening to know that you will honor him by taking your Disney trip. :grouphug:
     
  21. disneyjunebug

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    I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you and yours are in my prayers. May you find comfort in the happiness that you shared with your sweetie.
     

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