3 weeks out and I don't want to go now.

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  1. ruadisneyfan2

    ruadisneyfan2 DIS Veteran

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    I thought this too. My parents don't mind doing their own thing (and my inlaws as well) but they have each other. Personally, I wouldn't mind doing things by myself, and I have in the past, but not everyone would feel that way, esp a senior with hearing problems.

    OP, I would say don't change all your plans to suit your mother but I wouldn't abandon her 100% either. It's impossible to do everything in 1 cruise anyway. Heck, we've done 13, many were 7-nights, and still there's things we haven't gotten to.
    So don't feel that if your mom wasn't coming, you would see/do it all. There's never enough time.
     
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  3. violetmonarch

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    Thank you. I am looking forward to the escape and maybe a chance to relax a bit. :cool2:

    Thank you. I understand that, of course you love them but when you have your own family, the extended family feels the need to be included, too. I am a single mom, so I think that my mother just has a really hard time seeing me as the head of my own family....not as her as the head of the family. Perhaps an attempt for control? Surely! Still, she's my mom...

    Thank you. I agree that she CAN fend for herself, but at the same time she is like a kid that needs to have things explained to her, and she really has no sense of having a "filter" at times. On top of being hard of hearing...well you can imagine how it can be to communicate with her. As much as I try to help her, well it ends up just being ignored. I like to research things and to learn before I make a decision....she chooses to remain ignorant to things, yet wants to complain that no one showed her (when in reality, I have...many times). She like to complain and can be very judgmental, whereas I tend to never really complain' takes a lot for me to loose my cool. :mad: This thread was started because I was at THAT point where you just feel like you wanna explode :furious:...I needed some feedback to talk me off the ledge, so to speak. And, in fact, that is what you all have done for me.
    Two weeks and two days...we shall see what unfolds! :goodvibes
     
  4. ruadisneyfan2

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    Be sure to let us know how it goes. :goodvibes :thumbsup2 :grouphug:

    Sending some pixie dust your way! pixiedust:
     
  5. violetmonarch

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    Thanks!!! I need all that I can get, LOL! :thumbsup2
    Today I am going to do the dreaded "two-weeks-till-I-leave-need-to-re-pack-everything-and-finalize-clothes-etc" chore. :headache:
    I cut back on a lot of the clothes for the kids and I, but I was still hoping to get all of it into one bag...not gonna happen. :sad2: Maybe I need to invest in some proper luggage? :confused3 I am bringing a considerable amount of food items for FE gifts, for CMs, and for us to have to avoid the added expense, as well as a bottle of champagne. Ideally I wanted to take one bag that could be checked and another that I can carry on. I hate taking too much because I have a stroller to take as well. My mother doesn't see my point in reducing but then again she is packing for one, not three.
    I still have no idea if I have to check the stroller or haul that on myself :confused:
    Well, I did intend on letting my DS go to kids club but I am having a little nervousness about that too since my son is not 100% potty trained...and if there are too many bigger kids there I am afraid he might get hurt or lost in the shuffle. We shall see what happens there ;)
    Thank you again!
     
  6. ruadisneyfan2

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    I believe you can gate check the stroller. We are a family of 4 and it's hard to pack light. You have a choice. Either pack heavy, have a lot to lug & pay the baggage fees or pack light and do laundry while on the ship. Neither is very fun. It's a matter of how anti-"doing laundry on vacation" you are. I always do a least 3-4 loads for a week long cruise.
     
  7. violetmonarch

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    We are good about taking as little as possible wherever we go, and I really don't mind doing laundry...I guess I just wish I had a better suitcase. I am going to use space bags tonight to see if that helps.
     
  8. bumbershoot

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    If that's increasing, could she be having memory problems? My MIL, who is not the nicest person in the universe, has gotten even worse about this after having a series of strokes at the end of the summer/early fall. And if things come from me in particular, she pretends to hear and understand and trust, and immediately acts like I'm lying, or didn't say it, or was wrong, as soon as I'm gone. (she was supposed to go on our own upcoming cruise, but her doctor won't "let" her now...and I do have to say I'm a tad bit relieved)


    Space bags can make your clothes fit, but can make them WAY too heavy. And, of course, be sure to use the ones that roll up, rather than need a vacuum. The roll-up ones, in my experience, don't work very well, though.

    Costco has luggage; we are fans of the Ful wheeled bags they have.
     
  9. TLSnell1981

    TLSnell1981 Tiny bubbles... make me happy... make me feel fine

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    We've had great luck with space bags and use them for every trip. I mostly use small and medium sized bags to separate the clothing, according to use. Different bags for the park, cruise...even cities. I've never has a problem with the weight.
     
  10. violetmonarch

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    Thank you. No, she can remember...it's just that she is very very stubborn and she has a pride issue regarding her hearing loss. More like a denial. She will yell at someone for not knowing she is HOH, but then again if I repeat what another person says to her because she didn't hear, she gets insulted. Rock...me...hard place. :crowded: When her hearing aid went kaput, it was like an excuse to not ever get it fixed or wear it or even try to help herself. The times that she has come shopping with me, I have to split at the checkout because it can get bad. :wave2: She doesn't feel the need to help herself...kinda heartbreaking for me to witness.
    I have a lot of Space Bags...I found them for a steal and since I have limited storage, it's been saving me.:thumbsup2 When it comes to large items like luggage, I try to barter with others and my current bag was a present. My DD rolling bag was free. Yup, my middle name is frugal! ::yes::


    Thank you. Aren't they great?! :thumbsup2
     
  11. linmarie12

    linmarie12 Earning My Ears

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    U just need to have a serious conversation with her. I'm sure shell understand.
     
  12. erinsmom03

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    Try TJ Maxx if there's one near you for good bargains on luggage. I never would have thought of going there, but I see their deals when I go in, have stored it away for future luggage needs!
     
  13. violetmonarch

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    Thanks, good idea..I haven't been there in forever.
     
  14. ruadisneyfan2

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    I like to buy luggage at Kohls when they have their 1/2 off sale and I have a 30% off coupon.

    We bought our moms great Samsonite rolling garment bags for mother's day 2 years ago. Reg price $300. sale price $150. after coupon $105. Since Kohls allows 2 coupon codes, we found a free shipping code too. I prefer to buy online cuz the ones in the store look like they've been dragged around and are often missing the accessories that should come with it.
     
  15. violetmonarch

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    You sound just like me!! People don't believe that I do nothing without a coupon or some kind of deep savings. Boy, are they missing out! :rotfl:
     
  16. ruadisneyfan2

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    I like to buy luggage at Kohls when they have their 1/2 off sale and I have a 30% off coupon.

    We bought our moms great Samsonite rolling garment bags for mother's day 2 years ago. Reg price $300. sale price $150. after coupon $105. Since Kohls.com allows 2 coupon codes, we found a free shipping code too. I prefer to buy online cuz the ones in the store look like they've been dragged around and are often missing the accessories that should come with it.

    I currently have a 30% off code: LOVE2SHOP
    good through 1/21/13.
     
  17. ruadisneyfan2

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    How weird! It reposted me after your reply. :rotfl2:


    Yes, it just pains me to pay full price for anything.:thumbsup2

    You mentioned you need a camera too. I would spend the $ on that before buying new luggage. You can get by with minimal/makeshift luggage but childhood is so brief. You will miss these days and a million pictures just won't be enough. :sad1:
     
  18. violetmonarch

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    Totally forgot to tell you all!!! A great friend of mine is going to let me borrow her waterproof, shockproof (and hopefully me-proof) camera :woohoo:
     
  19. violetmonarch

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    I got my mother to understand (I hope) that this trip is not about just her, but that we have a choice to make good memories with our time together or we can regret ever going at all. I told her that we have to share the space and that something she had to go at alone. Sigh, I feel better. ;)
     
  20. Dizzyworld

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    Have a wonderful cruise!
     
  21. violetmonarch

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    Thanks! Definitely will try my best :thumbsup2
     

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