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Old 09-29-2012, 12:28 PM   #46
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Aww... I missed all this this week. Sorry he's had a hard time adjusting and glad to hear he's decided to stick it out.

Sounds like the fact that he wanted to leave and your DH went and got him also gave him a sense of control over the situation and maybe knowing he has the choice will help him stay.

DD's college is small (like 1100 kids) so they tend to be quite close knit. She chose to room with someone she did not know, someone from NC and not from here. They get along but are not best buddies and DD seems happy with that.

DD was homeschooled throughout HS. She was a student athletic trainer for a local HS so had limited activity with those kids. She has been so funny since starting college, "Mom, I know so many people! I have made so many friends." My heart melts just hearing this because I know she felt alone throughout HS even though it was her choice to homeschool.

One of the sweet girls that toured us through the college during a visit was someone who was miserable and wanted to go back to her home in AL. She said she hated it here, begged to go home but her parents thought she needed to give it more time. She said,"Now I love it so much, I'm giving tours and trying to sell this place to other kids who visit!"

Talking to people really helps. DH went to this same college and found classes hard and he said he did not know how to study either. He coasted through HS and was Mr. Everything in HS--then he became a small fish in a small pond--college was really a struggle in many ways (+ he was a party person) and he went through several times of wanting to quit but stayed and graduated.

If my child was miserable, hated it, deeply depressed and I was worried about their mental state, yes, I'd definitely let him come home. But if it was more about adjusting and doing new things and meeting new people, I'd really want him to tough it out. Often, when HS buddies room together, it isn't what they think it is going to be after all. Hopefully he will meet someone who is a better fit for him during this year.

Good luck to him!! And tell him to keep the lines of communication open with professors, RAs etc. There are people on that campus whose job is to help keep you there. I have a client who does this at UT and she is excellent and sincerely cares about every student she comes in contact with.
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Old 09-29-2012, 01:36 PM   #47
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...so happy to see the update. Maybe he just needed a weekend at home. My DD19 seems really homesick this year (Junior) for some reason. DH and I (and DD13) are going to visit her next weekend since she can't come home. Hang in there.
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Old 09-29-2012, 01:43 PM   #48
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Great news OP!
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Old 09-29-2012, 03:49 PM   #49
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I'm glad he decided to stick out. Did he ever say what changed his mind? I know after DD started, she came home soon after and was able to decompress from all the action and newness. I think just getting away let her catch her breath and process.

Hopefully your DS will go back with a new outlook and find reasons why he chose his school. I agree w/the others, getting involved will really help him adjust. Once DD started doing things, she loved it. Good luck to all of you! I know it's stressful as a parent to have them struggle.
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