Speaking of those "first dinner dates".. - The DIS Discussion Forums

C.Ann · 11-20-2009, 05:49 PM

For all of you ladies, do you order whatever you want - regardless of the price - something you would like in the mid-price range that you would like - or the cheapest thing on the menu that you would like?

happygirl · 11-20-2009, 05:54 PM

It has been a while but most of my first dates I paid for my own so I got what I wanted/afford

monkey68 · 11-20-2009, 05:55 PM

I generally ask what the guy is getting, and then get something around that price range, especially if he's paying. If I'm paying for myself, I get whatever I want.

C.Ann · 11-20-2009, 05:57 PM

Forgot to add the option of getting what he's getting (if you like it) to kind of play it safe..

pigletgirl · 11-20-2009, 06:00 PM

I usually go middle of the road, especially if dbf is paying. He definitely doesn't have unlimited funds and so, I try not to take advantage. The funny thing is though, he will order of the most expensive menu items when he pays...

PatsGirl · 11-20-2009, 06:50 PM

I try to go middle of the road pricewise but figure that's okay if he has picked the restaurant in the assumption he knows the menu. The thing that makes me uncomfortable sometimes is the price of wine which I enjoy with dinner. It's nice if he orders a bottle and suggests a few things off the menu for me but that hasn't happened in quite a while

bumbershoot · 11-20-2009, 06:57 PM

I was vegetarian for most of my dating life, so my food is never the most expensive.

But I always came prepared with money, just in case, so I made sure to order what I could afford, in case the dude decided to split the check or go dutch. Only happened once, and on a date that he asked for, he drove, he chose the restaurant, etc. Of all the dates that I expected the dude to pay, that would be the one, and that's the one where it was announced at the time of the bill that we'd be going dutch. Guess he realized he liked me about as much as I liked him during that meal! (though I ended up liking him even less thanks to the paying business)

C.Ann · 11-20-2009, 07:00 PM

I'm really surprised by some of the responses here.. Back when I dated (just after the prehistoric age - LOL) a lady NEVER, EVER would pay or be expected to pay..

My first dinner date, I was so afraid of ordering something too expensive I got sick to my stomach and barely poked at my food..

aprilgail2 · 11-20-2009, 07:01 PM

I will typically split the bill so I get what I want...I hate the guy paying stuff...

AustinTink · 11-20-2009, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by C.Ann

I'm really surprised by some of the responses here.. Back when I dated (just after the prehistoric age - LOL) a lady NEVER, EVER would pay or be expected to pay..

My first dinner date, I was so afraid of ordering something too expensive I got sick to my stomach and barely poked at my food..

I'm with you C. Ann. I never, EVER paid for my dinner on a date. My mama didn't raise no fool!

Took · 11-20-2009, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by AustinTink

I'm with you C. Ann. I never, EVER paid for my dinner on a date. My mama didn't raise no fool!

Ditto. If he asked me, he paid. However, if things "picked up" then I would ask him for dates or cook for him to even things out.

Stacerita · 11-20-2009, 09:11 PM

I would order what I normally would order.

AKL_Megs · 11-20-2009, 09:13 PM

Well, waaay back in the day when I used to date, I would order something median priced... I would usually play the whole, "I can't decide between the X and the Z... what are YOU getting?" From there, I would choose X or Z.

lacrosse_lady72 · 11-21-2009, 02:42 AM

I almost never pay for a meal with friends. Most of them are guys and I offer to pay but I always get shot down. When I'm with them I usually order whatever I want but most of the time they'll order the most expensive thing anyway so I'm all set... I also try to convince them to split an appetizer

On the first dates... I will also get something less expensive or a similar priced item.

This whole girl paying thing is bogus to me, at least on the first few dates.

Handbag Lady · 11-21-2009, 02:58 AM

This has made me think.

Back when I dated, I paid for most of the dinners. Then again, I did the inviting because with the guys I was interested in, going out to dinner wasn't on their radar.

My husband, however, paid for the first several dates.

Now, DH and I switch off. We make our own individual money and this seems most fair.

However, I have a group of friends that are mostly men and they have this silly rule, "Girls don't pay." I figure I am making up for lost time from my youth!

But, everyone so often, I make my husband go out with us so that I can pay. (They don't know it is my credit card slipped to my husband!

But in EVERY situation, I would order whatever I pleased to eat.

11-20-2009, 05:49 PM	#1
C.Ann We'll remember when... No time for green bananas When the going gets tough, she gets the Palmolive!! If I knew we were going to be graded here, I might try harder Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 28,920	Speaking of those "first dinner dates".. For all of you ladies, do you order whatever you want - regardless of the price - something you would like in the mid-price range that you would like - or the cheapest thing on the menu that you would like? __________________ C.Ann ----------------- *"Scars remind us where we've been.. They don't have to dictate where we're going.."* "Life ain't always beautiful.....but it's a beautiful ride." "We won't be sad, we'll be glad for all the life we've had and we'll remember when...."

11-20-2009, 05:54 PM	#2
happygirl Wishing upon Okay this is starting to get freaky Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 6,861	It has been a while but most of my first dates I paid for my own so I got what I wanted/afford __________________ hubby Richard 37 me Jenny 32 daughter Ashlyn 6 son Brady 4 Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

11-20-2009, 05:57 PM	#4
C.Ann We'll remember when... No time for green bananas When the going gets tough, she gets the Palmolive!! If I knew we were going to be graded here, I might try harder Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 28,920	Forgot to add the option of getting what he's getting (if you like it) to kind of play it safe.. __________________ C.Ann ----------------- *"Scars remind us where we've been.. They don't have to dictate where we're going.."* "Life ain't always beautiful.....but it's a beautiful ride." "We won't be sad, we'll be glad for all the life we've had and we'll remember when...."

11-20-2009, 06:00 PM	#5
pigletgirl You do have a life. It is just in cyber world If its chocolate I'll eat it! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Diamondback nation Posts: 7,805	I usually go middle of the road, especially if dbf is paying. He definitely doesn't have unlimited funds and so, I try not to take advantage. The funny thing is though, he will order of the most expensive menu items when he pays... __________________

11-20-2009, 06:50 PM	#6
PatsGirl Kids will write the darndest things I'm a fan of the Red Sox and anyone who beats the Yankees I can't believe my parents lived through my shenanigans Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: South of Boston, Very north of Magic Posts: 3,092	I try to go middle of the road pricewise but figure that's okay if he has picked the restaurant in the assumption he knows the menu. The thing that makes me uncomfortable sometimes is the price of wine which I enjoy with dinner. It's nice if he orders a bottle and suggests a few things off the menu for me but that hasn't happened in quite a while __________________ Last night my sister and I were sitting in the den and I said to her, "I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle to keep me alive. That would be no quality of life at all. If that ever happens, just pull the plug!" So she got up, unplugged the computer, and threw out my wine. Brenda , Jacob 19 and Alexandra 12 We booked Boardwalk Villas for April ~ three weeks after my Girls' Trip to Isla Mujeres

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11-20-2009, 05:55 PM	#3
monkey68 I instill the fear of manhole covers and those subway grates in people! Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,474	I generally ask what the guy is getting, and then get something around that price range, especially if he's paying. If I'm paying for myself, I get whatever I want.

11-20-2009, 06:57 PM	#7
bumbershoot DIS Veteran Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tacoma WA Posts: 19,274	I was vegetarian for most of my dating life, so my food is never the most expensive. But I always came prepared with money, just in case, so I made sure to order what I could afford, in case the dude decided to split the check or go dutch. Only happened once, and on a date that he asked for, he drove, he chose the restaurant, etc. Of all the dates that I expected the dude to pay, that would be the one, and that's the one where it was announced at the time of the bill that we'd be going dutch. Guess he realized he liked me about as much as I liked him during that meal! (though I ended up liking him even less thanks to the paying business) __________________ -molly 13 DLR trip reports of various kinds found through this link *prepretrip report for WDW*

11-20-2009, 07:00 PM	#8
C.Ann We'll remember when... No time for green bananas When the going gets tough, she gets the Palmolive!! If I knew we were going to be graded here, I might try harder Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 28,920	I'm really surprised by some of the responses here.. Back when I dated (just after the prehistoric age - LOL) a lady NEVER, EVER would pay or be expected to pay.. My first dinner date, I was so afraid of ordering something too expensive I got sick to my stomach and barely poked at my food.. __________________ C.Ann ----------------- *"Scars remind us where we've been.. They don't have to dictate where we're going.."* "Life ain't always beautiful.....but it's a beautiful ride." "We won't be sad, we'll be glad for all the life we've had and we'll remember when...."

11-20-2009, 07:01 PM	#9
aprilgail2 Ikea- Swedish for CRAP Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: NY Posts: 14,033	I will typically split the bill so I get what I want...I hate the guy paying stuff... __________________

11-20-2009, 09:11 PM	#12
Stacerita AKA the Lexus TinklerMy bad-its Miss Understood. Sorry. Got my drag queens mixed I guess I did look more like a Hooter's girl than I wanted to Join Date: May 2004 Location: Anaheim, Ca Posts: 13,782	I would order what I normally would order. __________________ Diva Las Vegas Inappropriate graphics will be deleted from signatures. Please remember this is a family-friendly site

11-20-2009, 09:13 PM	#13
AKL_Megs I'd Rather Be At AKL!!! I feel exposed if I'm not covered Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Livonia, MI Posts: 2,743	Well, waaay back in the day when I used to date, I would order something median priced... I would usually play the whole, "I can't decide between the X and the Z... what are YOU getting?" From there, I would choose X or Z. __________________ -DH -Me

11-21-2009, 02:42 AM	#14
lacrosse_lady72 I <3 Disney Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hillsboro, Oregon Posts: 3,782	I almost never pay for a meal with friends. Most of them are guys and I offer to pay but I always get shot down. When I'm with them I usually order whatever I want but most of the time they'll order the most expensive thing anyway so I'm all set... I also try to convince them to split an appetizer On the first dates... I will also get something less expensive or a similar priced item. This whole girl paying thing is bogus to me, at least on the first few dates. __________________ WDW: JULY/AUGUST 2002, MARCH 2004, MARCH/APRIL 2005, SEPTEMBER 2006, SEPTEMBER 2007, SEPTEMBER 2008, SEPTEMBER/OCTOBER 2009 DLR: APRIL 1998, DECEMBER 2005 wdw: beach club villas april 18-21 & boardwalk villas 21-25, 2010 dlr: grand californian september 3-10, 2011 wdw: wilderness lodge december 14-26 & hard rock hotel december 26-29, 2012

11-21-2009, 02:58 AM	#15
Handbag Lady Disneyland Bride 2000 If you can't say somethng nice, come sit next to me Has the wherewithall to save bakery goods from earthquakes Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Southern California and Flexico Posts: 4,891	This has made me think. Back when I dated, I paid for most of the dinners. Then again, I did the inviting because with the guys I was interested in, going out to dinner wasn't on their radar. My husband, however, paid for the first several dates. Now, DH and I switch off. We make our own individual money and this seems most fair. However, I have a group of friends that are mostly men and they have this silly rule, "Girls don't pay." I figure I am making up for lost time from my youth! But, everyone so often, I make my husband go out with us so that I can pay. (They don't know it is my credit card slipped to my husband! But in EVERY situation, I would order whatever I pleased to eat. __________________ WDW: Oct/Nov. 2008 CBR / Sept. 2007 CBR / Oct. 2006 AKL / August 2005 POR (hello Katrina!) / 1998 Off Campus at the Grosvenor (ENGAGED AT EPCOT ) DL: Twice a month for years / Multiple visits since birth / 1989 CM on Main Street / 2000 Disneyland Fairy Tale Wedding <---Thanks Grumpy Pirate!

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