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Old 10-08-2012, 03:23 PM   #436
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OP - Best of luck to you. I'm glad you're going back home. I wish you all the best. I will be watching for your further updates.

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Oh thank god you are okay and making steps to get as far away from him as possible! Life is all about consequences, he is finding that out!

PLEASE, take the cats ...many people do horrible things out of spite.
Or at least, take them to a good friend willing to have them. Don't let them get caught in the midst of this horrible sadness.

This is what I was thinking as well. People do horrible things when they are angry, and if he doesn't particularly care about the cats and knows that the Original Poster does care about them, I hate to think what he might do. He could simply throw them out of the house, or dump them at a shelter, or even have them put to sleep. The one thing I don't think he would do is actually care for them. So OP, if you are leaving and you care about those cats, either take them with you or find a friend or rescue group to take them for you. I think you have to assume that he will destroy or dispose of anything you leave behind that he knows you care about, and that includes the cats.
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OP, so glad you have updated us and have made some decisions. You are a very strong woman and although I don't know you, I'm very proud of what you are doing. Please let us know as best as you can what is happening! We all care so much about you and your little one's well being during this difficult time!
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The OP has posted an update, post 425. Please read it.
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Thank you for the update. I'm glad to hear you have a good plan in place and your parents are aware of what's happening. The only other advice I'd give you is please take your cats with you.
I think the OP has a lot on her plate/enough to worry about. yes it would be nice if she took her cats, but there are other things that take priority.

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Thanks for update, OP!

Continue to be strong for you and your baby.

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Old 10-08-2012, 04:08 PM   #442
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Thank you for the update OP...

I'm so glad you that you have made a decision. Glad your parents are there for you and that you will be headed that direction soon.

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Thank goodness you're okay OP! Don't feel obligated to update us all the time; we know you have a lot going on in your life right now. Best of luck!

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Old 10-08-2012, 04:13 PM   #445

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Glad you got some clarity from your lawyer. Hope your doctor gives you the OK to travel. Good luck with everything back in Canada.

P.S. Can't believe your husband's "turnaround"! Eeeck.
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Old 10-08-2012, 04:18 PM   #446
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Sp glad you are ok! Stay strong.... think calming thoughts for low blood pressure so you can get the he** out of Dodge!!!
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Old 10-08-2012, 04:23 PM   #447
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I am well within my rights to go back to Canada now, but I wouldn't be after the baby was born - and once he is born, I might need to come back with the baby to contend custody if necessary. That's something my attorney is looking into. . .

. . . If not, I have to start looking for train fares - because I am definitely going back.

I'm also leaving money to pay for cat food, litter, etc. It's eating into the money I've set aside, but I think this is the best legal option to cover all my bases.

Glad you are okay. Thanks for updating us. However, you do NOT owe any of us an update.

I'm glad you are looking for ways to get back to Canada. I wanted to say after you posted that your OB/GYN didn't want you to fly, that you
should rent a car or get on a train & head right up the coast to Canada. Even if its not your final destination, your mom can meet you in Canada, and least you'd be across the border. This way, if the baby arrives early, while you are still traveling, you both are on the of the side of the border.

Going straight up the coast, by car, it would be about a 3-4 day trip. Perhaps your mom can fly down to drive with you.

As for the cats, arrange to have a friend temporarily keep them. Or look into a foster agency. this way they will be out of DH's control. Someone can always ship the cats to Canada later when you get settled. If DH asks about the cars, all you have to say is that you "took" the cats. No need to explain to him where they are, or that they aren't going to Canada with you at this time.

Last, I would suggest NOT telling DH the day you are leaving. You don't want an altercation with him, in the house alone, while you are trying to leave, and he is blocking your ability to get out of the house or fighting you for the luggage. Many bad "Movies of the Week," start out with the DH fighting the wife from leaving, accidentally knocking her down, etc. and she ends up giving birth early, (in the U.S.,) or losing the baby.

The day you go, just go, when he is out of the house or at work. Or have a friend there with you.

Good luck and safe journey to you and your baby.
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I just want to say that you are such a strong woman. Many women would consider staying with DH once he started saying what they wanted to hear. It is to your credit that you can stay focused on what is really best for you and your child. One day he will know what a strong mama he has. I wish you health and happiness.
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Good decisions.
Please try and do something with the cats besides leaving them with him.
Don't tell him when you're going...just go one day.
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This must be very difficult for you but all things considered, I really believe you are making the right decision.

Your husband is so self-centered.


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