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Old 03-25-2013, 03:46 PM   #16
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That is a very tough situation, especially when dealing with in-laws that you don't get along with. (You mentioned not being fond of your MIL, how about your FIL?) Being that it sounds like they are good grandparents and want to come along on the trip to spend time with the kids, I would say let them go. Reason being that I asked if you like your FIL more is when you guys do split up (Some may want to go on 1 ride, and some on another) you can take your FIL along with you and leave your MIL with your DH.

I feel your pain though---- I can't STAND my in laws. My MIL and FIL are tolerable, but his sisters are wicked nasty. Which means, when they've invited us to go on vacations with them, we always pass. I'd love to do a trip with just DH's parents, but they don't seem to want to do that with us- they only like going with their daughters--which is fine, maybe they just feel more comfortable with them and that is okay.

So yeah, I think you should think of the positives with them coming but also make sure you set time aside where they can stay back at the hotel and rest, relax, swim at the pool, while you go to the parks with your family.
I do like my FIL a lot better than my MIL. As far as them being good grandparents, not so much IMO. They come to our house once or twice a year and stay for a week each time. MIL will play a game once if my DD asks her to. Then she says she is tired. She watches TV or plays games on the computer most of the time she is here. FIL used to spend more time with the kids when he came, but he is a bit less mobile now, so doesn't play outside as much. I feel that he at least makes an effort though.
Unfortunately, my in-laws NEVER split up, but I do sit by my FIL on rides and at meals whenever possible, and stick my DD with MIL.
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Old 03-25-2013, 03:47 PM   #17
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I think this is the ILs wanting more grandchild time and being jealous that the "other" grandparents get to do this. Since the ILs are never going to do Disney in a way you'd enjoy, I say try and come up with another yearly vacation that can be specific to them and more their speed. If they'd rather sit and watch the kids play, maybe the beach? It may require sacrificing some Disney time, but I'd rather go every second year and have fun than go every year with boat anchors...
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Old 03-25-2013, 03:55 PM   #18
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You guys have given me an idea; a wonderful, awful idea. Maybe if I take them to my local amusement park this summer they will remember what a pain it is to go to the parks with us. Then I'll bring up Disney at the end of the long, hot, exhausting day. Kind of aversion therapy! Maybe that will do the trick!
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Old 03-25-2013, 03:59 PM   #19
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I do like my FIL a lot better than my MIL. As far as them being good grandparents, not so much IMO. They come to our house once or twice a year and stay for a week each time. MIL will play a game once if my DD asks her to. Then she says she is tired. She watches TV or plays games on the computer most of the time she is here. FIL used to spend more time with the kids when he came, but he is a bit less mobile now, so doesn't play outside as much. I feel that he at least makes an effort though.
Unfortunately, my in-laws NEVER split up, but I do sit by my FIL on rides and at meals whenever possible, and stick my DD with MIL.
Oh, yeah I just assumed that they were good grand parents b/c they actually want to go on these vacations with the kids, lol. I have the opposite problem- my MIL will get on the floor and interact with the kids and is good with them. FIL on the other hand has his head stuck in a book at all times (This is what he chooses to do in his retirement days..to each their own...)

I think it's a great idea to stick your DD or DH next to MIL.... keep her at a distance.. Hope you have a great vacation though. Just try to ditch them once in a while when in Disney...
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You guys have given me an idea; a wonderful, awful idea. Maybe if I take them to my local amusement park this summer they will remember what a pain it is to go to the parks with us. Then I'll bring up Disney at the end of the long, hot, exhausting day. Kind of aversion therapy! Maybe that will do the trick!
How long will you be there? What about a compromise? Suggesting they come for two days and then saying, "For days 3-7 we are going to be going at a super-fast pace and we can't put you guys through that. We'd love to do stuff with you on Sunday and Monday though?"


My first instinct is to slip arsenic in their coffee, but I just double checked and I'm pretty sure it's frowned on.
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Old 03-25-2013, 04:25 PM   #21
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I would simply not tell them you are going. We have never told my husband parents that we have had a DVC timeshare for 10 years because of the backlash we would get not to mention my BIL's would try to mouch the timeshare time from us!

We have done many many trips and never said a thing to them. They don't like Disney. I had mentioned that I was taking my Nieces on my side in 2014 and FIL said that it stupid to bring a almost 3 year because she won't remember it. I said to him. "it doesn't matter. She travels for free, eats for free and get into the parks for free. IF she doesn't remember that fine because it did not cost us anything to bring her. That shut him up.
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How long will you be there? What about a compromise? Suggesting they come for two days and then saying, "For days 3-7 we are going to be going at a super-fast pace and we can't put you guys through that. We'd love to do stuff with you on Sunday and Monday though?"


My first instinct is to slip arsenic in their coffee, but I just double checked and I'm pretty sure it's frowned on.
We usually go for 10 or 11 days. I got DH to talk them down to 6 days last time. Maybe he could get them down to 2 or 3 next time. Or maybe they could stop hijacking my vacations!
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I would simply not tell them you are going. We have never told husband parents that we have had a DVC for 10 years because of the backlash we would get not to mention my BIL's would try to mouch the timeshare time from us!

We have done many many trips and never said a thing to them. They don't like Disney. I had mentioned that I was taking my Nieces on my side in 2014 and FIL said that it stupid to bring a almost 3 year because she won't remember it. I said to him. "it doesn't matter. She travels for free, eats for free and get into the parks for free. IF she doesn't remember that fine because it did not cost us anything to bring her. That shut him up.
Oh my gosh...I wish I would have done that in the first place!
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We are traveling with MIL in October. I really wasnt too concerned... now...
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You guys have given me an idea; a wonderful, awful idea. Maybe if I take them to my local amusement park this summer they will remember what a pain it is to go to the parks with us. Then I'll bring up Disney at the end of the long, hot, exhausting day. Kind of aversion therapy! Maybe that will do the trick!
I'd combine this idea with the beach idea. See if they will meet you at the beach after WDW for a couple of relaxing days. "Man, you almost need a vacation from your vacation after a theme park! Hey, I have an idea! How about instead of coming to WDW with us, you meet us afterwards for two nights at x beach so we can have a nice relaxing visit!"

I honestly think it would be more fun to do a week at WDW alone followed by a few days at the beach afterwards than to have more days at WDW but have to cater to their schedule.

Better yet, do the beach break in the MIDDLE of the vacation!
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Old 03-25-2013, 04:40 PM   #26
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We never tell anyone we arre going on vacation because we don't want anyone travelling with us. However, if you always vacation with your family, that won't work. Unless you start just vscationing on your own?

Good luck! I do like the idea of a short visit to a local place with thrm, though.
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I would just say that you guys have not set a date yet, because of schedules, then just drop it...and if they bring it back up, say Oh...we set it a while ago, and totally forgot.
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We must be related because this sounds like my inlaws, except add two sils, one who has never been to disney but knows everything, and who never showed up to the parks before 11 but got mad when we were there already with our fast passes in hand for rides.

Thankfully DH turned to me on day two and said - never again are we vacationing anywhere with my family.

You have to remind your dh of the issues involved in traveling with his family and he has to have to conversation with them. If you have it your are the witchy dil who hates them and never wants them to see the grandkids.
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We never tell anyone we arre going on vacation because we don't want anyone travelling with us. However, if you always vacation with your family, that won't work. Unless you start just vscationing on your own?

Good luck! I do like the idea of a short visit to a local place with thrm, though.
That is smart not to tell anyone when you are going on vacation. My MIL watches my daughter 2x a week so we do have to give them the heads up; or else I wouldn't say anything either. Sometimes the less they know, the better! I like to keep things private, saves me from a lot of aggravation and those "eye rolls" people love to give regarding OUR lives!
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You guys have given me an idea; a wonderful, awful idea. Maybe if I take them to my local amusement park this summer they will remember what a pain it is to go to the parks with us. Then I'll bring up Disney at the end of the long, hot, exhausting day. Kind of aversion therapy! Maybe that will do the trick!
That may work. Make sure you go from end to end and back so they get tired first. We decided it was better to take local day trips and offered that. I also had to commit to driving them to the casino (2 hours away and I usually don't go) in order to get them to not think about hijacking the vacation. One day is certainly worth saving the Disney week. Of course no one knows I already booked our Disney vacation in August.
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