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Old 01-09-2013, 05:08 PM   #241
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Taking a boy in the ladies room is bad enough, making him come in the stall with his mom is CRAZY!
Frankly, I was glad he went into the stall with her. If she was so worried about him then that's where he belonged. Right where she could keep an eye on him all the time. Safe and sound .
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Old 01-09-2013, 05:08 PM   #242
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It's not tricky at all . EVEN if she was trying to teach him a lesson I found her parenting methods to be (1) humiliating to her child and (2) disruptive to the rest of the women and girls who were waiting to use their own gendered bathroom.
Again, as I said, you have no idea at all what was going on.

Maybe she was just embarrassing him. Maybe he habitually runs off. Maybe there's something else going on. Maybe there isn't. But no one here has any way if knowing, do they? So yes. It is tricky. Because you are judging that which you don't know.

I just get tired of the far off statements based on a small snipit of someone's actions like he's ruined for life, etc. No one has any way of knowing that (in this case).
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Old 01-09-2013, 05:26 PM   #243
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I'll just point out that a guy was arrested for being a creeper and looking over the stalls in the women's bathroom at Epcot.

Nothing is totally safe, but living your life in fear of everything is absurd.
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:03 PM   #244
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Get in line with all 3 of you; when you get to the front, explain to the attendant that your 12 year old won't be riding. The CM will direct her to the gift shop and she will only be alone for a few minutes. This is what I've done when traveling with my 2 nieces, one of whom is a ride demon and the other of whom is a ride chicken.
My dd just turned 13, we have not needed to worry about this but I would totally do as the pp said if we did. That way she gets to spend the time with you and then is alone in gift shop for a short window of time. Make sure she knows not to wander off to restroom or out of the gift shop to see a passing parade etc., until you get off the ride, unless she texts you first or whatever your agreement is with her, otherwise you will have heart failure.
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:15 PM   #245
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It's not tricky at all . EVEN if she was trying to teach him a lesson I found her parenting methods to be (1) humiliating to her child and (2) disruptive to the rest of the women and girls who were waiting to use their own gendered bathroom.
How exactly does one child and mother fussing "disrupt" a grown woman waiting for a restroom stall? I can see little girls rubber-necking to see what was going on but adults should know better. If the mom isn't abusing the child I wouldn't give it a second thought because it is not my business. But I'm very much of the to-each-his-own mindset. Your parenting style may not work for my kids and mine may not work for yours.

Frankly, I'd rather feel a little awkward for a minute or two if it meant another mother felt secure about her child's safety. I've had my DD ask me why a little boy was in the ladies room. I explained to her "because his mommy wants him to be with her so she can make sure he's safe". That satisfied her so I don't understand why it's so hard for grown-ups to be more understanding. Really, if the boy is not peering in on my DD, how is his prescience putting a damper on my restroom time? (And,of course, I would be there to prevent said peering.) Would I send my DS's in with me at that age? Not unless I was super uncomfortable about their safety, which I never was. I would never put my children in a position I deem unsafe to try and appease a stranger and I wouldn't want anyone else to either.
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:22 PM   #246
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I'm just curious as to what age the line is drawn for boys to be in the ladies room.

I imagine some mothers feel just as unsettled leaving their 13 year old boys waiting alone.

What's too old for people that don't have a problem 9/10 years in there?
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:23 PM   #247
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Just wanted to say thank you to seven dwarfs for sharing that terrible experience. I'm so sorry this has happened to your family. It's certainly given me a new perspective and I will be on guard at WDW. Sending you all my kindest thoughts...
I agree. Parents have to learn that not even Disney can be completely safe from strange people. You have to be on the look out for any type of situation. Your kids need and deserve your protection. TDBIASWS.
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:24 PM   #248
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I'm just curious as to what age the line is drawn for boys to be in the ladies room.

I imagine some mothers feel just as unsettled leaving their 13 year old boys waiting alone.

What's too old for people that don't have a problem 9/10 years in there?
I would say 7 is too old. JMHO.

I allow my 5 year old to use the restroom alone though... so there you have it.
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Old 01-09-2013, 06:30 PM   #249
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I'm just curious as to what age the line is drawn for boys to be in the ladies room.

I imagine some mothers feel just as unsettled leaving their 13 year old boys waiting alone.

What's too old for people that don't have a problem 9/10 years in there?
I'll be honest, this is something that just doesn't bother me. Maybe it comes from having co-ed bathrooms at college, I don't know. I don't have boys, only girls, but I'm just not bothered by this. I don't feel unsafe, I don't feel uncomfortable, and I don't feel upset.

I'm not all that concerned with stating an age cutoff (as you can't tell a child's age just from looking), but i am concerned with actions. As long as the person is behaving (not peering into the stalls, trying to climb under them, not harassing others), then I'm just not personally fussed about it. If they are standing and waiting or using the facilities, then whatever, IMHO.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:06 PM   #250
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How exactly does one child and mother fussing "disrupt" a grown woman waiting for a restroom stall?
The mother and the son made a scene. They were having a fairly loud argument that continued for the majority of my wait (about 2-3 minutes) and she tried to physically pull him into the bathroom multiple times while he objected loudly. Believe me. It wasn't something that anyone could simply ignore.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:13 PM   #251
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I've had my DD ask me why a little boy was in the ladies room. I explained to her "because his mommy wants him to be with her so she can make sure he's safe". That satisfied her so I don't understand why it's so hard for grown-ups to be more understanding.
I just wanted to point out that your DD is 5-6 years old. That is lightyears from having a teenager who has to take care of more grown-up womanly things with a 5th or 6th grade boy in the same bathroom.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:34 PM   #252
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Here's a thought......If you are unwilling to let your 10 year old son go into the men's room alone, maybe you should go into the men's room with him. That way you will be the one out of place, not him. You will be the one getting stared at, not him. You can be the one feeling self-conscious, not him. After a few visits you will be in a better position to decide if he'r ready to do his business without you being right there with him.

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Old 01-09-2013, 08:41 PM   #253
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I consider myself as somewhat overprotective and I can't imagine a problem with leaving a 12 year old in a gift shop for a short time while riding a ride. That said, I agree that it might be better to have her go in line with you and then exiting at the "chicken exit" where she can wait for you when you are finished. Less time waiting.

As far as boys in the bathroom, I guess I'm very lucky to not only having my DH almost always with us, but that I have 2 boys. If DH is not with me, I send the 2 boys in to the men's restroom together and stand outside. I can't imagine bringing a boy older than about 8 into the women's restroom...my boys would be terribly embarrassed.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:44 PM   #254
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U could always have your daughter walk through the line with u and when u get up to the ride tell the cast member that she doesnt wanna ride, which they will escort her through a special exit. My grandfather does that when he pushes me in my wheelchair on to rides that he cant go on. Always another option.
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I'll be honest, this is something that just doesn't bother me. Maybe it comes from having co-ed bathrooms at college, I don't know. I don't have boys, only girls, but I'm just not bothered by this. I don't feel unsafe, I don't feel uncomfortable, and I don't feel upset.

I'm not all that concerned with stating an age cutoff (as you can't tell a child's age just from looking), but i am concerned with actions. As long as the person is behaving (not peering into the stalls, trying to climb under them, not harassing others), then I'm just not personally fussed about it. If they are standing and waiting or using the facilities, then whatever, IMHO.


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