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Old 07-22-2014, 10:50 AM   #1
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Friendship Advice?

I'm actually a pretty quiet and private person. However, if I'm close with or feel comfortable with someone I can talk a lot sometimes and like to share stories/what I've been up to. Sometimes these friends will message me with just a simple hello so I feel like they want to talk. I find myself going on and on and all I will get is a very simple response. This happens A LOT! I feel like an *** afterwards. What should I do? Just ignore them next time they message a "hello". I feel like that's being a lousy friend by just ignoring. Advice please?
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Old 07-22-2014, 10:52 AM   #2
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What if you just reply with "Hello, how's it going?" and see how they respond. If they keep the conversation up, then go ahead and dive in. If not then you know they were just checking in to let you know they were thinking of you
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Old 07-22-2014, 10:54 AM   #3
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I wouldn't ignore them. Some people are just chattier than others. If they are messaging you from a phone, it can be a pain to type out a longer answer. You could keep your replies more brief and ask them more detailed questions about what they are up to and see how that goes.
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Old 07-22-2014, 10:59 AM   #4
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Btw, I do ask my friends how they are doing but that too, just a simple answer. Maybe I just have some un-chatty friends that want to say hi and that's about it.......
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Old 07-22-2014, 11:05 AM   #5
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What if you just reply with "Hello, how's it going?" and see how they respond. If they keep the conversation up, then go ahead and dive in. If not then you know they were just checking in to let you know they were thinking of you



OP, there is a LOT you can do between a LONG pour your heart out message and ignoring all together. Try keeping it short and simple, for the most part, in texts and save the longer things for when you are together over coffee or something.
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Old 07-22-2014, 11:28 AM   #6
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Don't ignore them. As a PP mentioned respond with "Hello, how are you?" and gauge the direction of the conversation from their response back.
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Old 07-22-2014, 11:30 AM   #7
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I agree..don't ignore them. I always reply with a "what's going on?"
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Old 07-22-2014, 12:22 PM   #8
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I would always think that if someone was texting me there is a reason. They either want to tell me something or want to ask me something.
Making small talk when you are face to to face with someone is one thing. But I don't really understand the point of starting a text conversation with no purpose.

I would respond something like, "hi, how are you? What can I do for you?"
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Old 07-22-2014, 12:47 PM   #9
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I would always think that if someone was texting me there is a reason. They either want to tell me something or want to ask me something.
Making small talk when you are face to to face with someone is one thing. But I don't really understand the point of starting a text conversation with no purpose.

I would respond something like, "hi, how are you? What can I do for you?"
To me, that spounds very formal for a friend... I'd probably go with, 'Hi! What's up?' or something more casual like that.
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Old 07-22-2014, 03:57 PM   #10
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Old 07-22-2014, 09:26 PM   #11
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I would get some help. You kinda want to learn how to speak to people. Texting is the path of least resistance. If you are too concerned about texting, imagine how hard it will be to speak face to face. Besides, you can definitely get the wrong idea by making assumptions through texting.
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