Bare Face = Divorce?

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  1. 2disneyboys

    2disneyboys DIS Veteran

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    Ok, here's a thought for discussion.

    On our local news channel they have a story tonight on how a local "speaker" feels that women who "let themselves go" account for a lot of the reason marriages fail:confused3

    Now, let me state that I am in no way being insensitive to divoices or anything like that! I do not agree with this "speakers' Comment. I also am NOT one who always dresses to the nines and has full hair & makeup at all times. nope, not me. I don't know that I agree w/ this theory, but on the facebook post, there were over 3000 comments and alot of them were in agreement????

    What do you all think??? Is a women not "doing her hair or makeup" on a regular basis the reasons so many marriage fail in America???
     
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  3. Cinderella94

    Cinderella94 <font color=blue>now and then i have to remind mys

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    Well....my boyfriend has already seen me without makeup and looking like a bum numerous times. If, in the future, we do get married, none of that will be a surprise to him so wouldn't be a reason for a divorce.

    For me, that's how it should be. If I'm not comfortable enough with a guy to not wear make up and wear sweatpants and heck, maybe not even shower that day, then he isn't the right guy for me. Of course, this isn't every day, but my point is that if we were to ever get married, I would feel comfortable having a "down" day with him without worrying that he might want to divorce me.
     
  4. zurgswife

    zurgswife WDW is my Shangrala...and I'm going...life is bett

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    If that's the case then my marriage should have ended 20 yrs ago. I'm not a big make up wearer...maybe on a special occasion but that is about it.
     
  5. lovesmurfs

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    :thumbsup2 Same here.

    I think it could be more of a symptom or perhaps an excuse.
     
  6. NHdisneylover

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    We would not have gotten marred in the first place if that were the deciding factor :rotfl: I have never been a make up every day kind of gal.
     
  7. BearcatsFan

    BearcatsFan <font color=green>we finally had a minute to breat

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    My thoughts exactly! In fact, when I do wear make-up, my husband comments on it because that's how rarely it happens.
     
  8. DebbieB

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    If a decline in a partner's looks (whether male or female) has ANYTHING to do with a divorce (and I don't doubt it does for some), IMO, it wasn't a relationship built on love.
     
  10. Princess Dolly

    Princess Dolly <font color=green>Unfortunately it encroached the

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    That "speaker" ought to take a good, long, hard look at himself in the mirror, not just to see how he looks on the outside, but inside as well. I am sure that "speaker" is ugly inside where beauty matters most.
     
  11. disykat

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    IMO, while I suppose not paying attention as much attention to your appearance as you did while you were dating (men OR women) COULD be indicative of not putting effort into your relationship, I don't see not wearing makeup as a marker for divorce. Everyone has their own level of interest in makeup and clothes. Like others here, if my dh was into that he never would have married me in the first place.

    However, I think it's reasonable to assert that either spouse deciding that once they're married they can stop personal hygiene practices and stop putting effort into attracting and being attracted to their mate could be a marker of marital dischord.
     
  12. TDC Nala

    TDC Nala <font color=red>1937, what a year that was<br><fon Moderator

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    Men let themselves go, too.
     
  13. mnrose

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    Consider the source. Just another idiotic thing he has said. I can't believe anyone listens to him and/or takes him seriously.

    I rarely wear makeup. My husband STRONGLY prefers that I do not wear makeup. If I was a heavily made up woman, I'm pretty sure he would never have even asked me out.

    That being said, I do think BOTH partners in a marriage have an obligation to keep themselves in shape and attractive to the other. It certainly isn't something that falls on the woman alone that's for sure.
     
  14. dawnhaze

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    I always love when this topic comes up in the media every couple of years because the people talking about it almost never mention men who "let themselves go" after years of marriage.

    Personally, I don't do my hair or wear makeup at all to begin with, so anyone I enter into relationships with knows what they're getting from the start. I would never marry someone who expected me to look the same forever.
     
  15. diznygirl

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    Conversely, can I get a divorce because I was unaware of the weird noises and smells I would have to endure as a married woman? :lmao:
     
  16. leight

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    :rotfl2::thumbsup2 Very funny!

    I am one of those who has let herself go...you should see the old, torn tshirts and boxers I wear to bed! My husband should probably divorce me...
     
  17. BearcatsFan

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    No doubt! :scared: :faint:
     
  18. fairestoneofall

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    this!

    both DH and i have put on weight since we got married over 15 years ago (i'm working on mine). even then, i was not a "wear make-up every day" girl. i do wear it, but most definitely not every day.

    thank goodness we didn't marry for looks! if that's all a marriage is based on, then that's a pretty shoddy foundation. looks fade. true love does not.
     
  19. hereyago

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    Pat Robertson is an idiot. I honestly don't know why the news covers anything he says.
     
  20. happygirl

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    That a shallow marriage anyway if that what a marriage is built on
     
  21. KristaTX

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    Oh, for cryin' out loud. Would someone please shut that man up??? He and a few loudmouth whackos like him give Christianity a bad name.

    Seriously, though, I think he's got the beginnings of some kind of brain problem. He's lost his filter completely and seems to be continuously spewing out stupid stuff. I saw one clip from an episode of the 700 club where even his cohost looked at him like he was an idiot.

    If he has some health issue going on, his family and staff need to reel him in and force him out of the spotlight and into retirement.
     

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