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tink20 · 01-16-2013, 06:58 PM

If you (or your child) receive a birthday card from someone in the mail, do you (or have your child) call (or text) to tell them "thank you"?

wendypooh · 01-16-2013, 07:01 PM

I have always thanked anyone for anything given me or my children. Why would this be different. YES, if someone takes the time and makes the effort, a Thank You is in order!!

stsomewhere · 01-16-2013, 07:03 PM

If it was just a card, no I don't send thank you or call. If there was cash or gift card, yes a thank you is in order

riley2008 · 01-16-2013, 07:57 PM

Just a card from someone who may or may not know they received it - call or text. (If a card from Grandma or Godparent they see regularly, but who think it's nice for gets to receive mail - maybe not a call, but mention the next time they are seen.)

Card with a gift (cash, check, giftcard, etc) - send a thank you note.

scrapquitler · 01-16-2013, 09:07 PM

I don't think that a Birthday Card requires a thank you phone call.

On the other hand, when one of us gets a birthday card (or a Christmas card) from a certain relative of ours, we are guaranteed to get a call from her saying "did you get your card in the mail yesterday?" If we don't call or email to say thank you. Of course this is the same relative who calls me to tell me she emailed me a photo...

tennisfan · 01-17-2013, 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by stsomewhere

If it was just a card, no I don't send thank you or call. If there was cash or gift card, yes a thank you is in order

This

unless its someone they see regularly

Pixiedust34 · 01-17-2013, 05:38 AM

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Originally Posted by stsomewhere

If it was just a card, no I don't send thank you or call. If there was cash or gift card, yes a thank you is in order

Same.

aprilgail2 · 01-17-2013, 05:58 AM

Only if there was money or a check in it.

I have never had anyone I sent a birthday card to call me to thank me- that is just odd. I think I would stop sending them out if every person called after I sent them one LOL- I don't enjoy talking on the phone that much to want to get a few dozen extra phone calls a year!

keri125 · 01-17-2013, 06:19 AM

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Originally Posted by scrapquitler

I don't think that a Birthday Card requires a thank you phone call.

On the other hand, when one of us gets a birthday card (or a Christmas card) from a certain relative of ours, we are guaranteed to get a call from her saying "did you get your card in the mail yesterday?" If we don't call or email to say thank you. Of course this is the same relative who calls me to tell me she emailed me a photo...

Too funny! My ex-mother-in-law is like this. I don't mind... my ex-husband recently passed away and I don't think she's convinced that I'm not going to keep her grandson from her. (I would NEVER do that. She is a wonderful grandmother to my son - my issues were with my ex, not with her.). I think it's her way of reassuring herself and that's fine! But your last line did make me laugh!

Disney Doll · 01-17-2013, 06:35 AM

Plain card..no.
Card with gift...yes.

And I'm getting a kick out of the people who have someone in their lives who does the "did you get my card?" call 10 minutes after they actually send the card. My crazy SisIL is like this. Needs to have that adulation.

Of course, this is the same SisIL who doesn't think it's necessary to call and thank anyone for what they send to her or her family. "It's a gift....if you're expecting a thank you then it's no longer a gift, it's an obligation". She doesn't like it when I use her own words on her though...apparently that's different.

Hence the reason she's my crazy SisIL.

marcyinPA · 01-17-2013, 07:41 AM

Other. It depends on if there is something in the card. Cash/check/gift card- yes, you send a thank you. An empty card- not necessary to send a thank you, but nice to say thank you when you see or talk to that person again.

JennaDeeDooDah · 01-17-2013, 07:42 AM

I definitely call and would never text. We also send a thank you card. If someone is going to go to the trouble of remembering my birthday, going to the store, picking out a card for me, and mail it, the least I can do is acknowledge that effort with a phone call. I was also raised to send a thank you note for anything received. Therefore, I call and send a note.

marcyinPA · 01-17-2013, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Disney Doll

Plain card..no.
Card with gift...yes.

And I'm getting a kick out of the people who have someone in their lives who does the "did you get my card?" call 10 minutes after they actually send the card. My crazy SisIL is like this. Needs to have that adulation.

Of course, this is the same SisIL who doesn't think it's necessary to call and thank anyone for what they send to her or her family. "It's a gift....if you're expecting a thank you then it's no longer a gift, it's an obligation". She doesn't like it when I use her own words on her though...apparently that's different.

Hence the reason she's my crazy SisIL.

OMG- yes on the bolded! This is my Aunt! She will send a check in the card for birthdays/Christmas, and we barely have the envelope ripped open and she is searching for a thank you! She makes me absolutely crazy. She is the same aunt who makes out a wish list of gifts for christmas, and sulks if she doesn't get something from her list. She is nearly 60 years old!

wiigirl · 01-17-2013, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by stsomewhere

If it was just a card, no I don't send thank you or call. If there was cash or gift card, yes a thank you is in order

Same here. I do think though if someone sends a bday card they should get one back on their bday.

design_mom · 01-17-2013, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by marcyinPA

Other. It depends on if there is something in the card. Cash/check/gift card- yes, you send a thank you. An empty card- not necessary to send a thank you, but nice to say thank you when you see or talk to that person again.

I agree. If there's a gift in the card I either call or send a thank you note (depending on which we think the sender would prefer.) If it's a card without gift, we don't usually make a special call or note, but I do try to say "thank you" for it the next time I talk to them. If the card was from someone we rarely see or talk to, we might take the opportunity to call... but it would be more because the card reminded me I wanted to talk to them rather than a formal "thank you" call.

I do think it's nice to thank someone for their nice gesture (card), but I think it stops at some point... otherwise, they'd be obligated to send a "thank you for sending me a thank you note" note, and so on.

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01-16-2013, 06:58 PM	#1
tink20 DIS Veteran Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Sittin' on the dock of the bay! Posts: 2,364	Birthday cards If you (or your child) receive a birthday card from someone in the mail, do you (or have your child) call (or text) to tell them "thank you"? __________________ Me DH DD:19 DS:11 "All you need is a little faith, trust, and pixie dust."

01-16-2013, 07:01 PM	#2
wendypooh Jambo Wildbunch Gang Cajun Tinkerbell Princess Tag Toggler Loves kissing Tag Fairy butt ;) Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Baton Rouge ~ GEAUX TIGERS!! Posts: 8,001	I have always thanked anyone for anything given me or my children. Why would this be different. YES, if someone takes the time and makes the effort, a Thank You is in order!! __________________

01-16-2013, 07:57 PM	#4
riley2008 DIS Veteran Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 659	Just a card from someone who may or may not know they received it - call or text. (If a card from Grandma or Godparent they see regularly, but who think it's nice for gets to receive mail - maybe not a call, but mention the next time they are seen.) Card with a gift (cash, check, giftcard, etc) - send a thank you note. __________________ Me DH DS(9) and DS(9) First trip to WDW - August '08 ASM family suite Wilderness Lodge July '09 (wondering when we'll get to go again!) DCL, Magic from Galveston 9/2012

01-17-2013, 05:58 AM	#8
aprilgail2 Ikea- Swedish for CRAP Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 18,092	Only if there was money or a check in it. I have never had anyone I sent a birthday card to call me to thank me- that is just odd. I think I would stop sending them out if every person called after I sent them one LOL- I don't enjoy talking on the phone that much to want to get a few dozen extra phone calls a year! __________________ The world is a magical place full of people waiting to be offended by something!

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01-16-2013, 07:03 PM	#3
stsomewhere DIS Veteran Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 2,997	If it was just a card, no I don't send thank you or call. If there was cash or gift card, yes a thank you is in order

01-16-2013, 09:07 PM	#5
scrapquitler DIS Veteran Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 6,641	I don't think that a Birthday Card requires a thank you phone call. On the other hand, when one of us gets a birthday card (or a Christmas card) from a certain relative of ours, we are guaranteed to get a call from her saying "did you get your card in the mail yesterday?" If we don't call or email to say thank you. Of course this is the same relative who calls me to tell me she emailed me a photo...

01-17-2013, 06:35 AM	#10
Disney Doll DIS Security Matron Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Too far from WDW!! :( Posts: 27,697	Plain card..no. Card with gift...yes. And I'm getting a kick out of the people who have someone in their lives who does the "did you get my card?" call 10 minutes after they actually send the card. My crazy SisIL is like this. Needs to have that adulation. Of course, this is the same SisIL who doesn't think it's necessary to call and thank anyone for what they send to her or her family. "It's a gift....if you're expecting a thank you then it's no longer a gift, it's an obligation". She doesn't like it when I use her own words on her though...apparently that's different. Hence the reason she's my crazy SisIL. __________________ Disney Doll Prepare your child for the path, not the path for your child. Stop telling your God how big the storm is. Instead, tell the storm how big your God is. It's time to put on your big girl panties and deal with it! Don't be so open-minded that your brains fall out. There's no pill that cures stupid. He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. ~~In loving memory of Teddy~~1994-2007~~

01-17-2013, 07:41 AM	#11
marcyinPA I'll never forget the strong, pungent smell of Noxema! I was such a fashion disaster!! Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 7,039	Other. It depends on if there is something in the card. Cash/check/gift card- yes, you send a thank you. An empty card- not necessary to send a thank you, but nice to say thank you when you see or talk to that person again. __________________ 10/93- off site(Holiday Inn Maingate East), 10/94- OKW, 10/97- off site (Doubletree Suites DD), 6/02- FW cabins, 5/04- POR (AB), 9/05-ASMo (Dh's 40th birthday trip!)- Free DDP, 5/07- POP!- DDP, 6/08- We're Cruisin' (NCL Spirit) for my BIG 4-0!,6/09- WL (celebrating my birthday with Mickey!) ,2/11- POP

01-17-2013, 07:42 AM	#12
JennaDeeDooDah My oh my what a wonderful day! Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 2,687	I definitely call and would never text. We also send a thank you card. If someone is going to go to the trouble of remembering my birthday, going to the store, picking out a card for me, and mail it, the least I can do is acknowledge that effort with a phone call. I was also raised to send a thank you note for anything received. Therefore, I call and send a note. __________________

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