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Old 03-29-2013, 12:11 PM   #1
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And don't call me sweetie

I hate when servers refer to you as honey, sweetie, darlin, etc. I had one at lunch today and I wanted to slap her. (It probably didn't help that I was on a 45 minute hold with the IRS. )

But in all seriousness, why do they do that? I know I can't be the only one that hates it. It's not endearing, its annoying!
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:18 PM   #2
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Drives my mom crazy, too! lol! Doesn't bother me, down here in the south I think it's just a friendly term.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:18 PM   #3
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My aunt does it to be condescending. So we find snarky "endearing" terms to respond to her with (her son and I).
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:18 PM   #4
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Doesn't bother me if they call me honey or sweetie.

I know it does bother some folks, but for some reason, not me.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:28 PM   #5
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They don't mean anything bad by it, so I accept as a friendly greeting. I save my outrage for comments people make that are intended to hurt or put others down in any way.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:28 PM   #6
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I'm not a server but I use to nurse. I call everyone honey or sweetheart or some variation! I didn't realize it would offend anyone! Being from the south its bot unusual. I don't however like dear! I have a friend who was raised in Jersey and she does it to be condescending!
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:34 PM   #7
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Doesn't bother me at all!
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:35 PM   #8
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It bothers me when a person younger than me calls me sweetie. It does not bother me when an older person calls me that.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:35 PM   #9
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Never said that they meant anything bad by it. However, it still annoys me. Stick with Sir or Ma'am. No need to be all cutesy with me. I'm a customer.

And yes, I'm aware I'm well on my way to being a crotchety old lady.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:35 PM   #10
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I'd rather be called sweetie than ma'am. That makes me feel old and I'm only 43.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:37 PM   #11
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For servers its a knee jerk reaction for some to be "overly nice." Others I think its just an annoying habit people get into, but I agree its like nails on a chalk board for me too. Now if its a hot girl that I'm really attracted to, then I can deal with it. But in the other situation

A gas station I go to lady calls everyone sweetie, and another I see calls everyone baby, like 5 times in one sentence, which is a bit much. Ok baby, not a problem baby, ok baby see you next time baby. OK I got it after the first baby.

But I do like it when Sacha Baron Cohen does the Dictator and calls girls sugar _______ that's pretty funny.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:38 PM   #12
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It bothers me when a person younger than me calls me sweetie. It does not bother me when an older person calls me that.
Maybe that's what annoyed me. She was much younger. I also don't mind when an older server calls me sweetie, darlin, etc either.

My mom calls servers sweetie, darlin, dear, etc. It drives me insane too! lol
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:38 PM   #13
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I don't like it either but I do think it is a Southern thing. One thing I find very ironic about southerners is that the same people who insist their children call them "ma'am" and "sir" often think nothing of calling strangers 'sweetie', or 'darling'. And I don't mean that in a disparaging way because I live in the south....I just think it's funny.
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:41 PM   #14
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I'd rather be called sweetie than ma'am. That makes me feel old and I'm only 43.
I agree---hey I would rather be called sweetie, honey or even idiot over being Ma'am'd LOL--that is the ultimate insult!
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Old 03-29-2013, 12:55 PM   #15
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It usually doesn't bother me unless it's excessive. My first mother-in-law was way excessive with use use of endearments.

One young waitress at a place we often have breakfast at always greets me with a "good morning, Sunshine"! It's sort of a running joke because she knows I'm not a morning person. It's a small place and we're all friendly.
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