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7 months pregnant and husband having an affair...what now?

Discussion in 'Community Board' started by TRK0011, Sep 27, 2012.

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  1. MariDisney

    MariDisney Queen of the World

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    OP, I don't know if I've posted on this thread previously, but I have been following along. I wanted to wish you safe travels and peace as you get settled in in Canada. I'm heartbroken that you have to go through all this when this should be one of the happiest times of your life. I hope you will have the opportunity to update us when you are settled.
     
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  3. Swank

    Swank Lurker for Life

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    Best of luck to you. Stay strong for your baby, and when you get to Canada your parents will help you stay strong. My family's prayers are with you and the baby, try not to worry about your husband, it was his choice he will have to live with the consequences.
     
  4. Disney  Doll

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    Stay strong OP!!!!!!! You can do it and will have a wonderful life that you never could have imagined having with this poor excuse for a man.

    May I also suggest that once you get to Canada and get a bit settled that perhaps some sessions with a counselor will help you sort through all this. It will also help you stay strong for the full court press to get you back that I suspect that your husband will do once the enormity of what he did hits him. Remember, right now it's the "thrill" of him thinking that he's such a stud that he has TWO women, Wait til he realizes he has one and she's a crazy teenager.:rotfl2: I love karma!

    Some counselling will help you be as mentally & physically strong as possible for this little one.
     
  5. Tuffcookie

    Tuffcookie Enjoys an early hour of peace. Is a smart cookie.

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    I'll add my :hug: too.

    Remember to count your blessings! You have wonderfully, supportive parents, you have a beautiful baby on the way...Sure life has thrown you a curve ball but you will be just fine!

    My ex was not at the hospital with me when my youngest was born (20 yrs ago)...It was me, my parents, and oldest DS. The ex had walked out on me when I was in my 7th month. (domestic violence)

    It was a bittersweet moment when I had youngest DS. I was thrilled to be having him but wondered what life held for me, as a single mom. I had a great support system and it sounds like you do too. I also learned how quickly the in-laws can turn on you so be careful when you talk to them!

    Please come back here when you get settled in and let us know how you're doing.

    TC :cool1:
     
  6. Goofierunner

    Goofierunner Mickey says, "Now get out there and run!"

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    You may want to think about putting a password on your laptop. There are also software programs to sniff out keystroke logger programs that may have been loaded. Depending on what browser you use there are ways to be online incognito.
     
  7. pumba

    pumba DIS PUMBARIZER Moderator

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    Yes ...we are all here for you when you are up to it...Just remember you and your babies health is top...
    You are so fortunate to be able to go home to your parents...They will take good care of you and your little one..

    Please remember to keep in touch with us..
    Hugs and safe travels
     
  8. Tuffcookie

    Tuffcookie Enjoys an early hour of peace. Is a smart cookie.

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    OP, I forgot to add one more thing.

    You might want to get a new cell phone with new number and your parents might want to do likewise so he won't be able to call you non stop when he realizes you are gone.

    TC :cool1:
     
  9. Ilivetogo

    Ilivetogo I really DO want to live there!

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    Ooooo ... I second that suggestion!!! :thumbsup2

    Also the one about staying away from the in-laws. I believe the PPs are correct in saying that blood is thicker.

    Still sending :hug: your way!!!


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  10. EMHDad

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    A cheap prepaid phone would work just fine. Its easy to get and doesn't have a calling plan.
     
  11. bettymae1121

    bettymae1121 sure. fine. whatever.

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    Ditto the phone suggestion. If he truely needs to reach you he can do so through your lawyer(s).

    Good luck! Oh and on the flight, be sure to get up and walk around, drink water and avoid salt. I know drinking is though since it makes you want to pee every other minute but you need the fluids when traveling. If the seat belt sign is on and you can't get up, do what you can to move and stretch your legs, you do NOT want DVT.
     
  12. mamamary

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    I have not commented yet but have been reading your postings. Just wanted to wish you luck with everything :hug:
     
  13. Eeyore'sthebest

    Eeyore'sthebest DIS Veteran<br><font color=darkorchid>Not So Tagle

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    Great advice!! Stay strong OP!!
     
  14. Steamboat Marti

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    Good luck - we're all with you!
     
  15. OhMari

    OhMari WDW PreTrip and Trip Moderator Moderator

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    ITA with everything you said and good luck to the OP.
    The unknown has to be hard, but you have received many great suggestions from others that have been through it.

    The reason I colored red "his CHILD' is because he still is the biological father of your child and is still your husband. You will have to deal with the situation. We all hope and pray for you.
     
  16. daemom

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    I've been following you too!! Stay safe!! ((hugs))
     
  17. DVCJones

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    Sending hugs out to you, OP!!!

    I am in awe of you and how strong you are!!!

    I was thinking about how you H has been acting. The selfish, self absorbed, hurtful, cheating, threatening to kill himself, lying, etc. And I have to say, he sounds like a narcissist. If you research this term, you will see how lucky you are to get away from him now!!! You will have saved yourself and your baby from a lifetime of hell.

    Also, given that this is an extremely emotion time AND your hormones are working overtime, PLEASE be sure to take care of yourself after the birth. Many women can suffer from postpartum depression. This is more likely given the emotional situation you are in. Then again, it might not happen... I only mention it as something to look out for. If it happens, please see your doctor! There are lots of things that can help.

    Thank you for the update. I will keep you in my prayers.

    Safe travels,
     
  18. DMickey28

    DMickey28 <font color=blue>DIS Veteran<br>Comes from a very

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    I've been following along and have you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  19. Bonnie40

    Bonnie40 <font color=red>Sweet tomatoes, yum<br><font color

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    Sounds like you have a solid plan.....I just hope you're back in Canada sooner rather than later. In the grand scheme of things, the baby clothes/etc is just stuff that can be replaced - your safety needs to be the most important thing here. Nobody wants you to become a statistic....stay safe!
     
  20. Promomx2

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    Just wanted to add my support and prayers to you OP and your baby.
     
  21. cbg1027

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    Have a safe flight for you and baby. We'll be here and eagerly awaiting the next set of news!
    :hug:
     
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