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Old 01-06-2006, 12:32 PM   #1
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Have you ever experienced anything neg at WDW?

A number of my friends have asked me how Joe and I can go to WDW all the time when it's "clearly for traditional families only." Some have even considered that the both of us have gotten "looks" or any kind of problems.

Well, I'm happy to say in all the trips we've made to Disney, we've never experienced a single situation that might make us uncomfortable or unwanted. Cast members and fellow guests alike have always been great. Granted, they might not know that Joe and I are in fact a couple, but I imagine most do. And if anyone did have any ill will, they kept it to themselves.

We've never received so much as a glance or whisper, let alone anything untoward of any kind. I'm constantly trying to convey how great WDW is for a vacation destination choice for families of all types. I truly believe it is!

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Old 01-06-2006, 12:35 PM   #2
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Last September my BF and I spent nine days at WDW and did not encounter any problems at all. Every cast member we encountered was friendly and welcoming and we noted that there are many gay/lesbian cast members at WDW. The guests were perfectly pleasant too.
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Old 01-06-2006, 01:27 PM   #3
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No problems at all, ever at WDW.

At Disneyland we had an incident where in fact we were made to feel more welcome. It was a busy day and we were in a very long queue for Gadget's Go Coaster. We were about halfway through when a male cast member on the ride platform started shouting "Sir" "Sir" and pointing in our area.

We suddenly realized that he was pointing at my partner. When he got my partner's attention, he pointed at his neck and said "Glad to see the colors on display at Disneyland" and then gave a big thumbs up. We then realized that my partner was wearing his pride rings necklace and the CM had noticed us out in the crowd and wanted to give us a special howdy.
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Old 01-06-2006, 03:27 PM   #4
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Actually, Joe had to remind me of one moment two years ago while checking in that a cast member made a little joke about not putting us in a room with a king size bed. Apparently she thought we were buddies just traveling together. I tried to make light of the situation and assured her that request was indeed valid. I laughed but did feel a little burn of embarrassment. Certainly not enough to make me think poorly of the girl, nor enough to insult us in any way.
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Old 01-06-2006, 04:22 PM   #5
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On our last trip this past Christmas I noticed a rainbow Mickey Icon pin. Needless to say I bought 4 of them....2 for us and 2 for another WDW loving lesbian couple that we are good friends with. Lisa and I wore ours around all week and got nothing but positive comments on them from CM's and guests alike. I complimented a woman on a hat she was wearing and she winked at me and replied..."nice pin!" The pin started many conversations with CM's and helped identify us as a couple.....which is a nice treat in WDW.

As ofr other times, we have never experienced anything negative. Granted, we only occasionally hold hands and almost never engage in other public displays of affection, but it is usually clearly evident that we are a couple. Interestingly enough though, we do occasionally get mistaken for sisters or twins....we do look a bit alike. At any rate, WDW is one of our favorite places and we do feel comfortable being ourselves.

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Old 01-06-2006, 04:30 PM   #6
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We've never had any problems either. All the cast members are so friendly and the guests are always too much in a world of their own to probably notice us anyway.

A little OT, the only time I ever felt uncomfortable was when we were at Innoventions in Epcot waiting to play some sort of escape-the-housefire game and an unattended 12ish year old boy kept talking to us. Seriously, even though we didn't pursue any conversation with him, he wouldn't stop telling us everything from how many times he'd been through the game to what he wanted to be when he grew up. I kept waiting for his parents/guardians to show up and yank him away thinking god-knows-what WE were trying to do to him. Fortunately for us, unfortunately for him, they never did. Even though he was incredibly annoying, I felt really bad for the kid. It seemed as if his parents didn't care about him at all.
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Old 01-06-2006, 04:36 PM   #7
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My partner and I have been going to both DL and WDW regularly since I first dragged him there in 1977, and in all those trips, I can only recall one occasion where we heard a negative comment. We were staying at POR, waiting at the bus stop to head to the MK, when a family walked by and the mother made some comment about "Why do THOSE people have to come here and ruin it for everyone?" Before we could even process it, this very prim and proper looking 70-ish year old woman sitting next to us on the park bench told her, "You'd better get used to it, because we're EVERYWHERE!" It shut the woman up, and we had a nice conversation with the woman, who was a retired schoolteacher there with her partner. We have had many friendly comments from cast members, all of whom seem to be able to tell that we are a couple...
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Old 01-06-2006, 08:21 PM   #8
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I've been to WDW about 8x's w/ my partner, and we also went on the cruise together. The cruise was the best. Neither of us are flamboyant or anything but it's still easy to tell we are a couple when we are together (I think it has something to do w/ being together for 9 yrs) and especially in a setting like on the ship but everyone was great and treated us like it was the norm.

In the parks... I never worry about the cast since so many of them are "family" anyway, and can't say any of the guest has done or said anything that made us feel uncomfortable. Once though, on the WTP ride, when we where getting into the honey pot, one guy did saying something like "No making out in the dark now," but honestly I couldn't tell by the expression on his face or the tone of his voice if he was being silly, just giving a sign that he knew, or if it was some kind of insult. We decided not to worry about it and enjoy the ride (and snuck a quick kiss along the way. ).

Of course now I hope I don't jinx anything cuz we are taking another gay couple w/ us on our trip this year!

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Old 01-06-2006, 09:01 PM   #9
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yes once unfortunately. Though once out of all the time we've spent there is no big deal. It was Dec 98 and we were excited about trying Citricos before MVMCP - we had a horrible waitress who just couldn't understand why we had the gaul to be seen in public We're not ugly or anything... Anyway we had the worst service ever in all the years we've gone to WDW. Fortunately it didn't really bother us enough to affect our trip, but we never went back to Citricos.
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Old 01-06-2006, 09:20 PM   #10
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nope,no problems at all

We've always been treated with respect.
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Old 01-06-2006, 09:21 PM   #11
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We've never experienced anything negative. A few weeks ago before our last trip I decided to pop for DDE. I was so pleasantly surprised went the CM on the other end of the phone said, "And would you like a card for your wife or partner?" We have have always had great service and readily treated as a couple (which we are).
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Old 01-06-2006, 09:40 PM   #12
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Nope, never. We've been at least 20 times and have had nothing but positive experiences with CMs and guests.

This probably has nothing to do with us being a couple, but it gave us pause... My partner saw a kid playing in the jumping fountains in front of JIYI. The little guy was leaning back and taking the water on the forehead, laughing and squealing.

She couldn't resist and snapped few pictures of the splash. A few minutes later a man approached and said, "were you taking pictures of my kid?". Uh-oh. He pulled out a business card and said if "it turns out, I'd like a copy." He was in a government position in Montreal. What a relief. We sent several pictures.

A charachter wrangler CM at Rafiki's Planet Watch struck up a conversation (we were waiting for Stanley and Dennis). She asked if we were together. I asked how it was working for the mouse. This was late 2004 and she talked about the help Disney gave her and her partner after their home was damaged by two of the hurricanes.

There's a particular waitress we always hope to get at Kona. She and her partner both work for Disney. She has oodles of vacation and spends a lot of time on their boat in Marathon.

I chatted at the pool for quite a while with a lesbian engineering CM at Pop. We talked about decorating our houses for Christmas. Normal, boring, ordinary conversations. Probably because we're normal, boring, ordinary people ; )

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Old 01-06-2006, 10:08 PM   #13
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One of my all time favorite WDW moments came as my youngest sister and I were waiting to watch Tapestry several years ago. We struck up a conversation with 2 men and this adorable 4 year old from China. Her Daddies couldn't have been prouder of her and after the parade they each took one of her hands and walked away. It was such a wonderful family moment.....one I will never forget. Her name was Amelia and when I asked her where she was from, meaning where did she live, she looked at me with this strange expression on her face and said "China!" like I was the stupidest thing on the planet. We all had a good laugh over that one. Their faces just lit up when my sister and I complemented them on their daughter.

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Old 01-07-2006, 01:38 PM   #14
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I have a question along this theme but a little different. My ds(9) and I were on a Carnival cruise and there were two gentleman, obviously together with a baby. We have openly discussed homosexuality and truly believe all people to be equal.

After our cruise we spent the afternoon in WDW waiting for our flight and saw the same couple. As we are walking by, my ds is saying..."okay I get they are gay and together and that is no problem....but how did they get the baby?"

I laughed because it was funny, explained to him the ways that it could have come about and on we went. I just gave them a sheepish smile as I am sure they heard. While it was all very innocent, I often think about them and if we some how offended. It certainly wasn't our intention.
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Old 01-08-2006, 02:49 PM   #15
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I laughed because it was funny, explained to him the ways that it could have come about and on we went. I just gave them a sheepish smile as I am sure they heard. While it was all very innocent, I often think about them and if we some how offended. It certainly wasn't our intention.
I doubt you offended them. They probably or hopefully thought it was cute!
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