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Old 01-16-2013, 03:44 PM   #1
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Bare Face = Divorce?

Ok, here's a thought for discussion.

On our local news channel they have a story tonight on how a local "speaker" feels that women who "let themselves go" account for a lot of the reason marriages fail

Now, let me state that I am in no way being insensitive to divoices or anything like that! I do not agree with this "speakers' Comment. I also am NOT one who always dresses to the nines and has full hair & makeup at all times. nope, not me. I don't know that I agree w/ this theory, but on the facebook post, there were over 3000 comments and alot of them were in agreement????

What do you all think??? Is a women not "doing her hair or makeup" on a regular basis the reasons so many marriage fail in America???
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:46 PM   #2
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Well....my boyfriend has already seen me without makeup and looking like a bum numerous times. If, in the future, we do get married, none of that will be a surprise to him so wouldn't be a reason for a divorce.

For me, that's how it should be. If I'm not comfortable enough with a guy to not wear make up and wear sweatpants and heck, maybe not even shower that day, then he isn't the right guy for me. Of course, this isn't every day, but my point is that if we were to ever get married, I would feel comfortable having a "down" day with him without worrying that he might want to divorce me.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:47 PM   #3
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If that's the case then my marriage should have ended 20 yrs ago. I'm not a big make up wearer...maybe on a special occasion but that is about it.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:48 PM   #4
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If that's the case then my marriage should have ended 20 yrs ago. I'm not a big make up wearer...maybe on a special occasion but that is about it.
Same here.

I think it could be more of a symptom or perhaps an excuse.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:52 PM   #5
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We would not have gotten marred in the first place if that were the deciding factor I have never been a make up every day kind of gal.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:53 PM   #6
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We would not have gotten marred in the first place if that were the deciding factor I have never been a make up every day kind of gal.
My thoughts exactly! In fact, when I do wear make-up, my husband comments on it because that's how rarely it happens.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:54 PM   #7
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:55 PM   #8
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If a decline in a partner's looks (whether male or female) has ANYTHING to do with a divorce (and I don't doubt it does for some), IMO, it wasn't a relationship built on love.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:55 PM   #9
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That "speaker" ought to take a good, long, hard look at himself in the mirror, not just to see how he looks on the outside, but inside as well. I am sure that "speaker" is ugly inside where beauty matters most.

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Old 01-16-2013, 03:59 PM   #10
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IMO, while I suppose not paying attention as much attention to your appearance as you did while you were dating (men OR women) COULD be indicative of not putting effort into your relationship, I don't see not wearing makeup as a marker for divorce. Everyone has their own level of interest in makeup and clothes. Like others here, if my dh was into that he never would have married me in the first place.

However, I think it's reasonable to assert that either spouse deciding that once they're married they can stop personal hygiene practices and stop putting effort into attracting and being attracted to their mate could be a marker of marital dischord.
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Old 01-16-2013, 03:59 PM   #11
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Old 01-16-2013, 04:02 PM   #12
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Consider the source. Just another idiotic thing he has said. I can't believe anyone listens to him and/or takes him seriously.

I rarely wear makeup. My husband STRONGLY prefers that I do not wear makeup. If I was a heavily made up woman, I'm pretty sure he would never have even asked me out.

That being said, I do think BOTH partners in a marriage have an obligation to keep themselves in shape and attractive to the other. It certainly isn't something that falls on the woman alone that's for sure.
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Old 01-16-2013, 04:03 PM   #13
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I always love when this topic comes up in the media every couple of years because the people talking about it almost never mention men who "let themselves go" after years of marriage.

Personally, I don't do my hair or wear makeup at all to begin with, so anyone I enter into relationships with knows what they're getting from the start. I would never marry someone who expected me to look the same forever.
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Old 01-16-2013, 04:05 PM   #14
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Conversely, can I get a divorce because I was unaware of the weird noises and smells I would have to endure as a married woman?
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Old 01-16-2013, 04:27 PM   #15
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Conversely, can I get a divorce because I was unaware of the weird noises and smells I would have to endure as a married woman?

Very funny!

I am one of those who has let herself go...you should see the old, torn tshirts and boxers I wear to bed! My husband should probably divorce me...
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