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Old 01-29-2013, 02:13 PM   #1
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I am almost done volunteering for things

I am so frustrated! Argh! I need to vent.

DDs are in 7th grade, and I have been volunteering for things ever since they started school - sports things, school things, band things, girl scouts, etc. I think the time has come for me to step back and let someone else do it for a change.

I am tired of being the parent who has to call and email the other parents over and over to get answers out of them. I am tired of forking out oodles of cash never to be reimbursed.

I want to be the parent who rolls up in the van, opens the door, pushes the kid out, and speeds away.

I think I am going to try that next year.
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Old 01-29-2013, 02:14 PM   #2
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I did that one year. I took a break from almost all the volunteering. After that, I was ready to get back into it. It's okay to take a break now and then.
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Old 01-29-2013, 02:31 PM   #3
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Oh yeah! I know just what you mean!!! Do it! One year, three days after my mother died, I ended up being the only parent finishing the sports banquet for the whole year of sports. Several parents were 'too busy, you understand, don't you?' Then, one of the non-volunteers stood up and asked everyone to thank me for doing it just three days after my mother's death!! I was mad! Really mad! I had deluded myself into thinking no one knew what I was going through-they knew-they didn't care. The next year, I did nothing.
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Old 01-29-2013, 03:24 PM   #4
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IMO, you should never volunteer for something that you're not having fun with. I see so many parents volunteering for stuff to "stay involved". They end up on sixty-five different committees and don't have any fun and get burned out.

Maybe instead of cutting it out completely, just choose the ONE activity that you really ENJOY being part of with your kids. Drop football, keep band. Or whatever. Get involved in one thing you really enjoy. Did wonders for me!

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Old 01-29-2013, 03:32 PM   #5
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You should absolutely take some time off! It will be good for you, good for the kids, and good for the volunteer organization. I took last year "off" from my main volunteering, and it was the best thing I could have done. I was starting to get a little burnt out and bitter, and the time away was exactly what i needed. I'm back this year, with much more focus and enthusiasm. Even better, there are a few people who really stepped up last year who are awesome!
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Old 01-29-2013, 03:36 PM   #6
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If you're not enjoying it, then be done. Another parent will step up.
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Old 01-29-2013, 04:13 PM   #7
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If you're not enjoying it, then be done. Another parent will step up.
Not always. These days the number of parents who treat Little League/Soccer/Scouts etc. as a baby sitting service is amazing. My involvement literally started because nobody else would do it, and the kids............who do want to be there....would suffer. I was on a little league board until 2004. They are having to get Grandparents to run the league because parents won't step up, and the league almost folded.

And despite their parents, there were a lot of kids who told me thank you.....one told me after I umpired a game thanks, because his dad....who was always in the stands...said there is no way he would ever agree to do that.!
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Not always. These days the number of parents who treat Little League/Soccer/Scouts etc. as a baby sitting service is amazing. My involvement literally started because nobody else would do it, and the kids............who do want to be there....would suffer. I was on a little league board until 2004. They are having to get Grandparents to run the league because parents won't step up, and the league almost folded.

And despite their parents, there were a lot of kids who told me thank you.....one told me after I umpired a game thanks, because his dad....who was always in the stands...said there is no way he would ever agree to do that.!
If that's the case, then OK, it's done. Life will go on.
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Old 01-29-2013, 06:59 PM   #9
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Oh yeah! I know just what you mean!!! Do it! One year, three days after my mother died, I ended up being the only parent finishing the sports banquet for the whole year of sports. Several parents were 'too busy, you understand, don't you?' Then, one of the non-volunteers stood up and asked everyone to thank me for doing it just three days after my mother's death!! I was mad! Really mad! I had deluded myself into thinking no one knew what I was going through-they knew-they didn't care. The next year, I did nothing.
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I had to read this out loud to DH because boy can we relate! Our boys were in band and we volunteered often for many things. When our youngest was a senior the only thing we volunteered for was the pit crew. We had a BLAST!! I don't regret all that we did but there were times that I wanted to thump some of the other parents.

Hang in there, step back if you need to, this too shall pass.
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Old 01-29-2013, 07:57 PM   #11
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I think you are doing too much. Keep your favorite and dump the rest. Gain some of your valuable time back!
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If that's the case, then OK, it's done. Life will go on.
I respectfully disagree. Children should not suffer because they have lazy parents.
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Old 01-29-2013, 09:40 PM   #13
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By all means, take a break. You deserve it.
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Old 01-29-2013, 09:44 PM   #14
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I respectfully disagree. Children should not suffer because they have lazy parents.
A lack of enrichment activities hardly constitutes "suffering."
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I respectfully disagree. Children should not suffer because they have lazy parents.
Are all your sports teams run by parents? I thought our local leagues hired people to be umps, etc..
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