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Janepod · 09-28-2012, 04:59 PM

My son is 6. First grade. Class/school have a policy where you can bring nut products to the cafeteria for lunch, but not into the classroom for snack. There is a very nut-allergic boy in the class. Everyone knows this -- letters went out to parents at the beginning of the year and there is a big sign on the door that the class is a nut-free zone.

So, my kid loves Nutella. I don't send it to school, but I give him a snack of it when he gets home (usually a cut up apple with a dollop of Nutella on the side for dipping, Food Police). Today he comes home and says there's this cool Nutella thing where it's a pack with something you dip in the Nutella, and can I please get it for him to bring for snack. So I make him spell Nutella so he realizes nope, no can do, it has nuts. Then he tells me the girl who sits next to him brings it every day for snack. (I.e., in the classroom.)

What would you do? Stay out of it? Tell the teacher? Tell the room mom? Post something snarky on FB where the mom will see it? Other (there's always an other.)

npmommie · 09-28-2012, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Janepod

My son is 6. First grade. Class/school have a policy where you can bring nut products to the cafeteria for lunch, but not into the classroom for snack. There is a very nut-allergic boy in the class. Everyone knows this -- letters went out to parents at the beginning of the year and there is a big sign on the door that the class is a nut-free zone.

So, my kid loves Nutella. I don't send it to school, but I give him a snack of it when he gets home (usually a cut up apple with a dollop of Nutella on the side for dipping, Food Police). Today he comes home and says there's this cool Nutella thing where it's a pack with something you dip in the Nutella, and can I please get it for him to bring for snack. So I make him spell Nutella so he realizes nope, no can do, it has nuts. Then he tells me the girl who sits next to him brings it every day for snack. (I.e., in the classroom.)

What would you do? Stay out of it? Tell the teacher? Tell the room mom? Post something snarky on FB where the mom will see it? Other (there's always an other.)

The mom sending it in may not make the connection since its hazlenuts and not peanuts. She may think its not a problem or maybe she asked the mom of the boy with the peanut allergy if he also is alergic to hazlenuts.
I would probably ask the teacher about the snack. I wouldnt just send it but i would mention it since the other mom might not be aware that a nut allergy can be tree nuts in addition to peanuts.

ilovemk76 · 09-28-2012, 05:55 PM

I would not sent it in and say nothing about this other kid. The teacher needs to enforce the "no nut classroom" and tell the other kid's mother to not send it in.

bedogged · 09-28-2012, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Janepod

My son is 6. First grade. Class/school have a policy where you can bring nut products to the cafeteria for lunch, but not into the classroom for snack. There is a very nut-allergic boy in the class. Everyone knows this -- letters went out to parents at the beginning of the year and there is a big sign on the door that the class is a nut-free zone.

So, my kid loves Nutella. I don't send it to school, but I give him a snack of it when he gets home (usually a cut up apple with a dollop of Nutella on the side for dipping, Food Police). Today he comes home and says there's this cool Nutella thing where it's a pack with something you dip in the Nutella, and can I please get it for him to bring for snack. So I make him spell Nutella so he realizes nope, no can do, it has nuts. Then he tells me the girl who sits next to him brings it every day for snack. (I.e., in the classroom.)

What would you do? Stay out of it? Tell the teacher? Tell the room mom? Post something snarky on FB where the mom will see it? Other (there's always an other.)

I would write a note to the teacher asking if it is okay to bring the Nutella to school as a snack? I would say that your son seems to think that other children are bringing it and that you wanted to make sure that it was okay before sending it with him.

The teacher's answer will settle the matter and it will put her on alert that there may be other children taking it to school as a snack.

dakcp2001 · 09-28-2012, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by bedogged

I would write a note to the teacher asking if it is okay to bring the Nutella to school as a snack? I would say that your son seems to think that other children are bringing it and that you wanted to make sure that it was okay before sending it with him.

The teacher's answer will settle the matter and it will put her on alert that there may be other children taking it to school as a snack.

This is a great suggestion.

low-key · 09-28-2012, 08:51 PM

stay out of it, is always the correct answer

tasha99 · 09-28-2012, 08:56 PM

I would send an email to the teacher and cc the principal. A nut allergy is serious business, and I couldn't face myself in the mirror if the kid with the allergy got hurt when I could have said something.

jen1977 · 09-28-2012, 09:10 PM

Is the child allergic to peanuts, or all nuts?

violetrose · 09-28-2012, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by low-key

stay out of it, is always the correct answer

I disagree. If the kid with the allergy gets sick from it, then OP would probably wish she had shared the information.

I like the other suggestion, just tell the teacher your son mentioned the Nutella snack she is bring for lunch and you want to know if your son can bring it too. Seems pretty simple to me.

tvguy · 09-28-2012, 10:21 PM

Why are they eating in the classroom? That was a big no no when I was in school, and for my kids too.

Sounds like they have a good system setup.

I would ask.

NEVERENOUGHWDW · 09-28-2012, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by low-key

stay out of it, is always the correct answer

Not when it risks someones health or safety.
Tell the teacher and do the right thing by not sending a Nutella snack.

disykat · 09-28-2012, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by tvguy

Why are they eating in the classroom? That was a big no no when I was in school, and for my kids too.

Sounds like they have a good system setup.

I would ask.

I stopped teaching in 1992 when I had kids. I started again in 2001 when my kids were all in school. In that time, there was some sort of cosmic switch and food is EVERYWHERE.

I thought it was amazing. Prior, snacks were only allowed for classrooms on a really late lunch. (or, of course, medical reasons like diabetes) After, kids couldn't possibly be expected to go from the start of school at 9:00 to lunch at 11:15 without the ability to snack in between!

I agree with others to ask the teacher to clarify the policy. I think it says a lot about the OP that she cares about the allergic child, many people don't.

Rylee · 09-28-2012, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bedogged

I would write a note to the teacher asking if it is okay to bring the Nutella to school as a snack? I would say that your son seems to think that other children are bringing it and that you wanted to make sure that it was okay before sending it with him.

The teacher's answer will settle the matter and it will put her on alert that there may be other children taking it to school as a snack.

This.

Ceila · 09-29-2012, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by tvguy

Why are they eating in the classroom? That was a big no no when I was in school, and for my kids too.

Sounds like they have a good system setup.

I would ask.

Both growing up and where we live now, kindergartners always had snack time, and any grade that had a very early lunch or a very late lunch would also get to have a snack.

I would send a short e-mail to the teacher. "Dear Ms. Smith, I know the snack policy we received does not permit students to bring any kind of item that contains nuts. However, Johnny mentioned that he has seen other students with a Nutella treat. As this does contain nuts (hazelnuts), I was wondering if there had been a change in the policy. If you could let me know that would be great, since Nutella is one of his favorites. Thanks so much, Mrs. Miller"

As another poster said, that alerts the teacher that someone is bringing it in, and the OP gets to find out if there has been a change in policy.

coliebird · 09-29-2012, 06:30 AM

It's possible that the boy is only allergic to peanuts, not tree nuts and this other parent checked. I would just ask the teacher if it's ok to bring in Nutella. I wouldn't mention the other kid.

My daughter is allergic to peanuts only. She loves Nutella. Unfortunately, she has to sit at the nut free table at lunch so she can't bring it. She just has it at home.

09-28-2012, 04:59 PM	#1
Janepod DIS Veteran Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Fairfield County Posts: 2,760	Let's play "what would you do?" My son is 6. First grade. Class/school have a policy where you can bring nut products to the cafeteria for lunch, but not into the classroom for snack. There is a very nut-allergic boy in the class. Everyone knows this -- letters went out to parents at the beginning of the year and there is a big sign on the door that the class is a nut-free zone. So, my kid loves Nutella. I don't send it to school, but I give him a snack of it when he gets home (usually a cut up apple with a dollop of Nutella on the side for dipping, Food Police). Today he comes home and says there's this cool Nutella thing where it's a pack with something you dip in the Nutella, and can I please get it for him to bring for snack. So I make him spell Nutella so he realizes nope, no can do, it has nuts. Then he tells me the girl who sits next to him brings it every day for snack. (I.e., in the classroom.) What would you do? Stay out of it? Tell the teacher? Tell the room mom? Post something snarky on FB where the mom will see it? Other (there's always an other.)

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09-28-2012, 05:55 PM	#3
ilovemk76 DIS Veteran Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 2,691	I would not sent it in and say nothing about this other kid. The teacher needs to enforce the "no nut classroom" and tell the other kid's mother to not send it in.

09-28-2012, 08:56 PM	#7
tasha99 DIS Veteran Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Alaska Posts: 3,264	I would send an email to the teacher and cc the principal. A nut allergy is serious business, and I couldn't face myself in the mirror if the kid with the allergy got hurt when I could have said something.

09-28-2012, 09:10 PM	#8
jen1977 Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 223	Is the child allergic to peanuts, or all nuts?

09-29-2012, 06:30 AM	#15
coliebird I HAVE to sleep with socks on! There must be other people that do this also. something about tuna from a deli skeeves me Join Date: May 2003 Location: New York Posts: 2,701	It's possible that the boy is only allergic to peanuts, not tree nuts and this other parent checked. I would just ask the teacher if it's ok to bring in Nutella. I wouldn't mention the other kid. My daughter is allergic to peanuts only. She loves Nutella. Unfortunately, she has to sit at the nut free table at lunch so she can't bring it. She just has it at home.