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Old 01-27-2013, 03:13 PM   #31
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I don't think I have ever heard some one say "old ball and chain" to be disrespectful, only as a joke or in a kidding around way.
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Old 01-27-2013, 03:16 PM   #32
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I don't even know how that phrase could be considered disrespectful
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Old 01-27-2013, 03:25 PM   #33
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I hate being called "Old lady." The one time my husband called me that when we were dating, it cost him jewelry and a tongue lashing of epic proportions. I still don't know why he thought I'd find that funny.

I suppose it depends on the people and the relationship.
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Old 01-27-2013, 03:34 PM   #34
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It's impossible to understand context and family dynamics from a thirty second interaction at Costco. Be glad, OP, that you have a different family dynamic.
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Old 01-27-2013, 03:38 PM   #35
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I don't like that movie. Therefore the line offends me.
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:09 PM   #36
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I didn't say anything, but I was offended.
I can't picture myself being offended by something a stranger says to his wife.

And, if it were me consider yourself extremely lucky that you didn't say anything.

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Every time I've ever heard the "ball & chain" comment, it has been used in a joking manner.

I've also heard, and tell, lots of Mother in Law jokes, but they are just that....jokes.

You might save a lot of grief by trying to not be personally offended at eavesdropped conversations of strangers.
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:29 PM   #37
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My DH would say that kind of stuff out loud at stores, for the benefit of our DD and strangers nearby. I would return the barb with a few of my own. It was all in fun, and it was special, endearing, and done with love.

My DH is passed away now. DD is grown and moved away. I miss those times but I have the memories. Thanks for these posts.
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:36 PM   #38
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If strangers heard some of the things my family members jokingly say to each other, they would probably interpret the comments as disrespectful. But we joke around with each other a lot. I think the guy was probably joking. The comment wouldn't bother me.
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:36 PM   #39
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I don't know if she was upset or mot. I just found it terribly disrespectful.y.DH has NEVER said things like that my or my children's presence
Did you ever see "The Princess Bride?" Remember the part where the narrator said:

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That day, she was amazed to discover that when he was saying "As you wish", what he meant was, "I love you."
My Mom has a nickname for my Dad. It's a spinoff of something a beloved, long since passed, family member once said. Someone who didn't know us, or the context, might think she was insulting Dad.

When she says it, she's saying "I love you."

When she says it, my Dad hears "I love you".

She uses it in private and in public, cause I don't think she much cares who hears her tell Dad that she loves him. And I know he loves to hear her use that nickname, no matter where it's said.

No one outside of that family in Costco will ever know the meaning of "ball & chain" to them. To you, it's disrespectful, to her, it could have meant "I love you."
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My dd was standing right in front of a display of glass and mirrored balls - the ones that are to be arranged in a bowl. She immediately says, "You could get a bowl and put a few of these balls in it." Without thinking I reply, "No, we have enough balls in our house." (-And yes. I meant it as a crack at the boys in our home.) She laughs and says, "True." We start to continue down the aisle, and as I look up, I notice a lady is frowning at me, but her husband is laughing. I guess they overheard our comments.....I just smiled and continued shopping.
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:52 PM   #41
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Old 01-27-2013, 04:58 PM   #42
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I'm convinced if the outside world heard 1/2 the things we say to each other in a very saracastic kidding way they would be mortified. However...now if a stranger came up to us and said the same thing -- would be totally offensive.

This reminds me of DD's ringtone for me! People get all upset with her because she has Ding Dong the Witch is Dead for my ringtone on her phone. I think it's hilarious!!! She tells me, people get all bent out of shape when it rings & she says "oh that's my mom calling".
My ring tone for my mom is "Ding Dong the Witch is dead" also. I'll be somewhere with my DD and her friend, my phone will ring and her friends yell "your mom is calling". It's not meant to be mean, my mom's name is Dorothy and wanted a Wizard of Oz song for her ringtone.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:10 PM   #43
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Why do you care what someone you don't even know says to his wife who you don't know? He wasn't saying it to you, he wasnt saying it about you or your mother or sister or daughter. I will never understand the whole "that offends me" way of thinking. I think that is one of the problems we have these days. We can't do or say anything because we may offend someone. God forbid we wish someone a merry CHRISTMAS! It may offend someone! Oh sorry, I said God! I hope I didn't offend anyone! I say lighten up. There are bigger issues in this world to worry about.
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Did you ever see "The Princess Bride?" Remember the part where the narrator said:



My Mom has a nickname for my Dad. It's a spinoff of something a beloved, long since passed, family member once said. Someone who didn't know us, or the context, might think she was insulting Dad.

When she says it, she's saying "I love you."

When she says it, my Dad hears "I love you".

She uses it in private and in public, cause I don't think she much cares who hears her tell Dad that she loves him. And I know he loves to hear her use that nickname, no matter where it's said.

No one outside of that family in Costco will ever know the meaning of "ball & chain" to them. To you, it's disrespectful, to her, it could have meant "I love you."


My husband and I speak the language of sarcasm to each other. It's very much affection-based.
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Old 01-27-2013, 05:22 PM   #45
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Getting offended on behalf on somebody else never leads to good things. If the wife was offended, I'm sure she is capable of addressing the situation her way. I know my "ball and chain" does.
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