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Old 05-15-2012, 11:00 AM   #1
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If a woman had a crush on a man....

If a woman has a crush on a man (assume the woman has gotten minimal, "gray area" feedback from her crush), should she make the first move? Or should the guy?

It is not a workplace setting.

Assume the woman is single but she is not sure if the guy is single or not.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:05 AM   #2
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If a woman has a crush on a man (assume the woman has gotten minimal, "gray area" feedback from her crush), should she make the first move? Or should the guy?

It is not a workplace setting.

Assume the woman is single but she is not sure if the guy is single or not.
It has been a while since I've dated, but why not just ask the guy if he is single? This would open a conversation and give the woman any further hints that he might be interested. Some guys either just don't see the forest for the trees OR he's in a relationship OR he's just not interested.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:07 AM   #3
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I would echo PP....You need to know relationship status first. Talk to him.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:11 AM   #4
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Become his friend. You can find out all kinds of things that way.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:16 AM   #5
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Just ask the guy out for a drink. It isn't the 1950's and we aren't put off by being asked out, at least none of the guys I know are.

This is another thing that isn't really as hard as people make it.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:18 AM   #6
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I would make the first move but do it for something very generic and safe like coffee. At coffee you can find out if he is single and interested, single and only interested as a friend, or taken and only wanting to be friends.

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Old 05-15-2012, 11:25 AM   #7
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:32 AM   #8
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This is another thing that isn't really as hard as people make it.
The rejection part of it is.
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:38 AM   #9
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The rejection part of it is.
Sometimes they say yes, sometimes they say no. It's a numbers game. When the answer is no don't sweat it, just move on to the next prospect. Like anything else the more you do it the better you get at it.
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Old 05-15-2012, 12:50 PM   #10
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The rejection part of it is.
Well, you can ask for what you want and sometimes you will hear "no" instead of "yes" - but if you don't ask you'll NEVER hear "yes".
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I'd try to do a little "stealth" work first and find out of he's ina relationship.I wouldn't want to ask someone out if they were in a relationship.
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I wouldnt ask a guy out for coffee until i knew he wasnt attached/married etc. Imagine you go out for coffee then you find out he's married? What a waste of time!
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I wouldnt ask a guy out for coffee until i knew he wasnt attached/married etc. Imagine you go out for coffee then you find out he's married? What a waste of time!
Mental note. Don't tell the woman I'm married until AFTER she pays for the coffee. Check.
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Old 05-15-2012, 02:22 PM   #14
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I wouldnt ask a guy out for coffee until i knew he wasnt attached/married etc. Imagine you go out for coffee then you find out he's married? What a waste of time!
Why would it be a waste of time if you make a new friend? You have no male friends who are married or in a relationship?

What do you propose her walk right up and say "oh are you married?"


Adding the first time you go for coffee it should be "dutch"

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Old 05-15-2012, 02:23 PM   #15
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Really, ask the guy out. You don't need to poke around to see if he is single. If I waited to find out if everyone I asked out was single I wouldn't get anything accomplished. I look at the left ring finger and if there is no ring I assume they are single until told otherwise. If they are in an exclusive relationship they just say so.
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