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Old 03-29-2013, 01:03 PM   #16
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They don't mean anything bad by it, so I accept as a friendly greeting. I save my outrage for comments people make that are intended to hurt or put others down in any way.
My parents were born & raised in the midwest, so I'm pretty used to hearing hon, sweetie, etc... I also agree with what Acklander said.
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Old 03-29-2013, 01:05 PM   #17
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I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!
Don't come down south then. It's a way of life here, and we all love it! Ma'm & Sir is too!
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Old 03-29-2013, 01:09 PM   #18
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I swear I was going to post this exact thread the other day. Then I said to myself "the Dis (among others) will call me a cranky old lady"! It does irritate me a little when someone much younger call me sweetie. But then again, a few years ago "Mam" bothered me because it made me feel old maybe we should all wear nametags
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Old 03-29-2013, 01:17 PM   #19
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I swear I was going to post this exact thread the other day. Then I said to myself "the Dis (among others) will call me a cranky old lady"! It does irritate me a little when someone much younger call me sweetie. But then again, a few years ago "Mam" bothered me because it made me feel old maybe we should all wear nametags
Yes, I would much rather be called sweetie then ma'am.
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Old 03-29-2013, 01:18 PM   #20
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It doesn't bother me, but it intrigues me. I'm 22 but look much much younger (like early teens). I'm also a seasonal cast member at Epcot. The thing that is funny to me is when I am not working, I get called "honey, miss, sweetie, darling, princess) and even get asked if I need kid"s menus when working out, but when I'm in costume it's "ma'm, mrs.,)
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Old 03-29-2013, 01:25 PM   #21
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LOL, I am in line with some of the other posters. I don't mind it at all but do find it a bit awkward when someone much much younger calls me Hon.

I have never been Ma'am'ed as much as when we went to the Bahamas last month. Kind of grows on you . My son really annoyed me shortly after returning when I told him to sweep the kitchen floor with excessive complaining (end of the world kind of complaining, suck it up, it is only sweeping the floor). I told him to just say "Yes ma'am", stop talking and do it! There is something to be said for a little respect :P.
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:38 PM   #22
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I never understand how these threads always manage to compare sweetie to ma'am. Ma'am is a term of respect, Sweetie is a term of endearment.

I don't mind strangers using a term of respect to me, but can't stand it when strangers use a term of endearment to me.
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:38 PM   #23
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Well I'm from the South and being sweetied and honeyed bugs me too, double from people younger than me. But what REALLY bugs me is being called "young lady" by younger men. They think it's flirty, I think it's weird.
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:40 PM   #24
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Well I'm from the South and being sweetied and honeyed bugs me too, double from people younger than me. But what REALLY bugs me is being called "young lady" by younger men. They think it's flirty, I think it's weird.
One of my 'co-workers' calls me "kiddo". I guess he doesn't know I'm 40.
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:45 PM   #25
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I don't care if someone calls me sweetie, honey, dear or mam - whatever! If they are being nice I'll accept whatever the term is for what it's worth - a friendly and welcoming endearment!
The things people get offended or bothered by astounds me!
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:46 PM   #26
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I never understand how these threads always manage to compare sweetie to ma'am. Ma'am is a term of respect, Sweetie is a term of endearment.

I don't mind strangers using a term of respect to me, but can't stand it when strangers use a term of endearment to me.
Ma'am is SO not a term of respect where I am from- it is the opposite!
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:48 PM   #27
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I hate being called "girls," especially when said by a man--it's so enormously condescending. I was out with my mother (who feels more strongly about this than I do), and a waiter half her age said, "What are you girls having today," and I thought she would smack him with her menu.
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Old 03-29-2013, 03:02 PM   #28
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Ma'am is SO not a term of respect where I am from- it is the opposite!

Since you didn't post your location I'll have to take your word for it. However, I bet your bottom dollar there are plenty of people from the same place you are who would have a different opinion.

Opinions like this are usually more generational than regional.

I'm from the West Coast and "ma'am" isn't used often here. I have heard it used respectfully, and I've heard it used sarcastically. I've even used it both ways myself. However it remains by definition a term of respect.
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Old 03-29-2013, 03:08 PM   #29
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It's kind of weird, but it bothers me a lot more when a young woman calls me "hun." It's irritating because I think it's age related (even though it might not be.) It doesn't bother me as much if a guy does that, though it probably should. I assume any man who calls a woman he doesn't know hun, probably does that universally.

Ma'am doesn't bother me at all--I'm in my 40's. When someone calls me "Miss," I think they're sucking up.
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I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!
That is my #1 pet peeve. I do not know you, I am not your sweetie, honey, darling, etc..this happens all the time here with cashiers, waitresses, female workers in stores etc. I wish it would stop!
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