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Old 02-10-2012, 11:57 PM   #16
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My DS 20 was diagnosed with Asperger's going into his senior year of high school (don't get me started on why the diagnosis took so long!). I too had the same issues with my son when he hit puberty, in fact, the middle school years were downright hellacious. It's tough, but you are taking the right steps.

We tried the same things - removing his beloved computer games, etc., just made him very angry and frustrated. Looking back, his poor work performance was due to his executive function, just had a very hard time organizing anything. Teachers need to realize that Aspie students in particular are "oblivious to the obvious." They won't turn in homework unless asked, and many do need specific instructions to organize their work.

Keep this in mind - my DS is now a sophomore in college 5 hours from home. He has a wonderful Disabilities coordinator that will assist him if needed, a caring advisor, and he has a letter to show to each professor outlining his "unique learning style." (as I like to call it). He has his ups and downs, but I admire him for his never quit attitude. We're not sure if he will graduate in 4 years (maybe 4 1/2?), but we try to give him guidance as he chooses his own path.

I found if I was kind and appreciative to the teachers, they would be more understanding to my son. He had some great teachers that nurtured him along his way, and it continues in college. Interestingly, the WORST professor was his Psychology teacher - my kid is a walking Psych textbook with his issues, yet the prof was NOT accommodating at all. Go figure.
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Old 02-11-2012, 07:32 PM   #17
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We tried the same things - removing his beloved computer games, etc., just made him very angry and frustrated. Looking back, his poor work performance was due to his executive function, just had a very hard time organizing anything. Teachers need to realize that Aspie students in particular are "oblivious to the obvious." They won't turn in homework unless asked, and many do need specific instructions to organize their work.
This is so interesting. My ds, whom is diagnosed with ADHD, is exactly like this. He is highly smart (IQ 140) but often he's like on another planet not to be mean to the kids but he's another one who will have the homework and not turn it in! He'll tell me, teacher didn't ask for it. I asked him what do you think all the other kids did with theirs? Blank stare

The therapist specified executive function as a huge issue for him. And organization-ugh. I just asked him a couple minutes ago if he had his shorts together for our Disney trip next week. He tells me, I don't have any. I said YOU'RE WEARING A PAIR and where are the ones you wore on Wed? (we had a warmish spell) he says I don't know. I told him, unless we were hit by masked shorts robbers, they are where you left them Just because you don't remember where you put them doesn't mean you don't have any
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BTDT, DS is also 14. We devised a solution, but it took cooperation from the teachers, some technology investment, and a school that had the infrastructure already there.

The foolproof solution is a scanner and teacher email. We have DS scan all homework assignments and email them to his teachers after he has finished them, the night before they are due. He also is supposed to turn in the hardcopy as originally specified. This way if he forgets them in his locker or on the dining room table, etc., the teacher already has it in hand, and getting credit for something turned in late isn't an issue.

DS has a full duplicate set of textbooks so that he no longer has the excuse that he doesn't have the book or workbook that he needs to do the work.

If the assignment is a major one that uses a rubric, we ask teachers to email a copy of the rubric directly to me. That way I can help him go through it and make sure that he understands the directions properly (DS has issues with following complex written directions because of a Visual processing LD.)

Lastly, our current school uses Skyward, and they are serious about the implementation, so all assignments are posted on the system by the time they are given in class. DS doesn't have to write them down or get anything signed; he can look up the details any time.

DS' grade school did use the system of insisting that kids write down the assignment, but after awhile the teachers started just writing it out and letting him pick up the slip on the way out of class. They did this because when he would bring it up to be signed off on, it was invaribly written down incorrectly, and he also has very difficult handwriting -- they just decided it was easier to hand it to him.
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Old 02-27-2012, 11:16 AM   #19
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This is so interesting. My ds, whom is diagnosed with ADHD, is exactly like this. He is highly smart (IQ 140) but often he's like on another planet not to be mean to the kids but he's another one who will have the homework and not turn it in! He'll tell me, teacher didn't ask for it. I asked him what do you think all the other kids did with theirs? Blank stares

The therapist specified executive function as a huge issue for him. And organization-ugh. I just asked him a couple minutes ago if he had his shorts together for our Disney trip next week. He tells me, I don't have any. I said YOU'RE WEARING A PAIR and where are the ones you wore on Wed? (we had a warmish spell) he says I don't know. I told him, unless we were hit by masked shorts robbers, they are where you left them Just because you don't remember where you put them doesn't mean you don't have any
Too funny. We just had a similar experience with jeans. He was packing for a NYC trip with his Grandmother and claimed he didn't have enough jeans. They were in the laundry room of all places!!


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BTDT, DS is also 14. We devised a solution, but it took cooperation from the teachers, some technology investment, and a school that had the infrastructure already there.

The foolproof solution is a scanner and teacher email. We have DS scan all homework assignments and email them to his teachers after he has finished them, the night before they are due. He also is supposed to turn in the hardcopy as originally specified. This way if he forgets them in his locker or on the dining room table, etc., the teacher already has it in hand, and getting credit for something turned in late isn't an issue.

DS has a full duplicate set of textbooks so that he no longer has the excuse that he doesn't have the book or workbook that he needs to do the work.

If the assignment is a major one that uses a rubric, we ask teachers to email a copy of the rubric directly to me. That way I can help him go through it and make sure that he understands the directions properly (DS has issues with following complex written directions because of a Visual processing LD.)

Lastly, our current school uses Skyward, and they are serious about the implementation, so all assignments are posted on the system by the time they are given in class. DS doesn't have to write them down or get anything signed; he can look up the details any time.

DS' grade school did use the system of insisting that kids write down the assignment, but after awhile the teachers started just writing it out and letting him pick up the slip on the way out of class. They did this because when he would bring it up to be signed off on, it was invaribly written down incorrectly, and he also has very difficult handwriting -- they just decided it was easier to hand it to him.
I love the idea of scanning and sending the homework along with handing it in. I am going to email his teachers now and see if we can put that system in place too. Thank you
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