Start by reading easywdw.com. Find out the best days for each park. Then decide which nighttime shows you want to see. Then assign parks to each day. Then go after FP+ and then do dinning reservations. I would recommend one TS dinner at Epcot. Give the most weight to preferred days for MK as it has the most rides.
Also read the Unofficial guide to WDW and use the code in the book to access touringplans.com. This is a bit more time consuming but is also worth it. In particular the planning of the MK days can be very dialed in if you spend a few days using the site.
Both easywdw and touringplans have touring plans. The one park that needs a touring plan the most is MK
For night shows MSEP is a must in my book. Perhaps the MK Wishes fireworks. Illuminations would be a must in my book for someone who has never done it. F! might be a pass as you have seen the DLR version. However for me I like both. In AK there will be the new ROL show.
Decide which rides you want to ride and which you want to skip.
For me I skip Dinosaur in AK, Mission Space Orange in Epcot. I just don't enjoy the rides. I also skip almost all of future land in Epcot except for SOARIN and TT. It is basically an out of date science fair??? Others may disagree.
Do see living with the land in Epcot.
I would for sure do TOT at DHS as it is better then the DLR version. I would also do Kali River Rapids (note you may want a change of clothes or very quick dry (non-white) clothes. At this time of year there is no shame in using a poncho.
You might consider skipping SOARIN in EPCOT and TSMM in DHS. Doing so can greatly simplify touring plans. However if they do fit in there is no reason to miss them...
Decide on coasters. If you ride SCREAMIN and HSM at DLR then you should also ride RNR coaster in DHS and EE in AK.
FP+ strategies for the parks vary and AK will change with the new ROL show (perhaps sort of like the WOC show in DLR)
Basically one possible MK FP+ strategy:
Rope drop every day and FP+ starting at the two hour mark. Use the phone app to move FP+ times up as you board the first FP+ attraction. Go for 6-7 or more FP+ Ride other rides outside of FP+. this is a great park for evening EMH if it is offered. Tune these days in touringplans.com to reduce the amount of walking and waiting in line and increase the amount of time on rides.
EPCOT:
Rope drop with FP+ for TT (as you have never ridden it) and hit SOARIN first then use FP+ for TT. If you don't care about SOARIN you can arrive at the park at any time with a FP+ for TT. Learn the loaction of SOARIN as it does not have an exterior building like DLR.
AK:
Currently no FP+ is needed except for perhaps Kali in the afternoon. However since you are going during the winter you will not likely need FP+. With ROL this may all change. However currently it is possible to rope drop AK without FP+ and then leave for another park with a FP+ for that park in hand.
DHS:
Not a lot of rides here. However FP+ TSMM if you want to ride.
One possibility is:
2 Days MK
1 Day Epcot
1 Day DHS
1 Day AK
However you have hoppers...
You could
1.5 days MK
1.5 Days Epcot
1 Day DHS
1 Day AK
or
1.5 days MK
1.5 days Epcot
DHS hoping to AK
AK hopping to DHS.
There are many other choices.
I would spend one full non-hopping day in MK
I would hop only once a day
and I would not hop every day.
AN exception might be Rope Drop Epcot with SOARIN FP. Ride TT in single rider line and use FP+ for SOARIN before leaving for DHS and then hopping to MK for night and late night EMH. I would hop a second time for evening EMH. Try not to hop for meal reservations. Eat in the park you are at.
Also read this excellent guide:
http://www.disboards.com/threads/a-dlr-guide-for-wdw-vets.1162599/
