Thank you all so much for your advice and also for caring enough to even offer any. I really appreciate the encouragement. True, that this has been a difficult relationship...we were not close at all for about 23 years. I had to try to forgive her for things she allowed to happen for my own sake, not for her. Unfortunately, she has still not understood the gravity of what was done, and that she has to change her behaviour if she wants to really have a relationship with me and my kids now and in the future. I have been letting it go so that I don't have the problem of letting it get me upset, but this event really was the last time that I could turn a blind eye. Perhaps I need to take another break from her again...all the stress just makes my medical conditions worse. I have decided that I am going to go on this trip and be the bigger person (yet again) and allow her to join us. The only time I really expect to encounter her is in the room to sleep, at MDR (maybe) and on the excursion, if she goes. I have told her this, and she is still mad at me...but that is nothing new. Hopefully, some time apart will make her realize that she is throwing away her flesh and blood by holding tight to her pride. Pride can't help you when you are sick, can't cook for you, can't make conversation, or comfort you. I hope that I have good things to report in the future...and please PM me if you'd like to see any pics on my FB page, post-cruise. Thank you all again for being part advisers and part counselors, lol.