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Old 09-29-2011, 01:56 PM   #1
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Is anyone here following either of the"My son wants to do BBB as a princess" threads?

I just happened to stumble upon the second thread (the poll) and was wondering if anyone here has read either/both of them. Thoughts? I'm honestly a little disheartened by some of the comments/responses, not surprised... but definitely disappointed.
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Old 09-29-2011, 02:04 PM   #2
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I haven't seen anything on this. I am quite sure that there are plenty of opinions that are less than supportive of the idea. Like my father always says, "Opinions are like *******s, everyone has one."
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I saw them; didn't bother reading beyond a page of the two I saw but I did vote to let the kid dress up whenever he wants and who the heck cares lol
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Old 09-29-2011, 02:28 PM   #4
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There were only a few posts that bothered me.... the "right of creation" post in particular. As a young man who did indeed wear dresses/tried on women's shoes as a child, I don't see the harm in it... and I'm very grateful that my parents never made me feel like there was anything wrong with it; If they had any problems with it, at least I never picked up on it.
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Old 09-29-2011, 02:39 PM   #5
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I have not seen the threads, but I can imagine what some people are saying.

My husband and I took our son to Disneyland for the first time in April for his 5th birthday. He proudly wore his Tinkerbell & Fairy shirt. We noticed people talking about him, but we didn't think he did. Until we were waiting for a ride and the girls (tweens) who were right in front of us the entire time, got into their car and then yelled rude remarks about our "gay son" as the ride pulled away. He looked confused and asked why they were yelling at him. My husband had to stop me from climbinh over the gate. Seriously. My poor baby was introduced to cruelty at the Happiest Place on Earth. We went on the ride and talked to him about what happened and asked him if he wanted to go buy another shirt to wear. He chose to wear his favorite Disney shirt and we took him over to the Tink meet n greet right then so he could get some love.

People can be cruel. There is nothing wrong with a boy who wants to wear a dress, "girly" shirt, barrettes etc. I wish people would just let kids be kids and protect their feelings instead of trying to hurt them.
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Old 09-29-2011, 02:47 PM   #6
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I want a Tinkerbell and fairy shirt! :-)

I'm glad he chose to keep wearing the shirt!
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Old 09-29-2011, 03:13 PM   #7
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I have read them and also voted to let the child wear what he wants. My son has even worn my dd's princess dresses and had his finger nails painted! There is nothing wrong with this. It is very natural to explore. I am lucky my husband understands this.

How in the world do people come to the notion that if a boy wears a dress that makes him gay? I don't get that kind of thinking. When are they going to realize that people don't choose to be gay nor does anyone thing make someone gay. It is just who they are. Why is that so hard to understand? Also, if a person is gay or straight, why does that really matter?

I am so lucky my parents raised me to not judge people on things that are not under their control, but to judge them on who they are, how they treat people etc. Judge is not the exact word I want to use but that is all I can come up with right now. But I think y'all know what I mean.
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Old 09-29-2011, 04:44 PM   #8
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Yeah, I tried to inject a little bit of sanity into the longer thread. There were more supportive folks in that one. BUT it eventually got locked after some guy had to come in and start spreading his fundamentalist bible poo all over the thread.

I try to look on the bright side - on the poll thread, if you add up the three choices that are some variation of "yes, I would let my son dress up as a princess in certain instances", it is a clear majority. And "yes, anywhere and anytime" has the most votes after the single "no" option. If the poll was written by someone who wasn't clearly biased against the idea, the results might be even more favorable.

Times are changing and those who are uncomfortable with it are always gonna scream the loudest.
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Old 09-29-2011, 06:35 PM   #9
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I read the thread and advised the mom to let him wear whatever he wanted. I also said that if people laughed at the boy, or anything like that to just ignore them, since that would be their issue , not the mom's. Too bad the thread is locked now, otherwise I'd go back and continue to show more support.
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Old 10-01-2011, 05:43 PM   #10
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I think it's very natural for children to explore like this and I wonder if there would be as much fretting it it was a little girl who wanted to dress like a pirate and paint on a moustache?

I have been out for a long time, since I was 17 (that was back in 1973)

I have a very vivid memory of one Halloween when I was about 3 or 4 years old (this would have been either 1958 or 1959).

My father came home with a Halloween costume for me. He had accidentally bought a Minnie Mouse costume for me instead of Mickey. I have vivid memories of both my parents, kneeling on the floor, desperately trying to talk me into it being OK for me to dress up as Minnie Mouse, and that little boys could be Minnie.

I stubbornly refused. I would not cross-dress, even as a mouse. My father had to return the costume (luckily the store was still open) and get me the gender appropriate rodent suit.

My point is that kids have their own ideas and what they want to dress up as (or not dress up as) is simply playing with personas and part of exploration.
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Old 10-03-2011, 06:46 PM   #11
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I have not seen the threads, but I can imagine what some people are saying.

My husband and I took our son to Disneyland for the first time in April for his 5th birthday. He proudly wore his Tinkerbell & Fairy shirt. We noticed people talking about him, but we didn't think he did. Until we were waiting for a ride and the girls (tweens) who were right in front of us the entire time, got into their car and then yelled rude remarks about our "gay son" as the ride pulled away. He looked confused and asked why they were yelling at him. My husband had to stop me from climbinh over the gate. Seriously. My poor baby was introduced to cruelty at the Happiest Place on Earth. We went on the ride and talked to him about what happened and asked him if he wanted to go buy another shirt to wear. He chose to wear his favorite Disney shirt and we took him over to the Tink meet n greet right then so he could get some love.

People can be cruel. There is nothing wrong with a boy who wants to wear a dress, "girly" shirt, barrettes etc. I wish people would just let kids be kids and protect their feelings instead of trying to hurt them.
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Old 10-04-2011, 03:45 PM   #12
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Haven't seen it...I'll look for the poll to vote.
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Old 10-04-2011, 03:50 PM   #13
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Haven't seen it...I'll look for the poll to vote.
Please send me the link or post it when you find it. I've looked everywhere and must be missing it. I want to vote too!!
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Old 10-05-2011, 01:03 AM   #14
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I know the thread was locked, but was it also deleted?
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As long as the child is happy... that's what counts. Do whatever it takes to make his childhood a happy one. He'll be a happier adult.
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