Holly, I feel your pain. My MIL has dementia. This past Christmas Eve my FIL had to be life-flighted to a larger hospital, two hours from home. It was scary enough to see him so sick, but compounding the worry about him was making arrangements for someone to care for her, since she could not be by herself. We now have at home nursing and things have, thank God, settled down. However, my husband and I know due to their age and health, this is temporary and assisted living or personal care is probably around the corner. My prayers for you and your family.