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Old 09-05-2012, 08:49 PM   #106
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My dad took out half in loans and I took out half in loans. I think that parents really should help out some way if they can. I know I appreciate it very much that he took out a loan for me!
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Old 09-05-2012, 08:53 PM   #107
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I am sure they are still paying because my Aunt likes to rub it in my face that her kids do not have to work through college like I do. She says that it is her responsiblility as a parent to pay for the kids college education and that my parents failed me by not fully paying for mine. She is a real peach.
And it sounds like her kids are just as peachy. I really think yours is an example of spoiled rotten kids who wouldn't appreciate anything they were given. Not all kids are like that and not all parents would put up with kids that are like that.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:00 PM   #108
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I am sure they are still paying because my Aunt likes to rub it in my face that her kids do not have to work through college like I do. She says that it is her responsiblility as a parent to pay for the kids college education and that my parents failed me by not fully paying for mine. She is a real peach.
This isn't the same Aunt who gave you money for school books and expenses, is it? Or am I confusing posters?

...and why should your face be rubbed in it? You are working and in school. I'd say you're doing pretty well for yourself, with or without your parents' help.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:01 PM   #109
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My parents paid 1/2 of my school and I paid the other 1/2. DH's parents paid all of his first year of school until he flunked out, then he had to take a year off get a job, save and go back. He paid the rest thru working and a small loan.

We have 3 kids, oldest is 2 years away from college. We have the two years of community college funded in her 529 she'll be on he hook for the last two years. That's all we can do with 3 of them. They'll all have to live at home and get part time jobs to pay books and expenses or get a full ride and they can go anywhere. We don't have the income to help more than that.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:05 PM   #110
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When I was in college for my English degree, my parents paid. They got off easy though because I got free in-state tuition. So, they just paid for books. I moved out at 19 too so they didn't pay for housing. They did help here and there when things were tight, which was awesome. Thanks, Mom and Dad!

When I went back for my nursing degree, I worked my way through school and utilized tuition reimbursement. It was nice when I finished not to owe a dime.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:37 PM   #111
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My college tuition was paid fully with scholarships. I was always really competitive when it came to my school grades. While my friends all wanted to be homecoming queen, I wanted to be valedictorian. My parents didn't make a lot of money and I had an older sister in college at the same time. Part of my motivation to do well was to lessen that financial burden on them. I worked part time when I was in high school and saved money which helped pay for room and board, books, sorority dues, etc. My parents did help with the rest. I left college with very little debt which I paid off within a year.

My hope is that my children will also get some scholarships, too. My son is GT and I hope he can stay on the right path. But...I am not relying on that. I have 529 accounts for both my children. I expect to pay for part of their education. They will have to take loans for the rest, however much that ends up being.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:53 PM   #112
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For the record, my DH and I paid for practically all of our college education. My parents had zero money and his parents felt he should earn it. When we married, we both had substantial student loans and had to apply for deferment for at least 6 months so we could at least get jobs after graduation to pay. Looking back, I really wish I hadn't taken out student loans and chosen to work more. Why is hindsight so freaking clear??

Now we have our own kids. We're planning to help them out somewhat, most likely pay for around 1/2. That's contingent on them choosing to first start at community college and then if they want, transfer to one of our state schools. Obviously the rates are cheaper when you're in state.

This is just my opinion but I can't imagine my child demanding to go elsewhere and expect us to still help out. It's almost like someone saying hey, I'm going to give you a gift and then the receiver saying ok but here's where I want you to get it from. In my honest opinion, college is a gift and it isn't for everyone. Not all kids are cut out for it and we won't push our kids toward it if they truly have interests somewhere else. I am also not of the mindset that at 18, you effectively kick your kids out of the house to fend for themselves either. Should they choose not to go to college, they are more than welcome to live at home provided they are working and can help out with expenses.
It's not about demanding - it's a different outlook on it or approach to it. In my family, it was no different than going to h.s., and same as h.s., the expectation was that you get in the best/most appropriate to you place you can and that's that. Parents will figure out how to make that work.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:55 PM   #113
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My parents paid for my college tuition, and I worked during the summers. I appreciated it deeply at the time and still do. Even though I didn't pay my tuition, I worked hard and got good grades as one of the ways to show my parents how grateful I was.

I'm a single parent with no help from the ex. My kids received scholarships, and the rest of the tuition was paid through loans - mostly mine, some theirs. Both worked while in college. My daughter did work study in her department and tutored, and my son was an RA, then a part time restaurant manager and a tutor as well. Both enjoyed college and got good grades. Their work history and work ethic helped when they applied for jobs, and both are happily employed in their major fields. I don't think they are unusual or the exception to the rule at all - many of their classmates did the same.
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Old 09-05-2012, 09:56 PM   #114
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My parents paid for all of my undergrad tuition and fees. I worked for spending money. They also helped with grad school, although I paid for more of that as I was working at the time.

I plan to offer what I can to my kids. My guess is that if they live at home and commute to the local 4 year college we can cover the expenses. If they go away or do something most costly, they will need to cover the difference.

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Old 09-06-2012, 08:28 AM   #115
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We contribute monthly to a 529 account. I am sure it won't pay for it all , but we will help as much as possible. Won't kill him not to have 100% free ride .

As far as out of state costs , if DS wants to go into a program and the best school for that particular degree is out of state, we will do what we can to make it happen. I won't make him stay in state just because of costs .
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Old 09-06-2012, 10:31 AM   #116
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I've paid out of my own pocket for every bit of college. My parents didn't help at all. My DH had Bright Futures (Florida's "free" college if you have good grades in high school) and loans. So nope, no parental help.
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Old 09-06-2012, 10:50 AM   #117
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I paid for my undergraduate education with academic scholarships and for grad school with loans. My husband paid for his undergrad education with a partial football scholarship and with loans. We paid student loans for the first 10 years of our marriage.

We are paying for college for both of our kids. We set that as a priority when our kids were small and now our oldest daughter is in her freshman year of college. We told her that we would pay for a four year, in-state, public college education and she's enrolled at a public university in our state about 2.5 hours away from home. She will need to go to graduate school to pursue the career she is interested in and that will be her responsibility although we will help out. We will offer the same to our youngest daughter who is only 5 now. We are glad to do this for our children so that they will not graduate in debt owing tens of thousands of dollars in student loans.

I have no fear that our daughter who is now a freshman will party all the time or not appreciate what we are doing for her. She is a great kid, very responsible and appreciative and a hard worker. I have every confidence that she will do great in college.
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Old 09-06-2012, 10:55 AM   #118
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I have to relate something DD shared with me last week. She was in one of her HS classes and they were talking about college and one of the girls, Sue, said that she wasn't sure if she could go. One of the other girls, Jem, turned around and looked at her and said, "What, aren't your parents paying for it?" DD was horrified that the Jem could be so clueless and thoughtless. She made Sue feel terrible.
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Old 09-06-2012, 11:24 AM   #119
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And it sounds like her kids are just as peachy. I really think yours is an example of spoiled rotten kids who wouldn't appreciate anything they were given. Not all kids are like that and not all parents would put up with kids that are like that.
I know that not all kids are like this. I was just giving an example of what I have seen and been through. I have plenty of friends whose parents paid for college and saw how appreciative they were toward them.

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This isn't the same Aunt who gave you money for school books and expenses, is it? Or am I confusing posters?

...and why should your face be rubbed in it? You are working and in school. I'd say you're doing pretty well for yourself, with or without your parents' help.

Not the same Aunt. My dad's sister is the one who pitched in and this Aunt is on my mom's side.

Believe me she rubs a lot in my face. I have taken a lot of time to get my degree because of life circumstances (working, taking care of sick family members, and my dad passing away). But at least I am trying, you know.
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Old 09-06-2012, 11:26 AM   #120
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I have to relate something DD shared with me last week. She was in one of her HS classes and they were talking about college and one of the girls, Sue, said that she wasn't sure if she could go. One of the other girls, Jem, turned around and looked at her and said, "What, aren't your parents paying for it?" DD was horrified that the Jem could be so clueless and thoughtless. She made Sue feel terrible.
That's too bad. I hope Sue knows anything is possible. And that ironically, she may be just the one who qualifies for more than most.

I sure hope she has guidance in this. Send her our way!
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