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Old 08-28-2012, 11:51 PM   #1
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Unhappy Putting Pet to sleep :(

I am sorry I know there are bigger things on earth, cancer, lupus, diabetes, stroke... forgive me if this seems small to some and insensitive. right now I am struggling what to do & how to do it.


Our 18 year old cat has jaw cancer. We know that we will have to put him to sleep soon. Vet said just to make him comfortable and we will know when the right time is. I think that is soon.

It feels so unnatural to pick a day for death.

We homeschool and I am torn if I should just get a sitter and take our pet by myself or if we (11 & 7 year old) go together.

Husband is deployed in Afghanistan and so incredibly busy over there that I haven't had the chance to ask him what he thinks is the right course to take.

If we all go - do we hold our pet while they give him the shot? do we say good bye and let them take him away?

We want to bury him in our yard, so we will want to take him.


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Old 08-29-2012, 08:24 AM   #2
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So sorry but I feel this is the last thing we can do for our pets to show we love them, they don't have to suffer more. With our last cat, we took her in and I stayed with her and petted her until she was gone.They then wrapped her in a blanket and put her in a cardboard casket for us to bring her home in.She really went very peacefully and I knew we were doing the right thing, she couldn't eat any more and she just wasn't herself. You will know when it is time. Sending hugs your way.
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Old 08-29-2012, 12:53 PM   #3
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I'm so sorry. I stayed with our dog Bashful to her last breath and IMO they pass knowing they were loved when they hear your comforting words/feeling you pet them to the end. Again I'm so sorry. I got my pup when she was 13 weeks old for my birthday, and lost her on my birthday 15 years later.
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Old 08-29-2012, 02:34 PM   #4
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I am so sorry. Our pets ask for so little and in return love to us like no other..... I feel it is really a debt we owe them to see that they leave this world with peace, dignity and surrounded by the love they know. That being said, I have had to put down quite a few of my dogs over the years-and it is never easy. I have almost always gone by myself with them because I wanted it to be a peaceful and loving environment and my DD is not capable of managing that.(She is developmentally delayed and had some mental health challenges.) On a few occasions my husband has been able to go with me but not always. It is sad, but not frightening so if you think your girls could handle it-take them. If it would be too disturbing to them, have them say their farewell at home and take the cat yourself. I always have held my dog, looked into their eyes and thanked them for their love as they pass. Maybe have the girls write the cat a note and bury it with her??? Again, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Old 08-29-2012, 02:47 PM   #5
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Please talk to your vet about giving your cat a sedative before putting him to sleep. What they give is a pre-op medication that causes the pet to go peacefully to sleep, but is still very much alive. Then the vet can give the med for euthanization at any time afterward. If you decide to take your children with you, they can say goodbye after the sedative (and likely won't be rushed), but leave before the euthanization. That part will be up to you. But if you take the kids, I wouldn't do it without the sedative part because it's not always "peaceful" when the pet gets the barbiturate directly. They can squirm and yelp, etc. Not something you'll want the kids to see, in that case. (My last dog required three doses before he died ; so glad we did the sedative first.)

Best wishes, it's a hard thing to go through.
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thank you for your kind words. I finally heard from dh and he recommended we decorate a towel with love messages to take our cat to be put to sleep and finally buried. Although the kids knew this time was coming, it is devastating for them. This has been a heck of a year for us cancer wise: one uncle passed, their grandmother had a heck of a battle with it this year, now their great grandmother is passing of it - and now their beloved cat. I am sure they hate cancer like we all do.

Looks like tomorrow is the day.
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Old 08-29-2012, 03:27 PM   #7
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I was a veterinary technician for over 10 years and as you can imagine I assisted in this many many times. First talk to your vet, ask what their normal procedure is, while it seems simple there are a lot of variables, do they have a separate entrance/exit so you don't have to use the busy lobby? I would first have the vet or staff Walk you through step by step from the time you arrive until the time you leave what they normal do, or what their normal options are. Then anything you are uncomfortable with you can ask about. While its no fun to think or talk about it now, it will be that much harder when it's actually happening. I would caution with using another sedative first, it can lower blood pressure making it harder to give the last medication, and some animals ( though a small percentage) just like people have a variety of adverse reactions to sedatives, also there is a huge collection of drugs that can be called sedatives, all with varying degrees of effect. My own preference ( both as a pet owner as well as the medical side of it) I like to have the animal taken away into the treatment area and having an IV catheter placed, then have the animal brought back into the room for the rest of the procedure , this way vein access is established, most kitty's will be dehydrated after you kitty's disease making vein access difficult, also if the solution gets outside the vein it can really sting, or if it seeps outside the vein it can take longer to take effect, an IV catheter prevents all those things, also we would take clay and make hearts out of them, then put a paw print from each animal in the middle. I still have each one for animals I've loved and lossed, if you vet doesn't do this, it's easy for you too if you'd like. Sorry if this is too clinical, just wanted to give you some info, feel free to pm if I can help at all. Losing a pet can be really hard, and while it's tough on you I alway felt lucky to be able to end their pain in the end. Hugs to you!!! Oh and for your children, I would talk to them and let them decide what they want to do, they are old enough to be there if they want, but if they don't want to go saying goodbye at home may be the best thing, just talk to them. Again hugs to you and your family
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Old 08-29-2012, 03:41 PM   #8
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our pets are a part of our family and in your case, for so long. in our case it took quite some time after we put our cat down. hugs to you and your family and your cat. i remember my vet saying, "i hope you believe in kitty heaven because your cat will go straight there." either way, we do our best and give them all our love.
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I would caution with using another sedative first, it can lower blood pressure making it harder to give the last medication, and some animals ( though a small percentage) just like people have a variety of adverse reactions to sedatives, also there is a huge collection of drugs that can be called sedatives, all with varying degrees of effect.
I've had pets put to sleep without the sedative but the vet who happened to be on duty the day I had to put my last dog to sleep did it this way and I will never do it the other way again. I do not know the name of the drug used but she said they use it before surgery, and I believe it was an intramuscular injection. As an RN and hospital nurse myself, I've monitored many drug effects and the way this was done was really great (if it can be so in this situation), it made it much more peaceful for me. Something for the OP (and readers) to inquire about.
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I've had pets put to sleep without the sedative but the vet who happened to be on duty the day I had to put my last dog to sleep did it this way and I will never do it the other way again. I do not know the name of the drug used but she said they use it before surgery, and I believe it was an intramuscular injection. As an RN and hospital nurse myself, I've monitored many drug effects and the way this was done was really great (if it can be so in this situation), it made it much more peaceful for me. Something for the OP (and readers) to inquire about.
I'm glad that it worked well for you in your situation, I was only wanting to point out it may not be the best choice for every pet or every family. As an RN I'm sure you can agree that not every treatment fits for every patient. In this case I believe the best people to decide how to approach this very emotional event would be the OP, her family and their vet.
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Old 08-29-2012, 06:38 PM   #11
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Thank you so much. I will call and inquire. I appreciate you all sharing with me so we will be better prepared and the support given. The kids and I have been crying off and on. As hard as this is, i know it's the best thing for him not to be hurting any more. thank you, thank you.
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Old 08-29-2012, 06:44 PM   #12
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Thank you so much. I will call and inquire. I appreciate you all sharing with me so we will be better prepared and the support given. The kids and I have been crying off and on. As hard as this is, i know it's the best thing for him not to be hurting any more. thank you, thank you.
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When our Boo Boo had to be put down last year, my dd and her friend were there with me. I couldn't go in, and neither could dd, so her friend went and stayed with him. I was very grateful for that. Our vet takes a pawprint and puts it on a sympathy card which they sent to us. (We even got Tink's - our hamster - pawprint on a card when we had her put down)
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Old 08-31-2012, 02:11 PM   #14
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I am so sorry! It is truly a heartwrenching experience.

I put Fergie to sleep in June. She was my buddy for 16 years (and before that, 4 years with my brother). On Wednesday, I made an appointment with the vet for Saturday, and cried my eyes out every day before then. By the time she got there, it was obviously time to put her out of her misery.

I did not stay with her. I was by myself and I could not bring myself to do it (now I'm crying again!). I knew it was a no-win situation, because I still feel bad for leaving her. The vet promised he'd be kind and I said good-bye.

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I can't believe I came across this thread....we just had to put our beloved 16 year old German Shepherd to sleep on 8/29/12. So, I completely understand the place your in. Also, my children are 11 and 7...so we talked to them about what needed to be done and why. My dog could barely stand anymore and the anti-inflammatory meds the vet had prescribed didn't seem to help her anymore.

Both my boys understood and both were upset that she had to leave us to go to a better place. Our vet is an angel and explained everything to me prior to the appointment and I relayed that information to the kids so they didn't have to wonder about how it would go.

This past Weds (my husband and kids came too) we took Ally to the vet. My husband and kids waited in the waiting room and I went in with her. I hugged and petted her the entire time while my angel/vet fed her biscuits with one hand and injected her with the other. And she slowly "went to sleep". She died in my arms, comfortable, and unafraid - the way it should be.

Afterwards, my husband and kids came to see her. Although they did cry, they were able to pet her and kiss her and see that she just looked like she was sleeping.

I know this isn't for everyone. YOU know your children best. Being honest with them and allowing them to share their fears and ask you questions will not only help them cope....it will help you.

My heart goes out to you! I've been in pieces since we made the decision to put Ally down. But I did it out of love and know she's not suffering anymore. It doesn't make my broken heart hurt less or stop me from crying - but it'll get easier I guess....

In a previous post someone mentioned a 2-injection method. This method was used on my cat. 1st, a sedative - then the overdose of barbiturate. But for my dog - the vet gave her the overdose and that was it.

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