mookie said:
Okay, I guess that is being harsh. But I swear it happens every year. DH mom is very generous at Xmas. I mean VERY generous. At least 1,000 on each grandchild. There has been many talk about how hard it is to teach your child values when "Mimi" is always buying gifts at the drop of a hat. When DH and I went on vacation a few weeks ago, DD got over 200.00 worth of stuff while she stayed there!!!! (She was only there 4 days!!) So, you can imagine how Xmas is...
Anyway, back to my point. Every year, my MIL starts shopping early. She swoops up everything that she possibly can for these kids that's in their age group. The tough part is that it leaves my mom and even us without anything to get our kids!! My dd is now starting to finally "get" Santa. She's been really excited about making a list, etc. Well, MIL asked "what is Maddie asking Santa for Xmas this year?" Guess what?!!?! DH told her!!! You guessed it, she then went out and bought everything. This would be nice if she then gave it to us or to "santa." But she keeps it for herself, and says it's all from her!!!
I swear MIL might as well be Santa Claus. Nobody else can even touch her, and the kids get more stuff there then they do from Santa, because Santa has nothing left to give them..."mimi" has swallowed it all up.
Okay, just had to vent...I should be used to this by now, but it still irks me every year. And no matter how many times we say something to her, she never listens.
My parents spend a lot on my kids, and I have no problem with it. I don't mind my kids having a ton of stuff. It's not a big deal, as long as they appreciate what they are getting, take care of what they have and don't expect things. In which case, they are on target.
What they usually do though, is buy the pricey stuff. A game system, all the accessories and games. All the pirates of the Caribean toys; I mean, really, how fun is just one or two action figures--the ship, all the figures and a few of the other stuff is much better. The younger two are each getting a powerwheel vehicle this year; the littler one getting a 1-3 year one. I did try and talk them into a Disney vacation, but they wouldn't go for it as they get pleasure watching all 9 grandkids open their gifts.
Of course, my parents would never buy what they ask Santa for--that
should come from Santa. But other than that, I don't care who buys my kids what. I don't need credit.
Maybe you could tell MIL, how dissappointing it would be if
Santa didn't bring what
Santa was asked for. She wouldn't want to ruin Christmas morning for your little one, would she?
We circumvent the big Christmas morning at my parents house easily. We do Christmas with my in-laws (who buy one modest gift per child) a couple of days prior to Christmas. Christmas eve they then open gifts from us. First thing in the morning is Santa. Then off to my parents house where the chaos ensues. My kids never compare what one gives to another; it is just the way it is. We don't feel a need to keep up with the Jones', and it leaves us money for other things--Vacations, museum/zoo memberships, etc.
You could probably do something like that. Then your DD would get the gifts she wants from Santa. You could tell your DD that Santa must not have been able to keep up with ALL those gifts from MIL while tracking all the naughty & nice boys & girls in the world.
And don't tell Mimi, it might hurt her feelings.
Then you could return the extra gifts & put the money into a college fund, sell them on ebay, give to charity, set aside store credits for birthday gifts, whatever. You don't even need to tell MIL.