Am I to old to remarry? - Page 5 - The DIS Discussion Forums

minniecarousel · 09-22-2012, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Goofy'slady

A little back ground on my story. I'm currently 34 yrs old and I'm a divorced mum of two girls. I'm also in a relationship with my boyfriend and we plan to marry next May and when that time comes I would have had another birthday and would have turned 35. My boyfriend is also divorced and has a son who we get every other weekend, however he is a few yrs younger than I. Not much but a few. Well, his family can't stand the idea of him marrying me because they say that I'm to old and not to mention we both have a sneaky suspicion they don't like the idea that my skin is carmel - in other words I'm a woman of color. I don't feel old and I certainly don't look old or my age. I'm constanly being mistaken for someone in thier late 20's.

I'm proud of my age and of myself but lately I've been starting to feel like my ship may have sailed/passed on the whole remarriage thing strickly based on what others may think. Do you think there is a certain age where perhaps one is to old to remarry?

Oh, hell, to the NO!

To answer your question, you are not too old to marry, remarry, whatever. If his family has a problem with you, that's their problem. If you two are OK with your situation and the kids get along, go for it!

meredith1 · 09-22-2012, 08:03 PM

My H and I have been married six years and this is our first marriage-neither married prior. I was 35 and my H was 39 when we married. I was 37 with our first child and 39 with our twins.

Congrats hon...enjoy this time if you think this man is the one. : )

taylor3297 · 09-22-2012, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Goofy'slady

William is 30 and I am 34

I didn't get married for the first time until I was 34. Now get this my husband was 24 at the time we got married. I am 9 years and 9 months older than him. His parents didn't want us to get married either. They said they liked me ok, but I was too old for him and my biological clock was ticking. My family said if you are happy that is all the matters.

Fast forward to today. We have been married for 12 years, have 2 wonderful kids and still as happy as we were when we got married.

You need to do what is best for you and your kids.

As to being a woman of color, now that shouldn't have anything to do with anything. As a great man once said, folks should be judged by their character not the color of their skin.

low-key · 09-22-2012, 08:15 PM

your way to old, you need to get a job as a walmart greeter

Tigger&Belle · 09-22-2012, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by low-key

your way to old, you need to get a job as a walmart greeter

Goofy'slady · 09-23-2012, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by low-key

your way to old, you need to get a job as a walmart greeter

i know right. i'll like handing out the smiley face stickers to all the kids.

Owlpost23 · 09-23-2012, 09:13 AM

The world needs more happy people in it.Marry your love and be joyous!

Gumbo4x4 · 09-23-2012, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Goofy'slady

A little back ground on my story. I'm currently 34 yrs old and I'm a divorced mum of two girls. I'm also in a relationship with my boyfriend and we plan to marry next May and when that time comes I would have had another birthday and would have turned 35. My boyfriend is also divorced and has a son who we get every other weekend, however he is a few yrs younger than I. Not much but a few. Well, his family can't stand the idea of him marrying me because they say that I'm to old and not to mention we both have a sneaky suspicion they don't like the idea that my skin is carmel - in other words I'm a woman of color. I don't feel old and I certainly don't look old or my age. I'm constanly being mistaken for someone in thier late 20's.

I'm proud of my age and of myself but lately I've been starting to feel like my ship may have sailed/passed on the whole remarriage thing strickly based on what others may think. Do you think there is a certain age where perhaps one is to old to remarry?

Hogwash, and in your case you still have more than half your life ahead of you. Your boyfriend's family may "think" you're too old for HIM, but that's their problem not yours - same for your other suspicion. Go live your life as you see fit

pigletgirl · 09-23-2012, 12:42 PM

Oh that is total bull! Love comes at any age and stage. Best of luck to you!

karriemouse · 09-23-2012, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Goofy'slady

Do you think there is a certain age where perhaps one is to old to remarry?

Absolutely NOT! Love doesn't stop based on age, skin colour or anything - life is too short and too fragile not to follow your heart, be with the man you love, and build the future together that you both want.

I'm so sorry your future in-laws can't see that but that's their loss. Shame you are so far away as I'm having a really bad day today and I'd take great satisfaction in pointing that out to them!!

Oh, and the dress you have chosen is absolutely gorgeous - remember it's yours and your fiance's day, and all that matters is making it the day you both want.

I wish you all the best for your wedding day, and the rest of your lives together.

Purple Nightshade · 09-23-2012, 06:27 PM

I was married last year just 3 days shy of my 52nd birthday. My dh was 57. So no you aren't to old to remarry.

bedillamouse · 09-23-2012, 09:37 PM

Are you worried that you are 4 years older than him?? If not then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Yes it would be nice to have his mom not care either but it does sound like maybe no woman is good enough for him (you said she didn't like his first wife either). Really if the situation was reversed and he was 4 years older than you ...there would not be any mention about age at all!!! Ridiculous to think that just because you are a female and you are the "older" one that it makes your marriage objectionable.

Your dress is beautiful!!! And I think it is so sweet that your to be husband wants to see you in a wedding dress and watch you walk down the aisle towards him!!

Try not to beat yourself up!! There is NOTHING wrong with you ...the problem lies with your BF's mother's old fashioned beliefs!!!

SC Minnie · 09-24-2012, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Swan4Me

My Mom's 2nd marriage , she was 70

My Mom was about 60 when she got remarried so OP you are NOT too old.

Stop listening to everyone else. If you love this man and he loves you age shouldn't matter.

threeboysmom · 09-24-2012, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by mjkacmom

I actually think you are very young to be getting married for the second time!

That's exactly what I was thinking!!

Gosh, you're ONLY 35 years old! I consider that young, lol!

threeboysmom · 09-24-2012, 10:23 AM

By the way, I LOOOOOOVE your dress!

09-22-2012, 08:03 PM	#62
meredith1 DIS Veteran Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 682	My H and I have been married six years and this is our first marriage-neither married prior. I was 35 and my H was 39 when we married. I was 37 with our first child and 39 with our twins. Congrats hon...enjoy this time if you think this man is the one. : ) __________________ DD 5 yrs twin DD & DS 2.5 yrs Dec, 2011-Contemorary Resort/MK View Dec, 2013-Yacht Club and BLT/MK view

09-22-2012, 08:15 PM	#64
low-key DIS Veteran Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 4,059	your way to old, you need to get a job as a walmart greeter __________________

09-23-2012, 12:42 PM	#69
pigletgirl You do have a life. It is just in cyber world If its chocolate I'll eat it! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Home of the Cards! Posts: 10,833	Oh that is total bull! Love comes at any age and stage. Best of luck to you! __________________ Me DH Baby C DLab Justice for Travis!

09-23-2012, 09:37 PM	#72
bedillamouse Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: missouri Posts: 266	Are you worried that you are 4 years older than him?? If not then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Yes it would be nice to have his mom not care either but it does sound like maybe no woman is good enough for him (you said she didn't like his first wife either). Really if the situation was reversed and he was 4 years older than you ...there would not be any mention about age at all!!! Ridiculous to think that just because you are a female and you are the "older" one that it makes your marriage objectionable. Your dress is beautiful!!! And I think it is so sweet that your to be husband wants to see you in a wedding dress and watch you walk down the aisle towards him!! Try not to beat yourself up!! There is NOTHING wrong with you ...the problem lies with your BF's mother's old fashioned beliefs!!! __________________ Amy DH DD 8 DD6

09-24-2012, 10:23 AM	#75
threeboysmom I REALLY AM a Princess!!! Hands off the crown! It's not for trade :) Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 8,780	By the way, I LOOOOOOVE your dress! __________________ __________________ Me (48) 2013 Book Challenge: 22 out of 50 Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, Defending Jacob, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking, The Passage, The Shoemaker's Wife, Fairest of All: A Tale of the Wicked Queen, Fluke, Into the Darkest Corner, Where'd You Go Bernadette, The Fall of Giants, The Great Gatsby, Rush Home Road, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, Wheat Belly, The Kite Runner, To Be Sung Underwater, The Light Between Oceans, I Heart New York, Mere Christianity, Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Wedding Night Currently reading: "Beautiful Ruins"

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09-23-2012, 09:13 AM	#67
Owlpost23 Mouseketeer Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 359	The world needs more happy people in it.Marry your love and be joyous!

09-23-2012, 06:27 PM	#71
Purple Nightshade Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Homestead FL Posts: 159	I was married last year just 3 days shy of my 52nd birthday. My dh was 57. So no you aren't to old to remarry.

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