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Old 04-27-2013, 09:39 PM   #1
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Why don't people RSVP to parties anymore?

Are they so busy that they can't take a minute out of their day to do so? Today we celebrated my DD's 7th birthday at the clubhouse down the street. All her classmates live in the same neighborhood. Out of 25 kids in her class, only 7 came. Only two parents called me, I had to email the rest. It just seems like not many kids go to parties nowadays. I've seen that at parties my DD goes to.
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Old 04-27-2013, 09:41 PM   #2
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I hate when people tell you let them know for "regrets only" , Im not gonna call you and tell you im not coming, in fact im gonna hide from you until party is over
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Old 04-27-2013, 09:44 PM   #3
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I'm the type who responds right away, but then I place the envelope on the table, and it never gets mailed. I do apologize, I'm one of those people.

I think most people are afraid to RSVP, because they are waiting for a "better" offer, then if nothing comes up, it's like well, we could always go to so and so's party.
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Old 04-27-2013, 09:52 PM   #4
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We sweated out a couple parties like that when our boys were little. Too much stress not knowing if anyone would show since they didn't RSVP. Once other parents got to know us, we started having parties with only a handful of friends. We invited those close friends, then offered to swing by and pick the kids up ourselves. It was really the only way to be sure they'd be there.
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Old 04-27-2013, 09:57 PM   #5
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Not responding is rude, theres no excuse really.....everyone is busy and its just not a priority to them so they forgo the call/rsvp....

I hope your daughter enjoyed her Birthday celebration.....
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Old 04-27-2013, 09:59 PM   #6
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What I put on invites...

I no longer put RSVP because I got nothing. I now say, or my DD says on her invitations - Please respond EITHER way to ________. We get responses now.

Good luck!
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Old 04-27-2013, 10:00 PM   #7
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It's a pet peeve of mine. It's very difficult when you are the one trying to do all the planning. There's a big difference between 5 people showing up and 30, especially on your pocketbook!

Plus, nowadays, most people put emails for RSVPs so it takes two seconds.
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Old 04-27-2013, 10:07 PM   #8
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It's a pet peeve of mine. It's very difficult when you are the one trying to do all the planning. There's a big difference between 5 people showing up and 30, especially on your pocketbook!

Plus, nowadays, most people put emails for RSVPs so it takes two seconds.
I like responding to email or text RSVP's. Half the time when I call I don't get an answer so I don't know if they received my message or not. If we email or text then its almost an immediate response.
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Old 04-27-2013, 10:12 PM   #9
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We sweated out a couple parties like that when our boys were little. Too much stress not knowing if anyone would show since they didn't RSVP. Once other parents got to know us, we started having parties with only a handful of friends. We invited those close friends, then offered to swing by and pick the kids up ourselves. It was really the only way to be sure they'd be there.
The bolded is what we've done for a couple of DDs parties. Her bday is right before Christmas, so I get that people are busy. I ask people to call, text or email. Most every young parent I know today can easily do that from their phone.
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I hate when people tell you let them know for "regrets only" , Im not gonna call you and tell you im not coming, in fact im gonna hide from you until party is over
Why? This is just rude.
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Old 04-28-2013, 12:46 AM   #11
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Old 04-28-2013, 06:02 AM   #12
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Are they so busy that they can't take a minute out of their day to do so? Today we celebrated my DD's 7th birthday at the clubhouse down the street. All her classmates live in the same neighborhood. Out of 25 kids in her class, only 7 came. Only two parents called me, I had to email the rest. It just seems like not many kids go to parties nowadays. I've seen that at parties my DD goes to.
There isn't any excuse for bad manners but next time you might want to include your email address and cell phone in the invite. That way people can email or text you. Some people just don't want to make a call to someone they don't know not that I'm excusing anyone.

Also, you might think about doing an evite instead of paper invitations.

I personally never had problems with RSVPs to my DD's parties but we always kept them small and just included close friends so that's probably the difference.

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Old 04-28-2013, 06:35 AM   #13
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ugh, huge pet peeve of mine too! It's totally rude to not bother to respond. I don't care either way if someone can't come, but just let me know so I can plan for food etc. I had a party for DD's confirmation last week. I sent invites via Evite. One SIL read the evite, but never bothered to respond. I asked MIL the day of the party if she was coming or not and SIL had told her she couldnt due to blah,blah blah etc. I mean really?? It couldnt be any easier to respond especially using something like Evite! Just click "no" and it's done! So rude.
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It is SO rude not to at least call and say you are not coming when you get an invite. Luckily my daughters birthday was right around open school night so I would send the invites out with and RSVP date of open school night and then if I did not hear by then I would just ask them at open school night "oh by the way is Sally going to be able to come to my daughters party" LOL.
My daughters friend has a birthday near Christmas and I think she has been able to make one of those parties in all the years. We are really busy every weekend from Thanksgiving until Christmas with charity work we both do so basically every invite in that time is an automatic "no" but we do call and let them know. Its just to crazy during the holidays for us to throw a birthday party in there too.
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Old 04-28-2013, 07:37 AM   #15
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Are they so busy that they can't take a minute out of their day to do so? Today we celebrated my DD's 7th birthday at the clubhouse down the street. All her classmates live in the same neighborhood. Out of 25 kids in her class, only 7 came. Only two parents called me, I had to email the rest. It just seems like not many kids go to parties nowadays. I've seen that at parties my DD goes to.
Do YOU actually know all 25 kids and their parents? I am sorry...and I understand completely the *rule* that invite going thru school HAS to go to the whole class. BUT.. If I do not know YOU and I do not know YOUR child, while rude...it is not on the top of my list to RSVP. My kids are Middle School, High School and College now...but even when they were much younger I felt the same.

As with everyone.. we are all busy...I get an invite from the kids backpack...sometimes a few days AFTER they got it, because I was never a Mom who searched the backpacks everyday.

We look at the invite, I ask who is this kid? My kid responds back with some kid in my class. Oh, OK I say and then I think to myself let me check the calendar to see if I can make this work...Well, guess what. It goes in my brain.. out the brain and I completely forget.. why... because I do not know you and it just is not important to me.

Yes, rude..but I am just trying to explain at least my point. My kids always had home parties with a small handful of friends that I personally knew and my kids played with all the time.. I never had party issues.
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