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Old 07-17-2013, 07:20 PM   #1
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Have you ever viewed a cremation?

Just read this article that says Cory Monteith's father is mad that he wasn't invited to the cremation. I'm not sure what their family problems are and I don't really care. I just can't get over the idea that people view the cremation. I know quite a few people who have been cremated including my own father and I never thought about watching it. Is this a common thing?

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/entertai...-to-cremation/
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:24 PM   #2
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The article I read talked about the final viewing not actually watching the cremation.
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:27 PM   #3
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I don't think people watch the actual process.
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The article I read talked about the final viewing not actually watching the cremation.
The article I posted says he was mad he wasn't "invited to the cremation." Maybe they just worded the article inappropriately?
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:30 PM   #5
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Umm...I don't know, but a crematorium in Cincinnati advertises that they have a cremation viewing area. I just assumed that was for people who wanted to watch the box actually go into the furnace Ick!!!

I want to be cremated but I don't need an audience!
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:31 PM   #6
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Omg I HOPE it was the memorial and not the cremation!! I think it would be too heartbreakingly sad (not to mention nightmare-inducing!) to watch your loved one being cremated!!
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:31 PM   #7
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Just read this article that says Cory Monteith's father is mad that he wasn't invited to the cremation. I'm not sure what their family problems are and I don't really care. I just can't get over the idea that people view the cremation. I know quite a few people who have been cremated including my own father and I never thought about watching it. Is this a common thing?

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/entertai...-to-cremation/
I spent a year interning as a funeral director. One can't exactly "view" a cremation as the process takes place inside a small combustion chamber called a retort and takes about 6 hours. In some cultures though it is a very common ritual to have a family member "load" the casket into the retort and push the igniter switch. In a modern context it's the equivalent of lighting the pyre.

Now in our area families wanting this ceremony frequent certain funeral homes that have the proper environment set up to accommodate such needs. In many other funeral homes the retorts will be in a dank basement or sometimes off-site altogether in an industrial area depending on zoning laws. I'm not sure where this cremation took place but it certainly would not be a routine part of a western funeral to have a witnessed cremation. However, if the family brought it up beforehand as an expectation I'm sure the provider would have tried to accommodate them.
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:32 PM   #8
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Everyone I know that has been cremated was in a special casket for cremation. It wasn't like TV where they dump the body on a metal slab and slide them into the flames while you watch. I can't imagine them letting loved ones watch the cremation. Too much risk of someone freaking out and doing something stupid and getting hurt.

And the articles I've read said nothing about them viewing the cremation, just a final viewing BEFORE the cremation.
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Probably is the last viewing as others have mentioned. Most funeral homes let the family see the body one final time before putting in for cremation. I would equate it to not being invited to the family only viewing before a funeral.
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The article I posted says he was mad he wasn't "invited to the cremation." Maybe they just worded the article inappropriately?
After reading it, I'm sure you're right...what a weird way to talk about a funeral!! And for the record, Vancouver (where the funeral was held) has an absolutely humongous Sikh population and their faith requires the ritual I mentioned above. There would have been tons of funeral homes that could have accommodated a witnessed cremation if desired by the family.
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The TV Guide article I read said his mom, brother, and Lea viewed the body at the hospital before the cremation and that his father was not aware he was being cremated. He was upset he didn't get to see him before the cremation.
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Old 07-17-2013, 08:31 PM   #12
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I accept that people process the loss of a loved one in their own way but I can not imagine wanting to witness that. It would cause me much, much more grief than any comfort.
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Old 07-17-2013, 09:24 PM   #13
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I dunno - I don't think it's any more morbid the watching a casket lowered into a grave.

My little brother passed away suddenly last year and I saw him one last time before he was cremated. I'm sure they put the body in some sort of box? Had I been offered or known about an opportunity to be there right before or during ( probably not viewing) I would have.
He had a heart attack all alone and was alone for 3 days - his best friend and I found him. To be able to be with him until the very end - I don't know how to put into words - with his earthly body -so he wouldn't be alone . . . .
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Umm...I don't know, but a crematorium in Cincinnati advertises that they have a cremation viewing area. I just assumed that was for people who wanted to watch the box actually go into the furnace Ick!!!

I want to be cremated but I don't need an audience!
There's a funeral home in our area that has that as well. It's just in the area where the casket/box is pushed in to the retort. You're not able to view the actual combustion taking place.
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My sister has. It was for a child who passed away. His family are Hindu, after the service/viewing at the funeral home they invited people to stay and watch the cremation.
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