OK.. sso DD is 8 and has type one diabetes. She goes to her dad's every other week. Yesterday I pick her up at 7 and she walks up to me and is beet red. I hug her and the heat is pouring off of her. I always carry a thermometer among my other things I need for her and I take her temp right there.. its 103! I throw her in car and off we go to Children's Hospital. As we wait for the doc I look thru her glucose log book and see that she had sugars over 400 over the week end!! Then I find out from DD that her dad never tested for ketones even though he wrote in the book that he did. I am so mad at this point I want to hit someone. They do blood work and a urine sample and several hours later we thankfully find out its Strep and a urinary tract infection. So I call my wonderful ex and tell him about our evening and he gets mad at me and says I over reacted and that he did not think she was warm at all when he hugged her bye. What?? She was red.. lobster red.. moaning in pain.. gasping because her throat hurt so bad.. We meet at a grocery and I saw him hug her bye and she walked ten feet to me. I know these symptoms did not appear in her 3 second walk from him to me. She threw up over the week end and was coughing so they gave her dayquil.. never took her temp. I am so mad. She is not like any other kid. She gets sick and it can be bad. We have to be ahead of the illness to keep it from getting worse. He ignored her symptoms for 2 days. I just get so fed up with him .. I have taken him to court.. called CPS.. tried to get emergency protection orders. When does it stop? I should not have to worry about what is happening to my DD when she is with her dad but each week when she is there I stress and fret and just worry.. I'm sorry.. I just needed to vent to people who may understand. He keeps saying that I make too big of a deal about her diabetes and that she needs to just be able to act like a normal kid.. but she's not "normal". She has diabetes.. she can't just go over to the nieghbors house and play with no worries.. she can't even go to bed witout going thru a routine. She cannot handle the flu like most kids.. her special needs have to be priority and I just wish he would get that. I dont let her diabetes stop her from doing anything but I do make sure she is taken care of along the way. Like I said .. I'm sorry.. I have just been so angry at this and I needed to let it out. Thanks for listening.