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Old 10-11-2012, 10:16 PM   #1
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Parent Teacher Conference WWYD?

At Open House for my 5th grade dd, teacher told me and another parent that if we knew our child was doing well and there were no issues, we could forego the conference since we probably didn't want to have to just listen to her tell us how wonderful our kids were-we already knew that. I went over to the sign up sheets and signed up for a conference anyways.

Today, I got the following email from the teacher. A couple other moms got it too.

"Good Morning,
I wanted to touch base with you regarding the Parent/Teacher Conference you signed up for. As I mentioned at Open House, I am not trying to discourage any parent from meeting with me, but as a parent of a very successful student, I found it frustrating to make all the arrangements for a 15 min meeting where the teacher told me my child was great.

I am letting you know that your dd is doing very well so far this year, working at grade level and at the high end of grade level. Unless you have any concerns, I really don't have anything to discuss at our conference.

Please let me know if you would like to meet, or if a phone conversation would work better for you. Thank you, by the way, for raising such a kind and wonderful daughter - she is a pleasure to have in class!

Mrs. Teacher
Pleasant Valley Elementary School"

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Old 10-11-2012, 10:20 PM   #2
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I think that a teacher's job includes knowing her students well enough to be able to discuss all of them, and that the email isn't acceptable.

I'd probably write back and say something along the lines of "I appreciate your offer, and needless to say I'm pleased that she's doing so well. However, I believe that a strong home-school connection has been a key to her success, and therefore I'm looking forward to a chance to see some work samples and hear about how you intend to challenge her this year. I look forward to seeing you on (date) at (time)."
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:23 PM   #3
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At Open House for my 5th grade dd, teacher told me and another parent that if we knew our child was doing well and there were no issues, we could forego the conference since we probably didn't want to have to just listen to her tell us how wonderful our kids were-we already knew that. I went over to the sign up sheets and signed up for a conference anyways.

Today, I got the following email from the teacher. A couple other moms got it too.

"Good Morning,
I wanted to touch base with you regarding the Parent/Teacher Conference you signed up for. As I mentioned at Open House, I am not trying to discourage any parent from meeting with me, but as a parent of a very successful student, I found it frustrating to make all the arrangements for a 15 min meeting where the teacher told me my child was great.

I am letting you know that your dd is doing very well so far this year, working at grade level and at the high end of grade level. Unless you have any concerns, I really don't have anything to discuss at our conference.

Please let me know if you would like to meet, or if a phone conversation would work better for you. Thank you, by the way, for raising such a kind and wonderful daughter - she is a pleasure to have in class!

Mrs. Teacher
Pleasant Valley Elementary School"

What are your thoughts? Discuss.
I think that she is trying to open up more time to meet with the parents whose kids need more help and intervention. Give yourself a nice pat on the back that's not you.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:24 PM   #4
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I think that a teacher's job includes knowing her students well enough to be able to discuss all of them, and that the email isn't acceptable.

I'd probably write back and say something along the lines of "I appreciate your offer, and needless to say I'm pleased that she's doing so well. However, I believe that a strong home-school connection has been a key to her success, and therefore I'm looking forward to a chance to see some work samples and hear about how you intend to challenge her this year. I look forward to seeing you on (date) at (time)."
: Me thinks the would rather be at home doing this instead of her job.

I usually do not tattle, but I wonder if the principal is aware of this teacher's policy and agrees with it.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:25 PM   #5
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I would have been pleased to hear that from the teacher and I would happily skip the conference. Most of the ones I went to were the same kind - unless I had a real concern I'd stay home.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:26 PM   #6
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I can understand if she has other children that really need p/t conferences to deal with problems, maybe she has a full after school schedule, maybe from past experiences this is best, maybe it's something the principal has asked, but that email could have been worded better than that. Very tacky.

She might really think she is doing you a favor, but it's still tacky.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:33 PM   #7
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She's probably trying to schedule two dozen or more conferences into a limited time frame and focus on the problem/struggling students.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:35 PM   #8
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I would still keep my appointment. The purpose of a conference is not just to discuss what problems your child may be having. It's for the parent to get to know the teacher better (and vice versa), see the child's work samples, and learn about the classroom routine and cirriculum. Even if your child is doing very well, a conference is not just for the teacher to gush about their progress. It also opens up an important line of communication between the teacher and parent.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:37 PM   #9
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I think she is doing every one a big favor-the door is open, she is telling you she is open to hear from you but wants you to know your child is doing well, she is opening up more time for other parents who have children who are challenged and she is giving you more time to meet with your other childrens teachers if you need it. In our district, there are many different buildings, on and off campus and the meet the teacher times are all the same so you may need to be in two places on the same night. Having a teacher give you a "pass" would be fabulous! If you feel she is a good teacher and not shirking her duties I would thank her and move on. I have a child who struggles and am in frequent contact with her teacher (read almost every day) and when meet the teacher time came she told us we could skip as we had "met" more than enough!!!! It was a night I gratefully used at home to get caught up. I did not feel slighted in the least. After that first time, I frequently suggested it to the teachers and it was always gratefully recieved for all the reasons noted above. Be proud and happy that your child is doing well and you are doing a great job!
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:41 PM   #10
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As a regular volunteer in an elementary school, I can tell you that there are kids that really struggle. I have been helping a 2nd grader read words that my son could read when he was 3 years old. It is very sad, but also very rewarding when you literally see them connect and get it. I can also tell you that teachers barely have enough hours in the day to get stuff done, and it is not uncommon at all in our school to bypass conferences. They are not mandatory. We get a form sent home from the teacher that states, "I am not requesting a conference for your student at this time. Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or concerns." I have never thought to ask a teacher how they intend to challenge my straight A daughter. She works hard for her grades and she is not the only child in the classroom, so I let the teacher decide what will be taught and when. That is their job, afterall. I also don't need "samples" of my kids' work because they bring it home. I see it everyday. I would prefer the teacher have the extra time to spend with those who need it. Could she have worded the email better? Sure, but I don't think it is that big of a deal.

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Old 10-11-2012, 10:48 PM   #11
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I know my kids. I have a pretty good idea of how they handle their relationships with friends and peers, and how they behave and perform in school. However, even if I already know my child is "at the top of her class, plays well with others, a great role model and is a joy to have in class," personally, I would want my 15 minutes. I can learn a lot in those 15 minutes... about the teacher. My child will be spending a lot of time with her, and she could have a huge influence on my child's academic success, attitude towards learning and school, or her life in general. While discussing my child, I can get a feel for the teacher, her ideas, attitude, approach to learning, teaching style, if she truly enjoys working with children, etc. That's important to me, as it relates to my child. And, I'll come away knowing if she really knows my child.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:54 PM   #12
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I would probably meet with her anyway if the time was not an issue. However, if it was something I had to take time off work for and there was nothing I needed to discuss, I'd happily skip it and save the time off for attending another school event.
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And, I'll come away knowing if she really knows my child.
I don't expect the teacher to really know my child at this point in the school year. It is, however, a good time to give her any key information she should know.
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Old 10-11-2012, 11:00 PM   #14
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If things are going well, then why mess with it. When dd14 was in 7th and 8th grades, they did student led conferences and the techers would be around but your kid showed you their work and had a list of if anything was missing etc. Now dd14 is in high school,if they are doing good and are behavingetc,there is no conference requested by the teachers. Now if things aren't going well the teacher will request a conference.
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I would have been pleased to hear that from the teacher and I would happily skip the conference. Most of the ones I went to were the same kind - unless I had a real concern I'd stay home.

I totally agree! She has told you your child is doing great and is above grade level. What else do you want her to tell you. Do you really need anymore "atta girls" you did a great job with your DD? Why not let the teacher use your minutes for a student who really needs help and problems to discuss with their parents.


I used to walk into my DD's conferences and say "are you going to say anything different than she is a great student, needs to not talk so much, write neater and keep her desk neater, let me know, other wise we can save each other time and you can go take a bathroom break!"

Most took me up on it.
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