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Discussion in 'Coping and Compassion' started by Tinks1984, Mar 6, 2011.

  1. Tinks1984

    Tinks1984 <font color=red>We're having a mini party!<br><fon

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    Hello all.

    I'm sorry to have to come here and post, but I don't know where else to go to speak. I have pain in my heart this week, as one of my best friends is very poorly :sad1:

    She suffers from Cystic Fibrosis and other linked problems and has been in hospital for nearly two months now and was getting better. This week it was necessary to operate on her lung as it had been de-flated for a number of weeks on and off.

    She had her operation and it was successful, but over the weekend she has developed a major infection and is struggling for life. I have been in contact with her Mom, but I have not been allowed to visit as she's in ICU. I feel helpless and cry whenever I think of my friend and what pain she is in. They're bringing up a specialist ventilator this afternoon from another county and hoping that may help, but it will only increase the chances by a small percentage.

    Her Mom doesn't want me to visit on an 'unusual' day than I normally would, as to try and not alarm her into how poorly she is, so I may be able to visit Tuesday if they allow me in, as it may only be family allowed. But until then I'm lost, feel awful and just want to give both her and her Mom a cuddle.

    Please, if you can, think of my friend in your thoughts and prayers, I would be deeply moved if you can just spare a few seconds. I need to send her pixie dust right now, there's nothing else I can do.

    I don't want to feel selfish, but I too feel lonely and helpless. I speak to my friend daily and I just keep starting a text message to her and just don't know what to say. I miss her messages and smiles. I'm at a loss and can only hope she'll pull through.
     
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  3. quasar4legs

    quasar4legs DIS Veteran

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    I am so sorry your friend is seriously ill and I shall keep you both in my thoughts.

    We are always here if you want to 'chat' and don't forget to be kind to you, it is very tough watching someone you care about being so unwell.

    You sound like a wonderful friend and I am sending you both a BIG Koala cuddle from 'down under':grouphug:

    Quasar
     
  4. mommasita

    mommasita DIS VETERAN Moderator

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    Rachel, you are not selfish, you are the opposite of that :hug:. Your friend is truly blessed to have such a caring person as you in their life.

    I am sending lots of prayers, hugs and anything else your friend's way. I hope you do get into see her.

    If you can kindly let us know when you know anything further. Hugs to you my sweet :grouphug:
     
  5. Tinks1984

    Tinks1984 <font color=red>We're having a mini party!<br><fon

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    Just a small update.

    My friend has been taken off the ventilator which was sent at the weekend, as it was not working. Her Mom called me yesterday and told me that I would be best to visit sometime this week to say goodbye, as the CF nurses and doctors have confirmed that it’s not likely my friend will improve from now onwards :(

    My friend has been given pain relief and is currently resting under the drugs. I do believe this is to make her comfortable until the time arrives

    Yesterday I was sad, cried lots and made many mistakes in work. Today, my tears haven’t appeared yet, I’m doing better than I thought. I have not yet spoken to her Mom today, but I expect my tears to return when I do, even though I want to be strong for her family.

    Please, again, keep her in your prayers if you can spare a second. I will come back with news whenever I get some. Thank-you all for taking the time to reply to my post :hug:
     
  6. luvmarypoppins

    luvmarypoppins <font color=darkorchid>I am debating whether to pu

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    Sending prayers for your friend during this most difficult time.

    She is blessed to have such a caring friend in you.
     
  7. mommasita

    mommasita DIS VETERAN Moderator

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    :hug: Keeping you all in my prayers
     
  8. quasar4legs

    quasar4legs DIS Veteran

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    Oh, I am so sorry to hear this news.

    Please know that I am keeping you and your friend close to heart:grouphug:
     
  9. Southerngirl71

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    I am so sorry. Your friend is in my prayers.
     
  10. Tinks1984

    Tinks1984 <font color=red>We're having a mini party!<br><fon

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    It is with a sad and heavy heart that I call in to tell you my friend has passed on :sad1:

    I received a call from her Mom this morning to let me know she'd passed peacefully sleeping at 10am today. I am devastated.

    I will call back and let you all know how wonderful my friend was in a few days once I feel I can.

    Many thanks for your thoughts and prayers over the last few days, I know they'll have helped send her away safely and peacefully.

    Thank-you my Dis friends :hug:

    My Angel, Emma - sleeping tonight 1983-2011 :littleangel: I'll never forget....
     
  11. mommasita

    mommasita DIS VETERAN Moderator

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    Please accept my deepest sympathy :grouphug:
     
  12. quasar4legs

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    I am so sorry for your loss:grouphug:

    Quasar
     

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