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Dealing with The Loss of a Son

Discussion in 'Coping and Compassion' started by pfishgirl, Jul 17, 2009.

  1. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    Oh my goodness.. I am so sorry for your loss :hug: Thank you for sharing your story with me..

    It's very hard and we have good days and bad days and we do take it one hour at a time.. Some days I'm fine and then out of nowhere I'm crying my eyes out.

    Tonight my husband says he is not all that thrilled we are going on our cruise in 2 weeks.. This is the 1st he has said anything to me.. I'm hoping he is just having a down day and I'll help try and perk him up
     
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  3. TaraPA

    TaraPA <font color=navy>I will think of that animatronic

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    Look at you Stacy - giving words of wisdom to other people dealing with the same thing you are. I'm sure others will appreciate hearing your story that are going through it as well. You are strong!!!!! :hug:
     
  4. shoes99

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    Hi Dear Niece Stacy.
    The best thing to do with DH is to talk and talk.
    Uncle Bud's best friend lost his son at age 19 in a boating accident at LBI.
    The Mom Charlene went into such a depression that she did not want to get out of bed. Her other kids 14, 12 and 6 had to fend for themselves for at least a year before she got help. Her husband was a dear, but he left for work at 6:30AM. We think about you and Andy and Damien every day.
    Even the cruise next week for me will be a little weepy. Remember, I was with you and your family including Damien last September. We have great memories. Damien went from the chicken fingers kid to ordering snails for the appitizer. We all had a great smile over that.
    Aunt Michele
     
  5. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    He had snails AND chicken fingers ;) and we had Palo's. He was so excited to have Palo's finally after waiting and waiting til he was 18

    and yes, I was assuming it may bit a weepy for you as well. I'm so glad you have the Veggie Car races and Happy memories to hold on to with Damien

    and Thank You... but, you know as much as me that Andy is a stubborn one, they all are.. But I do talk to him.. He just holds things back that I wish he didn't..
     
  6. IceSk8ersMom

    IceSk8ersMom DIS Veteran

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    Stacy, I am sailing with you in December 2010. I admire your strength and your courage. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. I hope this Dis board gives you some comfort. I am sending you a cyber-hug
     
  7. shoes99

    shoes99 DIS Veteran

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    I have permission from my niece Stacy to post some pics from Damien's High School Graduation party/brunch.
    Aunt Michele
    Four generations of family:
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    Damien and his cousins:
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  8. 5 'LIL *TWINKERS*

    5 'LIL *TWINKERS* The loveliest masterpiece of the heart of God, is

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    Im so very sorry for your loss......prayers and hugs to you and your dh.:grouphug:
     
  9. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    I Miss Him So Much........................

    :sad1:
     
  10. mommasita

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    :hug:
     
  11. Minnie&Nana

    Minnie&Nana Dreams do come true!

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    :grouphug: Hold tight to every memory. :grouphug:
     
  12. Luv2Roam

    Luv2Roam Dexter: Takes Life. Seriously.

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    Just here to give a :hug:
     
  13. DanceRC28

    DanceRC28 Wife to Greg, mommy to baby Tyler and furbabies Gr

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    So sorry for your loss, sending my thoughts and prayers out to you and your family!
     
  14. ibelieveinmagic

    ibelieveinmagic Mouseketeer

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    oh sweetheart, i am so very very sorry! I'ts ok to cry as much as you need to- hugs to you!
     
  15. kathyseb

    kathyseb Dole Whips are the best

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    Stacey,
    I have lost two nephews, both in their 20s. I know how my heart aches at not having them with us anymore, but to even begin to imagine what life is for my two sisters. There are bad days and good days.

    Looks like you have a trip coming up.
    Two years ago, I lost my mom on November 12. On the 27th that year we took off for WDW. The last place in the world I wanted to be.
    The trip was like a blur to me. I did a lot of crying as we walked around the World. But also a lot of memoires flooded into my mind from the trip my mom took with DH and myself.

    I set out to buy something from there that would remind me of my mom everytime I looked at it. I searched high and low for the right thing. I finally got a ornament of Minnie dressed like an angel holding a candle.

    Sounds like at least your aunt and uncle are going with you. Take the time on the trip to celebrate your son's life. Relive your memories.

    My heart goes out to you. Take each day one step at a time.
     
  16. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    Thank You for your thoughts and sharing your story..

    We are going with friends of ours and Their family.. Aunt Michele won't be with us this time. But she was with us last year when our son was with us as well.
     
  17. IceSk8ersMom

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    Stacy,

    I know you are leaving tomorrow for your cruise. It will be a difficult journey for you, but you are not alone. I am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. Have a safe and peaceful trip.

    Lisa
     
  18. Minnie&Nana

    Minnie&Nana Dreams do come true!

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    Stacey, I too, will be thinking of you most especially these next days. Take gentle care... there may be many mixed emotions, but am praying there will be happy memories as well. God bless. :hug:
     
  19. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    Back in NJ

    We had some ups and downs as expected while on the Magic, but it was a nice relief in a way at Castaway.. :rolleyes1

    DH & I are feeling a little bit better but of course we came home with Colds :headache:
     
  20. shoes99

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    Welcome home dear niece Stacy. Sorry we missed you on 9/10 on our way back to the airport. Also sorry that you had another death in the family. I went to Uncle Alan's wake in the afternoon on Sunday. I got to see your in-laws before they flew back to Colorado on Monday. Hope DH got to see his folks before they went back.
    Love you...
     
  21. pfishgirl

    pfishgirl In Loving Memory of Our Son 5/6/

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    Thank You.. Andy missed Mom and Dad by like 10 minutes. He went to the brunch after the funeral and sat with Grandma & Grandpa.
     

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