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Old 09-21-2012, 05:06 PM   #1
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My Dad died yesterday after battling cancer for 4 years...

Needless to say I am heart broken. My Mother even more so, of course.
My DD, who was extremely close to my Dad, is not taking this well either. This is the first death she has ever experienced, and the first so close to home for me. I'm sitting here alone now for the first time since Friday night when he was rushed to the hospital. It's quiet and I'm doing so much thinking. What to do and how to handle my DD. I'm trying to make her live life as normal. It's Homecoming week and it's been hard for her. I think she will go to her dance. I'm not sure. She's with my Mom now - supporting each other. I needed to come home to take care of things. I don't know whether we should go ahead with our trip in two weeks or not . . . I think I will play it by ear and ask DD how she feels about it. Luckily I bought insurance, so I think Disney will refund some of it if we decide not to go. So much to think of. So much to do. Thanks for 'listening'. I needed someone to listen and I know all of you are out there 'listening'.
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Old 09-21-2012, 05:37 PM   #2
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So sorry for your loss.

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Old 09-21-2012, 05:58 PM   #3
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Sincere condolences.
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Old 09-21-2012, 09:17 PM   #4
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I'm very sorry for your loss, your family will be in my prayers.

As for rescheduling the trip, I had to reschedule a trip of mine last month because my mother had emergency surgery. I didn't have insurance, and they were still more than accomodating with me changing my reservations. It may be different if the trip is cancelled outright though.
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Old 09-21-2012, 09:26 PM   #5
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Old 09-21-2012, 09:34 PM   #6
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 09-21-2012, 09:39 PM   #7
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You and yours will be in our prayers. I am sorry for your loss.
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Old 09-21-2012, 10:31 PM   #8
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I am so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you & your family in my prayers.
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Old 09-21-2012, 10:36 PM   #9
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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a Dad is awful....

As far as the trip and your daughter, honestly, what would Daddy tell you to do? All of the services and such will be over by then and you will be in this dreadful lull....I've been there.....what would he tell you to do? Stay home and dwell or go to the place that he knows makes you and your daughter smile at a time when you really need to? I normally would say reschedule but somehow tonight I feel compelled to tell you to go.

God bless honey....
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:23 AM   #10
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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a Dad is awful....

As far as the trip and your daughter, honestly, what would Daddy tell you to do? All of the services and such will be over by then and you will be in this dreadful lull....I've been there.....what would he tell you to do? Stay home and dwell or go to the place that he knows makes you and your daughter smile at a time when you really need to? I normally would say reschedule but somehow tonight I feel compelled to tell you to go.

God bless honey....
I was thinking about this last night. He took my Mom, me and DD to our first trip to Disney World in 1999. Thus began our Disney addiction. Going through pictures for the service on Monday nite, we found pictures of him goofing around at WDW that we will be sharing with the visitors when they come Mon. nite. We were all so happy. He was so happy. DD seems to be doing well right now. Her Homecoming dance is tonight and she plans to go. Monday night on the other hand will be hard. But overall, I do believe we will be going. I think he would want that - In fact, I'm pretty sure he would insist on it.
Thank you to all of you for your thoughts and prayers. It really does help.
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Old 09-22-2012, 12:42 PM   #11
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I'm so terribly sorry for your loss...

Thinking of you and your family...
I hate to give advice at times like this, so I am just going to go with what I would do.. I "think" I would still go on the trip, and make a go of it. It will be hard, for sure, but probably (for me) easier than being at home...
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Old 09-22-2012, 11:52 PM   #12
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Sorry for your loss.

The imprint that our loved ones leave us with are our memories of time we spent together. Going to a place where some of those happy times happened can be a wonderful reminder of those memories. Hopefully there will be smiles and laughter mixed with the tears. If you go on your trip now or put it off a bit, I know you will have a good time and your Dad will be with you in your heart.

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Old 09-23-2012, 02:36 PM   #13
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I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

When my dad died, we went to DisneyWorld 5 weeks after. It was a pre-planned trip, and it made me feel better to go.
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:31 PM   #14
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I am so sorry for your loss and I can relate in a very personal way. After 7 months of taking care of my father who had a brain tumor, he passed away at the end of July. My sister, her boyfriend, my daughter, my husband and myself took care of Dad 24 hours a day during his illness. During this illness, my brother passed away suddenly and we still don't know what happened.

After the funerals, we were all so depressed and did not feel like celebrating anything. Just being around each other seemed to cause more grief as the weight of each other's grief seemed overwhelming. I decided that my family needed a clean break from the past and convinced everyone to go on a Disney Cruise together. We celebrated all of the birthdays and anniversaries that we had missed in the seven months of caring for Dad and the cruise gave us a reason to spend time together that was positive. Maybe it wasn't the best trip ever as grief was ever present but I believe it was the beginning of healing. I hope that you decide to go on your trip and that it helps you to begin the healing process. Sometimes, we need an excuse to be happy.
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Old 09-24-2012, 03:45 PM   #15
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So very sorry for your loss

I cannot imagine your sadness. When I lost my Grandma, she was closer to me than my Mom. Her death was very unexpected and it took me almost 4 months just to get over the overwhelming sadness and begin to function again. Although your Dad was ill for 4 years, you can never be prepared for the time when they actually leave us. I think your Dad would want you to be happy. If you choose to go on your WDW vacation you could use it as a chance to celebrate his life and the happiness you shared through the years. Hugs and prayers.
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