Disney Information Station Logo

Go Back   The DIS Discussion Forums - DISboards.com > Just for Fun > Community Board
Find Hotel Specials & DIScounts
 
facebooktwitterpinterestgoogle plusyoutubeDIS UpdatesDIS email updates
Register Chat FAQ Tickers Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read





Reply
 
Thread Tools Rate Thread Display Modes
Old 01-02-2013, 12:50 PM   #31
scrappinDW
Mouseketeer
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Iowa
Posts: 247

Parents don't have to sleep all alone, why do kids? You send your child off to be in a dark, scary room and then you cuddle up next to your spouse.
It doesn't seem fair to me either.
scrappinDW is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 01:02 PM   #32
Luv Bunnies
DIS Veteran
 
Luv Bunnies's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: California
Posts: 5,914

Quote:
Originally Posted by FlightlessDuck View Post
This may be drastic, but have you considered rearranging the rooms so both your room and her room are on the same floor? Is that even possible?
I was wondering the same thing. Is there another room on the same floor as yours that she can have as a bedroom?

My DS17 has Asperger's and anxiety. When he was around 5, he kept saying he was scared of being in his room. He would fall asleep in there and then end up climbing in between us a few hours later. We tried everything, including letting him sleep on the floor in our room. The last straw was one night when he said, "I'm scared of my room! I'm going to die in my room!" That showed us just how much anxiety he had over staying in there. We were ready to move our then 2 year old out of the room right next to ours and into a bigger room (we have 4 bedrooms upstairs). We gave our 5 year old the choice of staying in his room or moving into the another one. He chose to move, even choosing a slightly smaller room. As soon as we moved him and put his brother in his old room right next door, he started sleeping through the night.

Perhaps your DD would do better in another room, if there's one available.
Luv Bunnies is offline   Reply With Quote
|
The DIS
Register to remove

Join Date: 1997
Location: Orlando, FL
Posts: 1,000,000
Old 01-02-2013, 01:30 PM   #33
StitchesGr8Fan
DIS Veteran
 
StitchesGr8Fan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 3,825

If this has been going on a long time, it may be an indicator of a bigger anxiety problem. It was with me and I didn't get better until I was 13 and in therapy and on medication.
__________________
'86-offsite, '91-Buena Vista Palace, '92-offsite, '97-offsite, '98-Magic Music Days, '06-ASMu, '07-FtW, '09-ASMu,'10-POR,'12-Poly (Honeymoon!)
'14 - Pop
StitchesGr8Fan is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 01:50 PM   #34
funkychunkymonkey
DIS Veteran
 
funkychunkymonkey's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: in the land of Little House
Posts: 2,556

I was just like this. At 9, I decided I couldnt sleep in my room, someone was going to come in and kill me. I was on the oppisite end of the house from my mom (and closer to the front door). At one point, i bobytrapped my end of the house, worked for awile! I spent almost 3 years sleeping in my sleeping bag on my moms floor on and off. Eventually I went back to my own room. Funny thing is, I still sleep better in a sleeping bag (and use mine in my bed everynight, makes me feel secure, like nothing can get me)
__________________
190 books out of 100
me Mom tia DC10 DC11 ole lady (grandma) rincess: DSis Dbil
boz boo batterbutt
RIP:
guiedo (guiena pig) bluebeard
funkychunkymonkey is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 01:55 PM   #35
SaraJayne
Stop moving those smilies!
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 12,075

One of my friends/neighbor had this same issue with her tween.

Once the mother toned down the drama/neurotic behavior, her DD got much better at bedtime and they've had no issues since then.
SaraJayne is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 01:58 PM   #36
yoopermom
Suffers from too many teenage Stephen King influences
 
Join Date: Sep 2000
Location: Da beautiful U.P. of Michigan
Posts: 3,625

Do you have a pet (preferably a dog) that could sleep in the room with her? If not, could you borrow one ?

DS went through a stage like this, and we would put our Boston Terrier (who wouldn't hurt a fly, but DS didn't know that) in bed with DS, and tell him, "Don't worry the dog will protect you". He believed it, that's all that matters!

And I agree with the others who say that anxiety issues can be very real, and can grow/manifest in other ways, so it might be worth talking to her pediatrician or a counselor, as well....

Terri
yoopermom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 02:13 PM   #37
Iforgetmypassword
"I am Mrs. Nesbit!!"
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 411

Quote:
Originally Posted by SaraJayne View Post
One of my friends/neighbor had this same issue with her tween.

Once the mother toned down the drama/neurotic behavior, her DD got much better at bedtime and they've had no issues since then.
Agreed. Sometimes being dramatic gets rewarded.

When I was 9, I was scared of vampires coming out of my closet. I learned to cope. Being one of 8 children, sleeping in my parents' room wasn't an option, and neither parent was likely to sleep with me!! I learned coping skills instead, and they've served me well in other aspects of my life.
Iforgetmypassword is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 08:28 PM   #38
Poohforyou
DIS Veteran
 
Poohforyou's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: NJ
Posts: 3,411

Is there a way you could make a bedroom for her on the same floor as yours? Just from a safety standpoint I wouldn't want my child on a different floor. As for the issue of her not wanting to sleep in her room I'd set up some kind of reward system.
Poohforyou is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 08:36 PM   #39
Jennasis
It's a miracle! I stayed awake during the El Rio Del Tiempo ride!
Let's not even TOUCH the whole Dog vs. dawg vs. Dowg thing!
PLINKO baby!
 
Jennasis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2000
Location: The Triad, NC
Posts: 24,804

Some thoughts:

1. A nightlight.

2. A television. When I was a kid I always felt safer when there were cartoons playing while I fell asleep.

3. Make her go to bed well before you do. I always felt safer falling asleep while my parents were still awake...like they could protect me from bad stuff since they were awake.

4. A puppy or kitten. Seriously. Something for her to snuggle up with in her room.

5. Closed circuit tv. Don't laugh. If she could see you were still there all night it might help.
__________________
Jennasis is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 08:49 PM   #40
Bluestars
Smile and let the world wonder what you have been up to
I know I am strange, but you asked
 
Bluestars's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 3,074

I had a problem with my youngest child when he turned 11 and his older brother moved out of the house. He became afraid to sleep upstairs by himself. My husband would go up to his room and talk to him for five or ten minutes to help him relax. My son would fall asleep, but he would sometimes wake up at night and come downstairs to our bedroom. He was scared and didn't know why.

We ended up just putting an air mattress in our room. He wouldn't wake up every night, but he knew it was there in case he needed it. We didn't want him to feel embarrassed or bad.

That went on for a year or so and one day he stopped coming downstairs. One thing that has stayed the same is that every night my husband will go upstairs before he goes to sleep and just have a one on one talk about how his day was. It's not necessary, but I think it's kind of cool.
Bluestars is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 09:04 PM   #41
mom2val
Can't wait to go back
 
mom2val's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: usa
Posts: 1,456

My dd was afraid to sleep alone until she was 11. She would either sleep with dh and me or I slept with her upstairs. Last year she decided she wanted to sleep alone and that was that. Dh and I always felt like if dd needed us at night then we were going to be there for her.
__________________
2005 CBR, 2008 AKL, 2009 Pop, 2010 POFQ, 2011 Pop, 2012 DCL Magic, 2013 DCL Wonder, 2015 DCL Wonder
mom2val is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 09:11 PM   #42
riley2008
DIS Veteran
 
riley2008's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 683

Quote:
Originally Posted by ge0rgette2 View Post
Not rude at all...

As for privacy I get ya, but, my husband works nights, arrives homes at 1am sometimes a little later, so I'm by myself anyways :D

She wants to sleep with me til he gets home, then he's too tired to carry her.

I think the cot is a simple fix for now, so she's not right NEXT to me all night long, maybe it'll help her fear a little.
One of my boys (both 9) started this about 4 months ago. The difference though is that we all have upstairs rooms and he shares with his brother.

My husband works a 24/48 hours shift, so every third day, DS thinks he can sleep in my bed. He'll even start out in his bed, but arrive sometime during the night. (He also wants to sleep in our room when DH is home, too.) I gave in a fixed a pallet of blankets near the bed - he can come in and sleep on that.

Strange thing though, he slept GREAT on our cruise - all in the same room I guess. He also slept GREAT duing the holidays when we had guests or the boys had sleepovers. As soon as the guests left, he trailed back.

DH is losing patience though. I'm thinking it's a normal stage and this too shall pass.
__________________
Me
DH
DS(11) and DS(11)

First trip to WDW - August '08 ASM family suite
Wilderness Lodge July '09
(wondering when we'll get to go again!)
DCL, Magic from Galveston 9/2012
riley2008 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 09:15 PM   #43
SpecialK
DIS Veteran
 
SpecialK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 2,558

One of our sons went through it, too. We made an air mattress available either in our room or his brother's room. He outgrew it and has no fears or neuroses now.
SpecialK is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 09:20 PM   #44
DeluxePrincess
Humming the Farm Town song...
 
DeluxePrincess's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Posts: 2,653

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jennasis View Post
Some thoughts:

5. Closed circuit tv. Don't laugh. If she could see you were still there all night it might help.
Just don't forget it's on if you and DH have "a moment". That might really scare the girl!
__________________
DeluxePrincess is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-02-2013, 09:44 PM   #45
bookgirl
I don't eat onions-they squelch when you bite into them
I don't eat raisins-they look like dried up bugs
Can we say food issues?
 
bookgirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: In a OK state
Posts: 6,247

My 13 year old nephew still will not sleep alone. Most nights he ends up in his mom's room. She has let him sleep in her room his whole life even when her and my brother were married and let it continue after they broke up. He has some minor anxiety (which she fosters because she is afraid to sleep alone and will often guilt him into coming home on his nights at his Dad's because she is afraid). He loves having sleepovers because he has a built in roommate.

His twin on the other hand could sleep alone in a house by himself. He also refuses to give into his mom's insecurites and dramatics and tells her she's supposed to be a grown up and get's on to her about letting his brother sleep in her room and her encouraging him to be insecure. He is however more accepting of his brothers quirks and will often bunk down on the couches in the front room so his brother will sleep on the other couch.

When he's at my brothers he either goes and sleeps in his brothers room in the recliner or both boys fall asleep on the couches in the family room. Also my brothers house is THE house and whenever he has the twins there is almost always a few extra boys as well so it just becomes a huge pile up in the upstairs rooms and there are kids sleeping everywhere. LOL He will also fall asleep watching tv in his dad's big king size bed, so my brother will sometimes just let him stay, but he really does try to discourage that, but it's hard when mom let's him do it every night that he's at her house in fact she expects him too.

We all said it's just a phase, and it's not like he's going to be a teenager and still sleeping in his parents room, oh and the best....he'll eventually want his own space. Nope.

I wish we had done something more drastic when he WAS 9, maybe we still wouldn't be dealing with it now.
__________________
DL 3/2000 OFFSITE WDW 1/2009 ASMu WDW 9/2011 BC&POFQ WDW/IOA 10/2012 AoA/POFQ/ASMu WDW 10/2013 POR WDW 3/2014 AllStarSports WDW 7/2014 Offsite AAU Nationals @ WWoS WDW 10/2014 WL

UPCOMING: 1/15 AllStar Movies WDW

bookgirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply



Thread Tools
Display Modes Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

facebooktwitterpinterestgoogle plusyoutubeDIS Updates
GET OUR DIS UPDATES DELIVERED BY EMAIL



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:24 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

Copyright © 1997-2014, Werner Technologies, LLC. All Rights Reserved.