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Old 06-07-2013, 09:25 AM   #1
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Hard to imagine, 12 years since we lost a friend, now an angel (with photos)

A DIS buddy of ours, Sylvia, passed away twelve years ago after a long, tough battle with cancer. She is an angel now.

Remembering our friend Sylvia......

Because I knew you….I have been changed for the good.

Today, June 7th, 2013, will be the twelfth anniversary of the passing of our DIS friend, Sylvia, having passed away June 7, 2001. I have written similar thoughts as this on past anniversaries of her passing, as well as on Sylvia's birthday, January 14th. Having a limited number of pictures to share, as well as limited recollections, I am pretty much limited to essentially repeating a similar thread for her and her memory, and thus a repeat twice a year, mostly a copy and paste. Apologies to those who have seen this so many times over the years. But, in the past few years, some new pictures to see. See below.

Take a moment, relax, enjoy a life, Sylvia's......

January 14th, 1962. A little girl was born up in Canada. Her folks named her Sylvia. When Sylvia grew up, she had a son, and named him Nick. Sylvia became ill in 1998 with Inflammatory Breast Cancer, same as another DIS friend, Lisa (Tiger Fan), who passed just a bit more than 6 years ago, blessed us all here on the DIS with her presence for a short period of time, and passed away June 7, 2001. She made a big impact on me and others, and I, along with others here on the DIS, have kept her memory lit.

What I have to remember Sylvia with is limited to the pictures below, along with several others sent to me over the years, my recollections of her, here on the DIS, my phone and board conversations with her over the months while she was here, conversations with her mom since her passing, my memories. As I have said in past years, I apologize for pretty much duplicating this thread a couple times a year (though a few new items added periodically over the years), on her birthday and her day of passing, but I do know many new folks come to the DIS, and never knew Sylvia, and this is about all I can do with what I have of memories and photos. I also know many who do enjoy seeing her a few times a year, albeit the same pictures, almost the same words, the same thoughts. So, with these few pictures, mine and others recollections, I try to have others share a life, Sylvia's.

Many folks here on the DIS, who have come here in the past 12 years, are not familiar with Sylvia, did not know Sylvia, though do see periodic references to her in posts every now and then, or in memorial clipart in some DIS'ers signatures, like mine below. If you came by the DIS in the months and years after June of 2001, you did not have the opportunity to say hello to Sylvia, or get to know her. If you were here before then, you did, and do remember her.

Sylvia came to the DIS, in early 2000, like most of us, searching for some Disney answers, and she found the DIS, the DIS family, and likewise, that DIS family found Sylvia. She came, looking to make a magical trip to Disney World, a spur of the moment trip, for her and her son, Nick, then about 5 years old, shortly before she was about to restart chemo, due to a recurrence of her breast cancer, originally diagnosed and initially treated in mid 1998. Sylvia was able to go, making lifelong memories for little Nick. Some folks on the DIS helped indeed make her and Nick's WDW trip a reality, a magical memory for both.

Shortly after that trip, Sylvia's health, suffering the ravages of her breast cancer, slowly deteriorated, with her finally passing away, June 7th, 2001, only 39 years old. A very sad day, a sad time here on the DIS for our family here. Our friend, Sylvia, here on the DIS for less that 18 months, and passing away 12 years ago, made a very lasting and indelible impression and memory on so many, myself among them.

Today, we still remember Sylvia.
In Sylvia's memory, let us all try to do our part in
maintaining good health.

Make that appointment to get checked up....today.

About one year before Sylvia passed away, another young DIS'er, Tink 2300, aka Stephanie, also passed away. And in past years, we lost Robin and Beverly Lynn, two more young women in the prime of their lives. Three young children, Nick, Caitlyn and Aryn lost their moms way too early in life. Keep their memories alive, Steph, Sylvia, Robin, Beverly Lynn. Also, in past years, we also lost DIS'ers Montessori, FloridaCat, Tigger13, Richyams, FaithinKarma, JudySue, Hurricanpatti (aka Hanname), ILUVDXL, Tigger13, Hilside, Herclover, MinnieM3 (Beth), Marlasmom, Julie_yet, and as said, just 6 years ago, same disease as Sylvia, Lisa. In 2010, our good friend Kama89 (Kim), passed away from breast cancer, and her young son, Cameron, now without his mom. And in 2011, Robin Costello (Delswife) passed away. Last year, 2012, Pandy Paws (Donna), our favorite train engineer in the Magic Kingdom and safari driver in Animal Kingdom. Jambo, Donna, all aboard. And last year also, good friend, Mackey Mouse (Marsha) joined her life’s love Tommy for all eternity. Please remember all these good people (and others if I have missed their names), all family members of our DIS community and family.

Here are a few of the limited pictures I have of Sylvia
that I think give a little insight into this lovely lady, a friend I never met, but feel I got to know so well........

This was taken on Sylvia's last birthday while with us, January, 2001, just 5 months prior to her death. Great smile.

Taken about 1 year after diagnosis with Dan, a good friend who
shared with Sylvia in her last couple years, enjoying nature, enjoying life.

This is Christmas of '98, with Nick. Sylvia felt comfortable with
her baldness, a necessary side effect of getting well she said.

A few pictures from Sylvia's healthier days......

This picture is of Sylvia, Nick and Dan's DD, Emma.

What a great picture of a great lady!!!! This picture
was taken about 6 months before she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Sylvia loved the outdoors and animals.
She was especially fond of otters.

This one also was taken shortly before she was diagnosed, a
great picture of Sylvia and little Nick.

And all throughout her illness, what a strong lady!!!!
Anyone see a frown?
Always smiling, that was Sylvia.

A good site to visit, many great items of help here......

Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation

Love you, miss ya, Syl, friend.

A somewhat newer picture, though now actually not so new at all, of Nick, from 2004, that Sylvia’s mom sent me some years back.

I did get a couple updated pictures from Margarete, years back, of Nick. One above, of Nick in his hockey uniform (like any good young Canadian boy), about age 9, about eight or so years ago. Sylvia's mom, Margarete, with whom I have kept a dialog going over the years, sent me these couple updated ones after I talked to her one January years back, on Sylvia's birthday.

The pictures here are of both Nick, and his grandma, Margarete, Sylvia's mom. They were taken at Christmas (as if I had to say. ), five, maybe six years ago, if I recall correctly. Nick sure had grown, from those early pictures of years ago, when Sylvia was here, as well as several after; looking like a fine young man.

Margarete said to me....."Sylvia would have been so proud of him."

I try call and/or email Margarete every January, Sylvia’s birthday, and June, Sylvia’s passing. Back in January, 2010, I called as usual. Margarete was not home, so left a voice mail. I did not hear back though, until an email in April, 2010. Margarete shared that things have been somewhat tough with Nick of recent. He is now living with her, having had a tough time living with his dad and stepmom. From Margarete’s words, Nick sounds like he is experiencing both the normal teen bumps in the road we all know all too well, plus the results of not having a mom around for all these years. I do hope he is able to overcome the obstacles, I am sure he will.

For Good--click for sound if you like

I'm limited:
Just look at me - I'm limited
And just look at you -
You can do all I couldn't do, Glinda
So now it's up to you
(spoken) For both of us
(sung) Now it's up to you:

I've heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don't know if I believe that's true
But I know I'm who I am today
Because I knew you:

Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good

It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you
You'll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart
And now whatever way our stories end
I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend:
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird
In a distant wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
But because I knew you:

Because I knew you:

I have been changed for good

And just to clear the air
I ask forgiveness
For the things I've done you blame me for

But then, I guess we know
There's blame to share

And none of it seems to matter anymore

Like a comet pulled Like a ship blown
From orbit as it Off it's mooring
Passes a sun, like By a wind off the
A stream that meets Sea, like a seed
A boulder, half-way Dropped by a
Through the wood Bird in the wood

Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
I do believe I have been changed for the better?

And because I knew you:
Because I knew you:

Because I knew you:
I have been changed for good.

Music--For Good---Wicked, Kristin Chenoweth

PS: Again, a bit of apology to those who have seen this similar thread several times in the past over the years on Sylvia’s birthday and today. I do try to keep Sylvia's memory here, as do others, yet have a finite number of pictures and memories to share. Enjoy her life. Thanks


And now here, several additional pictures Margarete sent me about five years or so ago.

(and some neat news to share after the pictures).

This picture is of Margarete and Nick, one year after those two Christmas ones above. This is Christmas, 2008.

This one is of Nick and his girlfriend from a couple summers ago, 2010, while on a family vacation at a cottage. I told Margarete I got such a kick out of the look on her face….”Oh no, another picture!!”
(I did ask Margarete’s permission in posting this and all the pictures she has sent, and she said ‘for sure’.

Another here of Nick and his girlfriend, an evening campfire at the cottage.

And lastly, this one of Nick in a canoe out on the lake, reminds me so much of his mom in the picture above of Sylvia in the boat fishing.
Margarete says he loves the outdoors, just like his mom.

And now, how about this very neat news? (This is now older news) Back in the fall, 2010, Margarete emailed me, asking me if I could help her plan a trip for her, her husband and Nick…destination…..Disney World!!! She wanted to take Nick back to WDW for a fun, early in the year trip. Margarete said she was last there when Sylvia was 12 years old, so like 39 or so years ago. Only the Magic Kingdom back then. And Nick was last there when he was about 5, when Sylvia came here to get help in planning that trip.

I told Margarete, ‘for sure!’. So we had a fun time over those late fall months, exchanging ideas on dates (early Feb, great time to go), resorts, transportation, dining, and a lot of the little nuances many of us take for granted….Fastpass, EMH, park hoppers, etc. I really enjoyed the journey from my seat here, and felt like Sylvia watched over all the planning, making it a super trip for the three of them. I looked forward to hearing about the results.

So, there it is, an annual repeat thread, but with a few things new. Sylvia continues to be a presence.

Sylvia was a wonderful lady

A good site to visit, many great items of help here......

Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation

And today, here on the DIS, we have many breast cancer survivors,
many in remission, many still fighting the battle.
Maybe stop by and say hello here on this long running thread, originally started by Laura and Linda back eight years ago, and now in its fourth edition......

Dis Breast Cancer Survivors, III - GAGWTA! (Greetings and good wishes to all!)


PS: Also, a bit of apology to those who have seen this similar thread several times in the past over the years on Sylvia’s birthday and anniversary of her passing. I do try to keep Sylvia's memory here, as do others, yet have a finite number of pictures and memories to share. Thanks

Many also who would remember Sylvia are no longer here, for various reasons, though I know they do keep her in their memories.

Several more pictures from Sylvia’s mom
and Nick’s trip to WDW back in February, 2011 follow below.
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Old 06-07-2013, 09:26 AM   #2
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Nick and his buddy, along with Nick’s grandma, Margarete and her husband, all went to Disney World back in February, 2011. They had a wonderful time according to Margarete. I called one evening, Margarete and her husband were out shopping at DtD, but I was able to talk a bit, for the first time ever, to Nick, and his buddy a bit too. I felt I was talking to a celebrity. I was!! And I was very happy to have helped them a bit in their planning.

Nick and his buddy, arriving at the resort, apparently excited!!

Nick with Chip n’ Dale

Illuminations, always beautiful, has Sylvia written all over it.

Nick and his buddy in front of the magnificent Dolphin fountain.

And here Nick and his buddy relaxing in their room. Looks nice.

The two of them on the Swan Dolphin basketball court for a late night pick up game.

Margarete, Friendship and Swan in the background.

Margarete at Big River Grill.

Nick and friend trekking over the S/D bridge on way to the Boardwalk.

Pluto, Goofy, Nick and buddy.

And finally, Nick and Stitch.

So very happy Nick, Margarete and her husband, along with Nick's buddy, all enjoyed Disney World as they did. I am sure the memories of Sylvia traveled with them all.

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Always a wonderful memorial for Sylvia, her family and friends, Dan.
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Thank you Dan, for keeping her memory alive. You were a good friend to Sylvia and to her mom and Nick. I can't believe it has been 12 years!
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I remember Sylvia. You have always been a good friend to her Dan. Thanks for keeping her memory alive. My wonderful Mom battled breast cancer so I know how tough it is. I wish her family the best, hope, love and memories.
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OmG, Dan!! Has it really been 12 years????

Thank you so much for the memories. Sylvia was an amazing woman and it's so good to see her son growing up and looking good!

Wow... 12 years flies by. It's been 11 years since cancer took my Mom, seems like yesterday.

God bless her family.

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I didn't know of Sylvia, but she seems to have been a lovely lady. So glad Nick is doing well and got to see WDW.

What a lovely tribute and update. Thanks!

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Another wonderful tribute, Dan. You have done Sylvia proud.

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thanks Dan.

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What an amazing tribute....It's my first time reading about Sylvia.
Thank you for sharing!
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....as usual, Dan, you did it with style and grace....what a nice tribute! So glad that Nick is turning into such a fine young man.....blessings to Sylvia's family.
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Dan, as always, thank you for keeping the memory of Sylvia and the many other fine woman going. I always enjoy your postings even though I end up in tears before I finish them. I know that Nick realizes just how much his Mom loved him and that she is keeping an eye on him from above.
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Nice thread, Dan. I can't believe that it's been 12 years already. Wow, so much has happened since then. Love the more recent pictures of Nick.
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