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Old 07-18-2013, 06:56 PM   #16
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sounds like a fun woman....

to answer your question- i've never seen a server, stateroom host, etc ask for a tip- then again that's cause everyone hands over the envelopes with at least a tip ticket in it....it'll be real fun to know what happens the last morning if they go to their main dining room for breakfast!!!

you know what i hope happens to this woman who's already decided she's "not going to tip"? i hope she doesn't notice the tip expense on her room bill until she's walked off the ship....keep us posted...
I like this. I wish OP had not told this woman that tips are auto added.
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Old 07-18-2013, 06:58 PM   #17
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Maybe you shouldn't have told her the tip would be automatically charged to her account and maybe somehow it would have slipped by her.
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:00 PM   #18
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Do they come out and ask for the tips if you don't hand them over?

That was not our experience, no. Especially since they get the tips anyway, even without the envelope (which basically contains a paper saying "I've tipped you this much").


OP, you need to put this in writing for her and make a copy. It's an interesting thing, that she forgets things when she's wrong, but somehow this doesn't damage her work.

In the future, just don't do it. Ask your husband to stop volunteering your services.
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:01 PM   #19
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Well, if she makes an excuse for giving you grief after her cruise, I suggest you tell her that she is so very lucky that your husband pays her enough that she can afford a Disney cruise in the first place and that you think it is a poor reflection on her moral character that she would deliberately stiff hard working people like the Disney CMs, particularly with the generous salary you know she gets.

It's a poor judge of character who ticks off their boss' wife!
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:23 PM   #20
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Honestly, the woman sounds like a miserable human being. She spews misery so misery is what she'll get. Funny how life has a way of working that way. Karma is the great equalizer. If she sees fit to criticize after she gets back just tell her Disney isn't everyone's cup of tea; just because it's not hers doesn't mean it's not yours. She's free to "waste" her money on any other vacation she'd like to go on but she's not likely to enjoy that either. I'd be sure to tell her that last part about she won't enjoy the other destinations either. If she makes excuses for you to come by the office so she can give you an earful about her awful cruise then you should always have reasons you can't go. Eventually she'll get the point that you don't wish to talk to her. And, totally agree with a previous poster, definitely tell the husband NOT to have her ask you anymore Disney travel stuff. Yikes! Who needs that kind of stress in their lives??? Definitely makes ya feel all warm-n-fuzzy for your fellow cruisers who actually want to be on the cruise with ya, huh?

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Old 07-18-2013, 07:37 PM   #21
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That was not our experience, no. Especially since they get the tips anyway, even without the envelope (which basically contains a paper saying "I've tipped you this much").


OP, you need to put this in writing for her and make a copy. It's an interesting thing, that she forgets things when she's wrong, but somehow this doesn't damage her work.

In the future, just don't do it. Ask your husband to stop volunteering your services.
He says I get too uptight about stuff. He doesn't let stuff bother him and never takes her seriously, so he thinks its funny when she irritates me. Unfortunately I can't ignore her forever since I occasionally need to stop by every once in a while.
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Well, if she makes an excuse for giving you grief after her cruise, I suggest you tell her that she is so very lucky that your husband pays her enough that she can afford a Disney cruise in the first place and that you think it is a poor reflection on her moral character that she would deliberately stiff hard working people like the Disney CMs, particularly with the generous salary you know she gets.

It's a poor judge of character who ticks off their boss' wife!
He doesn't pay her salary, the company they work for does. He interviewed her and approved her but all hiring/firing has to go through HR. He can't just say, "She bothers my wife, get rid of her." There has to be a just cause for HR to fire her. It is a very big well-known company with a lot of politics and red tape. She actually does a really good job keeping his crazy schedule straight, making sure he is where he needs to be, keeping him organized, doing all of his reports, etc. She is a wonderful secretary, just a little too opinionated if you ask me. She worked there for almost a year before I met her. DH notices she acts different when I'm around, almost like there is a competition for his attention? I think she goes out of her way to show him I'm wrong and she knows best. She doesn't do it to the other people in the office that I've asked. I can deal with it, especially when I can vent about it online. He thinks its funny and teases me about it if I let him know I'm bothered.


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I like this. I wish OP had not told this woman that tips are auto added.
I know! What was I thinking?
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:37 PM   #22
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I feel sorry for the miserable woman's family. Poor kids (and HUSBAND.)
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:43 PM   #23
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Does your husband work for a law/accounting/finance firm where he shares a secretary and the company keeps these horrible secretaries around forever for fear of lawsuits? It just sounds like so many secretaries I used to know
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:52 PM   #24
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Don't you have to sign up to prepay gratuities?
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:54 PM   #25
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... He just treats her like the lady that keeps him organized and doesn't really care what she says to him. ...
It doesn't sound like this lady is very organized IMO. Her time & money management skills aren't good either.
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Old 07-18-2013, 07:55 PM   #26
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Don't you have to sign up to prepay gratuities?
You're asking about something a little different.

Gratuities are automatically added to your onboard account, unless you pre-pay them. "Pre-paid" gratuities means that the amount was charged and paid for as part of your cruise fare. Otherwise, the charge will happen at the end of the cruise, and is settled (paid for) with all your other onboard charges.
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It doesn't sound like this lady is very organized IMO. Her time & money management skills aren't good either.
At the minimum for sure.
I feel sorry for her room host or hostess, as well as, her serving team in the MDR's. Some how I think this woman will run them ragged & then turnaround and stiff them on the their tip.
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You're asking about something a little different.

Gratuities are automatically added to your onboard account, unless you pre-pay them. "Pre-paid" gratuities means that the amount was charged and paid for as part of your cruise fare. Otherwise, the charge will happen at the end of the cruise, and is settled (paid for) with all your other onboard charges.
Is this easy to do? We pay our cruise with our Disney Visa for the 6 MO no interest, so deferring the tips part as well (and getting points) would be a win-win in my book!

OP- just ignore the nasty woman! She sounds jealous!

We also like handing out the envelopes the last night. We write little thank you notes to the servers, and make sure DS signs them too! He loves being the big man to hand them out with the extra cash for their hard work!
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Is this easy to do? We pay our cruise with our Disney Visa for the 6 MO no interest, so deferring the tips part as well (and getting points) would be a win-win in my book!

OP- just ignore the nasty woman! She sounds jealous!

We also like handing out the envelopes the last night. We write little thank you notes to the servers, and make sure DS signs them too! He loves being the big man to hand them out with the extra cash for their hard work!
Just call DCL (or have your TA do it, if you used one) and tell them you want to pre-pay the tips.
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She does not believe in tipping. She is anti tipping because society should not obligate you into giving extra money that is not a direct charge for service. If we are obligated, then "gratuities" should be renamed as "mandatories." Her words, not mine! ... I let her know the gratuities are automatically charged to their onboard account and that she would have to go to Guest Services to have them removed. She was more than ok with that. Knowing her, she'll have quite an attitude when she asks for them to be removed too.
So glad I kept reading your post, because you took the words right out of my mouth.

We've had two types of Head Servers aboard our 8 previous cruises, well three types actually.
  • Type 1 greets you at the entrance and you never see him / her again until the final night in the dining room. They get the suggested tip, no more.
  • Type 2 greets you at the entrance, stops by your table throughout the week to see how things are going and bids you farewell on the last night. They get the suggested tip plus a little something 'extra'.
  • Type 3 is our favorite type of Head Server and we've had them on 2 different occasions. These are the men and women who make sure you have a Magical cruise.
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