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Old 12-14-2012, 06:05 AM   #16
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I'm going to take the unpopular position and say "do nothing". Take care of your son's injuries. This was a school fight, the girl was suspended for 5 days, case closed.
ITA but wow that girl sounds like she maybe a little unhinged. I am sorry but a normal logically thinking girl would never behave in such an irrational manner. I hope her parents get her to a doctor before she shows up to school with a gun.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:21 AM   #17
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I'm going to take the unpopular position and say "do nothing". Take care of your son's injuries. This was a school fight, the girl was suspended for 5 days, case closed.
That was my thought as well.

OP, what more are you looking for?
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:34 AM   #18
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That was my thought as well.

OP, what more are you looking for?

I'm not looking for anything more. We weren't even looking to get the girl suspended. I just wanted the school aware of the situation in case she decided to try to get my son in trouble. We even told the assistant principal as much. It was the school's decision to suspend her. I am just concerned for my son. She is the one who stated that her dad was really angry and wanted to come to the school to confront my son. Wouldn't you be concerned? She obviously has anger issues, what if her dad is the same way? I don't want the girl punished further. I just don't want my son to be constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:37 AM   #19
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I would file a police report ASAP.

He is 19 and she is 15. She could report it as an assault on her and it would be an assault on a minor. While it sounds to me like he'd not have issues if this was the case, do you really want to go through the hassle of dealing with that?

Agree with other posters that a) the girl seems a little unstable to begin with and b) you should at least consult an attorney.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:41 AM   #20
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I'm not looking for anything more. We weren't even looking to get the girl suspended. I just wanted the school aware of the situation in case she decided to try to get my son in trouble. We even told the assistant principal as much. It was the school's decision to suspend her. I am just concerned for my son. She is the one who stated that her dad was really angry and wanted to come to the school to confront my son. Wouldn't you be concerned? She obviously has anger issues, what if her dad is the same way? I don't want the girl punished further. I just don't want my son to be constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Who/when did she state that to? And is your son concern about retaliation? Or is more your concern? I know I worry about my kids way more than they worry about themselves.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:45 AM   #21
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I'm going to see what happens today. She was suspended yesterday. I told my son to call me if the principal questions him further.

As I said, I don't want to punish the girl further and if we file a report with the police, it will be out of our hands. Due to the nature of the charges, the DA decides to prosecute or not. I used to be a deputy and my husband is a city police officer. We know how the system works, that's what worries us. The number of grudge warrants and frivolous lawsuits in the system is staggering.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:50 AM   #22
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Who/when did she state that to? And is your son concern about retaliation? Or is more your concern? I know I worry about my kids way more than they worry about themselves.


He is concerned about retaliation. That is part of the reason he didn't report the incident immediately. He said that the gangs at his school say, "Snitches get stitches." And the girl told my son, the following morning that her dad was angry and wanted to confront him.

I am worried and it is justified. He did nothing and was attacked. He still did nothing other than try to get away from the attack.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:54 AM   #23
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He is concerned about retaliation. That is part of the reason he didn't report the incident immediately. He said that the gangs at his school say, "Snitches get stitches." And the girl told my son, the following morning that her dad was angry and wanted to confront him.

I am worried and it is justified. He did nothing and was attacked. He still did nothing other than try to get away from the attack.
Yes, your concerns are justified. I would be worried too. But I think escalating it would just make things worse (no matter how deserving it is). If the girl just started her suspension, you should be pretty close to Christmas break by the time she returns. Hopefully things will cool down when they return next year.
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Old 12-14-2012, 07:00 AM   #24
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I would let it go. Christmas break is coming and things will blow over.
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Old 12-14-2012, 07:00 AM   #25
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OP I totally understand why you don't want to pursue the situation, but isn't the school required to report it? Sexual abuse is a must report incident at our schools, not by the parents but by the school itself.

Can't you force the school's hands to make the report on behalf of your son? I would be concerned that this young lady will be back in the school and could do worse to another student. Again, I get that you don't want to do it, but please consider finding out the laws in your state regarding what the school is required to do. If they are required to report it please make them.

I hope that your son is able to finish out the end of the school drama-free.
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OP I would consult a lawyer and not allow your son to be questioned by anyone without you present. It seems you have a bad feeling that this is going to go further. Trust your gut.
I agree with this.
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Old 12-14-2012, 07:26 AM   #27
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OP I totally understand why you don't want to pursue the situation, but isn't the school required to report it? Sexual abuse is a must report incident at our schools, not by the parents but by the school itself.

Can't you force the school's hands to make the report on behalf of your son? I would be concerned that this young lady will be back in the school and could do worse to another student. Again, I get that you don't want to do it, but please consider finding out the laws in your state regarding what the school is required to do. If they are required to report it please make them.

I hope that your son is able to finish out the end of the school drama-free.
The assistant principal said that my son should have reported it as soon as it happened and the school would have charged her. I don't know what difference a day makes. I spoke with a teacher at a different school about the incident. She said that the schools are getting pressure about the "numbers", not just test scores, but suspensions. If they suspend or charge too many kids it hurts their numbers. I find that disgusting. And I don't think they took it as seriously because he is a boy. Had he done something to a girl, they would be all over it.
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Old 12-14-2012, 07:29 AM   #28
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Adding that I agree that this was a sexual assult and should be reported to the police. The school should also be treating it as such.
I agree. The first thing I would have done is call the police.

What a crappy situation for you and your DS to be in, especially when the school seems to be dismissing what happened.
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Old 12-14-2012, 07:32 AM   #29
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OP- being so close to the holiday break, is it possible to keep him out of school for a few days, getting his work from teachers, etc, to help this blow over? (especially when that girl comes back from her suspension?)
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OP- being so close to the holiday break, is it possible to keep him out of school for a few days, getting his work from teachers, etc, to help this blow over? (especially when that girl comes back from her suspension?)
She won't be back until after Christmas break. I would love to keep him home, he's sick with bronchitis, but he would get too far behind in his classes. He has dyslexia and struggles in math. Missing 4 days could cause him to fail this six weeks.
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