If you live with someone who suffers from depression and/or chronic physical ailments, how do you keep your spirits up? If you are healthy and things are okay otherwise, do you feel guilty or feel like you are being unsympathetic around the person who is always sick if you go about your day and do things that you enjoy? Not that the ailing person wants you to be morose with them and they'd probably want you to be happy, but how do you be happy when they have one problem after another. I know there are a lot of people with problems and everyone handles their problems differently, but if your loved one is not that mentally happy to begin with and not that strong and every new problem gets them down, does that affect you to where you are down alot also? Or do you just act happy all of the time and try to seem strong even when new problems keep arising. I feel like I'd be kind of dismissing or not taking their problems too seriously if I acted like that. Maybe I need to show my concern but not keep dwelling on it continuously and try to get the person not to dwell on it. But if they always feel lousy and it's been going on for years & years, I've gotten to the point where I don't bother saying "it'll get better" or "I'm sure everything will be ok". Not that I want to give up but I said those phrases so many times it doesn't sound convincing anymore. The person that I'm talking about has been going to many doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists/social workers, etc over the years, so it isn't as though they aren't trying to work on their problems. If you are the person who suffers from depression and or chronic ailments and are not that strong of a person (I don't mean physically strong), how do you want your loved ones to be around you. What can or do they do that helps you to keep going & keep your spirits up? I'm sorry if I'm rambling and not very clear or concise. And I know there are people with much worse problems. Sometimes I just get so tired though and feel there's nothing to look forward to. But I want to help and I don't really know what to do. Even after all these years and even after asking him what I can do. Thanks for any insight or help you can give.