sharona
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- Feb 7, 2008
I completely understand where you're coming from OP. My DD12 has also tried many different things - swim team, basketball, soccer, gymnastics, softball, dance... She is not passionate about any of them. She enjoys basketball and softball but is not a natural athlete and is not willing to put in the practice time to get there. Like your DD she is almost at the age when the rec leagues will be done and she will have to "make" a team in order to continue to play a sport. I don't see that happening with either of her current favorites barring some growth spurt or sudden epiphany. I know that she will miss the camaraderie of being on a team and the new friendships (DD is also a bit introverted) so we've also been considering other options, specifically golf or tennis. Currently, we together decided that she would participate in at least 1 sport and 1 cultural activity (music lessons, art classes, drama club) per season for Fall - Spring for as long as possible. If she doesn't find something that she wants to do, I won't push her to continue sports beyond the rec league age if she doesn't want to. Although I do agree with you that, for girls in particular, team sports can be very important to their self esteem and success at school, I think forcing it on them will pretty much eliminate any benefits that would have been derived.
Some great suggestions in this thread. DD is interested in volleyball but it doesn't start until high school. That would be great as my SIL played vball for junior olympics and could really help her!
Re the swim team - my DD loves to swim and enjoyed the lessons and the team practices but hated the competitions. If she is not into it, I would drop it - it's a huge time commitment!
Some great suggestions in this thread. DD is interested in volleyball but it doesn't start until high school. That would be great as my SIL played vball for junior olympics and could really help her!
Re the swim team - my DD loves to swim and enjoyed the lessons and the team practices but hated the competitions. If she is not into it, I would drop it - it's a huge time commitment!