This is truly painful!

[a1tinkfans]

Originally Posted by Marjx3

Lost our reservation because we were forced to cancel...long story short we booked a package at poly in November room+tix. Made our ADRs for the whole family (14 in all, aunts uncles grandparents cousins etc...) because no one else would pull the trigger. Half the family wants to stay POR half at Poly. No biggie there except no rooms are available for GV. So they all got there POR ressie and we lost our treasured Poly and we did all the work! Staying at the Poly makes our Disney vacation. I don't want to go now...I can't justify the expense if we are not going to get the experience we want plus now the whole family is stomping us...ugh! If we want to be with them we have to stay POR but we don't want too.

you were forced to cancel??? You mean you chose too because you got pressured, right? Well, be prepared if this is your first group trip...compromise rules. IF the resort makes your trip, just rebook and many things change, youll likely get your room choice anyway....if you dont want to stay por, dont and skip out on the trip I suppose....But POR is our fav by the way, we actually have done poly cl and tho enjoyed it, POR is still home for us...

I guess its hard for me to understand, be upset or empathize
You're able to go to disney,
you're able to afford deluxe, in this economy
you have family to share it with....
so its not really bad or painful ...KWIM...I guess I just see it Very differently!

I hope you can take a step back and really think it thru....then GO and have a good time as well............

[toodycat]

I haven't stayed POR, but if the whole family wanted to stay there,I would do it in order to be together...unless they were the kind of family who drive you crazy in which case I would stay someplace else and just meet up at parks and meals. You don't say a lot about your family, but if you have kids who want to play with family members' kids, stay at POR for your kids. If you have elderly family members who will need your help boarding buses and such, stay at POR so you can help them. If you've got a family member you're super close to who is going to want on have a drink with you or go for a swim with you each night after time in the parks, stay at POR. If none of these scenarios are true, book what the Poly's got available now. You can always check back to see if they have a GV room available later. Anyway, the worst day at WDW is still better than a day at work.

[MinnesotaMouseketeers]

Originally Posted by IMGONNABE40!

Face it, group travel is about consensus and compromise and as such can be "quite painful". You need to decide what the primary focus of the trip is. Is it about being with the group, or a trip centered around your resort? If the majority of the group will be spending most of the time away from the resort, I think it is totally legit not to want to spend money on a deluxe when a mod is significantly less expensive. I have stayed at all of the mods and all but one of the deluxes, and for me, the Poly ranks at the bottom of that list. However, if I were to travel with a group and the consensus was the Poly, I would likely stay there if my main focus was to be with the group. I also think there are some groups where having a different resort to retreat to would be a good thing as well.

Good luck with your decision!

Well said! Except the Poly part. It's second right after WL for me and my wife's favorite resort. For us the resort is part of the experience when we go to WDW. We spend a lot of time at the resort. We have traveled with others staying at different resorts and set up in advance where to meet and when, and where to eat and when. Last trip we were at POR while my brother in-law and his family were at the Swan. We saw them every day but did have our times doing things we wanted to separately.

That being said if/when we do stay at a resort not of choice, because we have been off site before. It never ruined our trip. I'm with another poster, how can the resort be enough of a deal breaker to make it "truly painful" by not staying there?

[sndral]

Originally Posted by samacita

How did you make ADRs this early?
!!

Originally Posted by FortForever

Maybe she means she made the reservations last November, not for this November.

Originally Posted by ChristineOH

I am pretty sure she means she booked in November. Likely for a trip coming in May.

I read OP's other thread from 2 days ago they are going in June and she somehow lost her Poly GV reservation because the grandparents bought tickets for the kids and there are no room only GV Poly reservations left.
I'd post the link but don't quite know how on my IPhone.
I do sympathize, OP has been planning since Nov. on a certain vacation and doing ADRs for 14 people (no easy feat) then suddenly the family goes in a different direction. My family does that, they dither around and then @ the last minute all plans change - drives me nuts as I'm a planner. Personally the chance to be w/ grandparents/cousins for my child would trump which resort I stayed at especially knowing that in the future I'd be returning to WDW and staying exactly where I wanted. Perhaps not everyone in the family can afford to stay deluxe.

[mmmears]

I've come to understand that there are 2 kinds of trips my family can take.

The first is going alone, doing exactly what we want to, staying where we want to, and I can do all the planning.

The second is if we go with friends or family. At that point the trip is more about being with those people than where you stay, where you travel to, or where you go. So I don't do much planning (since people always veer off in different directions and it would make me crazy).

We have done both kind of trip and had fun -- but we did it knowing what to expect.

We wont do WDW the 2nd way -- too much hassle and it's not worth the cost for us to be there and not do it the way we want to.

I think you should either just go to be with family (and do what they do, and go with the expectation that the trip will NOT be anything like it could have been had they let you do all the planning), go and stay where you want to stay and only see them a bit, or just cancel and don't go this time around. It's impossible to get 14 people to do anything together unless they are all committed to it.

[ixmnrs]

I think the OP just wants to vent their frustration as opposed to asking for any advice!

"The best laid schemes of mice and men
Go often awry"
R. Burns

[davedmaine]

Originally Posted by Marjx3

Lost our reservation because we were forced to cancel...long story short we booked a package at poly in November room+tix. Made our ADRs for the whole family (14 in all, aunts uncles grandparents cousins etc...) because no one else would pull the trigger. Half the family wants to stay POR half at Poly. No biggie there except no rooms are available for GV. So they all got there POR ressie and we lost our treasured Poly and we did all the work! Staying at the Poly makes our Disney vacation. I don't want to go now...I can't justify the expense if we are not going to get the experience we want plus now the whole family is stomping us...ugh! If we want to be with them we have to stay POR but we don't want too.

I wish I had your problems..

[wdw71]

This is why we do not take trips with anyone else but our immediate family. If your family cancelled your ressie that is just plain rude but when you chose to travel with others you have to be willing to make concessions.
Plus the price of Poly versus the price of POR is a huge difference. Maybe others can not afford it or are like us and think the money is better spent on meals and in the parks.
As a person who has stayed at POR I think you will love it. It is IMO much prettier than the Poly which I have visited many times over the years but we have never stayed there. I've been to Hawaii several times and Poly just doesn't do anything for me for the price you pay.
If you can get past not having Ohana or Kona I think you will enjoy POR.

[DebbieB]

More details:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=47733282

If this is a trip of a lifetime, then stay where you want. But if you will be back again, go with the flow and stay at POR and enjoy the time with your family. Sometimes you have to compromise.

[danceintherain]

Originally Posted by sndral

I read OP's other thread from 2 days ago they are going in June and she somehow lost her Poly GV reservation because the grandparents bought tickets for the kids and there are no room only GV Poly reservations left.
I'd post the link but don't quite know how on my IPhone.
I do sympathize, OP has been planning since Nov. on a certain vacation and doing ADRs for 14 people (no easy feat) then suddenly the family goes in a different direction. My family does that, they dither around and then @ the last minute all plans change - drives me nuts as I'm a planner. Personally the chance to be w/ grandparents/cousins for my child would trump which resort I stayed at especially knowing that in the future I'd be returning to WDW and staying exactly where I wanted. Perhaps not everyone in the family can afford to stay deluxe.

That sucks, but why not just keep their part of the package reservation at the Poly and hold on to the tickets for a later trip?

When dealing with compromise, you always have to decide where you'll draw the line. If you think staying at POR with the rest of the family at a lesser cost will ruin your vacation, then maybe that's ok, but you won't get to go on the vacation with your family. Maybe that's the point...you don't really want to go with them.

Personally, I would go and stay at a less expensive hotel rather than skip it altogether, but I've never been able to justify staying at the Poly to begin with.

[disneymagicgirl]

I would stay where I wanted and meet up for dinner and park time.

[Marjx3]

All is well again...Talked to guest services and they were able to recover our reservation and drop the tickets. We did book last November (2012) for June of 2013, not for this coming November. We have five in our family DH, Myself, DD14, DD12, DD 8 and had tentatively scheduled this trip two years prior. The rest of the family just kind of jumped on board and informed us they were going to come with us. We saved for two years to stay at the Poly again because the resort holds something special near and dear to our hearts that has a long story attached to it with a lot of Pixie dust and magic that helped heal our hearts after the loss of one of our children, but we just couldn't pay the extra beyond the GV. Yes, it is incredible we can afford this but it was planned and we saved and saved to honor a memory that is dear to us. Staying POR wasn't so much an issue of Mod vs. Deluxe as it is something completely different I didn't communicate. We love Disney and all it has given us through the years and yes the experience would be great no matter what... But, we wanted to go back to the Poly because it is a part of the experience beyond the parks themselves. For us it is part of the magic. Disney as always came through for us. It was upsetting because I felt we had lost something bigger than a hotel room, what was truly painful was the missed opportunity for us to honor a celebration of life no matter how short lived it may have been and immerse ourselves in the joy and magic that fills our hearts when we are there. Thank you Disney for understanding and your dilligent efforts to help us resolve such a petty issue as a GV room at a deluxe resort.

[DisneyDiana]

I am so happy that it all worked out for you. It is hard for everyone to understand hidden feelings or meaning behind people's reactions to events or situations on a board such as this. Another board I frequent had an interesting thing happen where someone posted a very sarcastic comment to a question asked by a new poster. After thought, the sarcastic poster realized it was just a reaction due to the loss of his 7 year old son on the way home from a trip to a park. He wrote an apology post that was very moving. I hope your trip is exactly what you need and hope for.

[mmmears]

I'm glad you got your reservation back -- hopefully you can find a way to blend your immediate family's need for a special time at WDW and your extended family's desire to join you.

[toodycat]

Originally Posted by Marjx3

All is well again...Talked to guest services and they were able to recover our reservation and drop the tickets. We did book last November (2012) for June of 2013, not for this coming November. We have five in our family DH, Myself, DD14, DD12, DD 8 and had tentatively scheduled this trip two years prior. The rest of the family just kind of jumped on board and informed us they were going to come with us. We saved for two years to stay at the Poly again because the resort holds something special near and dear to our hearts that has a long story attached to it with a lot of Pixie dust and magic that helped heal our hearts after the loss of one of our children, but we just couldn't pay the extra beyond the GV. Yes, it is incredible we can afford this but it was planned and we saved and saved to honor a memory that is dear to us. Staying POR wasn't so much an issue of Mod vs. Deluxe as it is something completely different I didn't communicate. We love Disney and all it has given us through the years and yes the experience would be great no matter what... But, we wanted to go back to the Poly because it is a part of the experience beyond the parks themselves. For us it is part of the magic. Disney as always came through for us. It was upsetting because I felt we had lost something bigger than a hotel room, what was truly painful was the missed opportunity for us to honor a celebration of life no matter how short lived it may have been and immerse ourselves in the joy and magic that fills our hearts when we are there. Thank you Disney for understanding and your dilligent efforts to help us resolve such a petty issue as a GV room at a deluxe resort.

So glad this came to a positive conclusion for you all. Have a wonderful trip!