I know your son is a few years older than mine, but they seem alike in many ways. I really do hope that being out on his own makes a difference for your son. Sometimes that is a rude awakening and can be just what a kid needs to turn to corner. My son knows that if he doesn't keep the grades up in college then he can't come back here to live. It's just way too disruptive. So we'll see how he's doing at the end of this semester.