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Old 01-13-2013, 10:03 PM   #16
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A few vacations back there was a man and his son behind us in line and the boy (probably about 7) was crying and trembling that he didn't want to ride HM and the father was forcing the child to go on the ride. The child was shaking and the father forced him on. I was livid and it broke my heart that a parent would force a child onto something that he was so scared of (probably and ego thing for the stupid father). My son is 9 years old and he doesn't want to ride and we say "OK, but your missing a great ride". He has been on once or twice before but he thinks it's too scary. I am fine with it, and let him make his own choice.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:16 PM   #17
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OMG, my ds (11) is the same way! He has never ridden it although the rest of his sib's have. I ask him every time, and every time he says no. Last time (he was 10) we got as far as the stretch room, but as soon as the lights went off he freaked and had to be escorted out. I won't force him to ride it, but do find it very annoying especially considering I know he'll love it and will ride pretty much everything else. Makes no darn sense to me! LOL
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:16 PM   #18
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Well, you are the only one that know your son. I always said to my son that he need to tried one time an see if he like it or no. Example in California they have the Matterhorn , I went on it first by myself and saw that it doesn't droop you and the monster isn't scary , he refuse but I was sure he would love it, he went on it guess what 3 times he rode that thing. But on the other hand I know he would hate TOT so he have never done that and I said to him you do it when you want it.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:29 PM   #19
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it' s maddening to me that ODS (9.5) WILL not give Haunted
mansion a try. refuses! thinks it will be too scary. he goes on just about everything else and his irrational fear of HM drives me crazy. his 3.5 y.o. sister went on and that didnt even sway him. ive showed him videos of the ride but theyre mostly pretty dark which doesnt help much. how can i convince him to go on it?
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Leave him be. My DD, who is 18 now, didn't ride HM until she was 15. There's a nice porch that she waited for the rest of us to exit the ride. Her cousin finally talked her into it. We'd been telling her about the ride for years, but we couldn't convince her. Your ODS will be ready when he is ready.
Agreed. Wanted to add two things:

1) I've been going to DL/WDW since I was two years old. I went on all sorts of rides growing up. But Haunted Mansion? Not until I was in college. Not kidding. I would sit on the bench outside and wait for my parents and my little brother. Finally, sitting outside of HM one night, I realized it would be less scary to be with my family inside HM than sitting by myself outside of HM and I tried it. It was hilarious. Couldn't believe I missed that ride for so long and it really was more scary waiting outside alone in the dark! But they never pushed me and I really appreciated it.

2) We do the same with our kids - we encourage them to give rides a try, but nobody is forced on a ride. Our boys (now ages 6, 12 and 13) have been going to WDW and DL frequently since our oldest was a baby. The only one who ever resisted HM was our youngest. We encouraged him to give it a try, but didn't force him. Last year at DL, we tried again by saying "Let's check it out." He said OK. He thought it was fine. After that, he skipped HM twice at WDW and now goes on it again. It's nice when we can all ride together, but if he wants to sit it out, that's fine too.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:29 PM   #20
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Have you tried bribery? My DD can be a ride chicken, and we've done everything from the Mickey head ice cream bar to a toy she wanted (which she would have gotten anyway, but shhh don't tell her!). If that doesn't work, I'm with the others that say let him do it in his own time. At age 8, I actually had to be evacuated from HM through a back entrance after the strectching room because my parents had pushed me to go on it and I was absolutely terrified and was NOT getting on that ride. The worst thing was I was also terrified to follow the CM that was getting me out through the back entrance because he looked really scary to me in his outfit and it looked dark the way he was having me go. Not one of my finer childhood moments!
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:42 PM   #21
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There are HM ride videos on u-tube. Try watching one of those together. Talk with him about the ride and what his fears might be. You never know maybe a child at school told him stuff that was not accurate about the attraction. I would certainly talk to a CM and skip the elevator part at the beginning of the ride. So many people scream LOL and act like idiots which could end up undoing any good work you might have done with watching the video and talking about ride.

Good luck--

Please do not push him to ride HM there is a reason he is worried. Oh one more thing there is a movie about the HM -- sort of funny actually. This might make him a bit curious. OK again Good Luck

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Old 01-13-2013, 10:43 PM   #22
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I pushed one of my children to ride HM before she was ready and she got on the ride without a fuss. And couldn't bring herself to get on it again for 15 years! I felt like the worst mother in the entire world. From the voice of experience- do not do what I did.
You are not alone; I got my young daughter to go on a log flume ride with us years ago, knowing she didn't want to. BIG mistake, with negative consequences for years after. She is 21 now, and still won't go on a coaster (or Splash Mtn., etc.). How many times I've read a parent saying they "know" their child will love it. Well they don't know that for sure, so best not to take a chance.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:51 PM   #23
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Well, you are the only one that know your son. I always said to my son that he need to tried one time an see if he like it or no. Example in California they have the Matterhorn , I went on it first by myself and saw that it doesn't droop you and the monster isn't scary , he refuse but I was sure he would love it, he went on it guess what 3 times he rode that thing. But on the other hand I know he would hate TOT so he have never done that and I said to him you do it when you want it.
Same here. My son has tried every ride once. If he didn't like it he is not pressured to go again by anyone.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:54 PM   #24
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If someone -- adult or child -- doesn't want to ride a particular attraction, for whatever reason, I don't see the point in tricking or forcing or bribing or shaming them into riding it. Either the person will decide to ride the attraction eventually, or not. What's the difference? Are you afraid that they'll miss some sort of life-altering experience that they might not have otherwise? That they can't possibly have fun unless they participate in something that you want them to?

And I'm not so certain that even a parent can say that "I'm sure my child will love this!" Just because your child or friend or spouse loves something that, to you, is very similar, doesn't mean that they will see it that way. It may be VERY different to them.

I'm absolutely certain that the friends and parents who insist on dragging an unwilling participant into something believe that they are doing that person a favor. But I'm not so certain that they're necessarily right. The situation is as likely to explode in your face as it is to result in an epiphany of enthusiasm. Go with the flow. There are other things to do, both at WDW and in life.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:59 PM   #25
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If someone -- adult or child -- doesn't want to ride a particular attraction, for whatever reason, I don't see the point in tricking or forcing or bribing or shaming them into riding it. Either the person will decide to ride the attraction eventually, or not. What's the difference? Are you afraid that they'll miss some sort of life-altering experience that they might not have otherwise? That they can't possibly have fun unless they participate in something that you want them to?

And I'm not so certain that even a parent can say that "I'm sure my child will love this!" Just because your child or friend or spouse loves something that, to you, is very similar, doesn't mean that they will see it that way. It may be VERY different to them.

I'm absolutely certain that the friends and parents who insist on dragging an unwilling participant into something believe that they are doing that person a favor. But I'm not so certain that they're necessarily right. The situation is as likely to explode in your face as it is to result in an epiphany of enthusiasm. Go with the flow. There are other things to do, both at WDW and in life.
It's not that they are going to miss a life experience it's just, in my situation any way, if my ds didn't go none of us could go.
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Old 01-13-2013, 11:02 PM   #26
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We let our boys make their own decisions regarding rides. There are certain things in life that they have to do. Going on rides is not one of them. Whether they're scared or the ride just doesn't appeal to them, it's fine with me if they sit it out. Heck, there are some rides I don't like and I would hate for anyone to try to pressure me to go on them.
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Old 01-13-2013, 11:05 PM   #27
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It's not that they are going to miss a life experience it's just, in my situation any way, if my ds didn't go none of us could go.
You can always split up. When our boys were younger, DH and would frequently take turns going on rides alone. Now we might split up and each take a boy on different rides. We still do plenty of things all together, so it's not a problem to mix things up a few times a day.
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Old 01-13-2013, 11:07 PM   #28
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I'm with you. I've got. 9.5 year old who is scared to death of it. Even though he's been on it like 5 or 6 times. He actually refers to it as the terror ride. I usually go with bribery. If that doesn't work he rides the "white bench ride" outside the HM while we ride.

I source of my irritation is because we allow him to play scary video games like black ops and resident evil and he doesn't blink an eye. But put a 50 year old musty robot in his face and he poops his pants.
The visual on this was great, you just gave me quite the laugh
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Old 01-13-2013, 11:37 PM   #29
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Leave it alone. My 9 year old is scared of it too and he loves all the thrill rides.

We made a deal last year that if we stood at the entrance and he saw three people who were younger than him go in, he would try it. Three young kids passed us, we went in and got to the stretching room, he nearly started having a panic attack and tearing up. I immediately found a CM and we were led out of the exit.

He did start crying then because he thought I was disappointed in him - I hugged him and told him I would never force him to do anything that scared him. I like the ride and I hope he tries it someday, but is a ride worth forcing my child to do something that may stick with him in a very bad way for years to come? Absolutely not. He apologized to me several times (which was unnecessary) apologized to DH when we got back to him (again, we told him it wasn't a big deal) and then we went to Big Thunder Mountain where he had a great time.

A theme park ride is not worth making my child worry for one single minute.
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Old 01-13-2013, 11:56 PM   #30
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I'm one of those that refused to ride HM until I was an adult. One of my earliest memories is of my 3 year old sister fearlessly going on the ride while I (5 years old) and my cousin walked around the planters outside waiting. She came out with a mile-wide grin, but it didn't bother me at all. I knew my limits, and HM was my limit. Even now, the pre-show can still get me.

From the other side of the fence, when my DH and I went to WDW for our Honeymoon, we went on It's Tough to be a Bug for our first and last time. A woman dragged her kicking, screaming 4 year old into the theater insisting that he would love it. He screamed like he was being tortured the whole time, and it affected us enough WE haven't wanted to go on again! Others in the rows around us were also speaking openly about her taking her son out of the room, but she just shook her head and ignored everyone, including that poor child.
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