baby shower etiquette for 2nd baby? - The DIS Discussion Forums

Antonia · 11-15-2009, 08:58 AM

What is appropriate for a 2nd baby? Do people do baby showers for a 2nd baby?

Especially if the 1st baby is just 15 months old?

laurafergie · 11-15-2009, 09:01 AM

Not really, but I guess you could if the baby was going to be a different sex. Or if the parents needed it financially.

cinmell · 11-15-2009, 09:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Antonia

What is appropriate for a 2nd baby? Do people do baby showers for a 2nd baby?

Especially if the 1st baby is just 15 months old?

I've never been to a shower for a second baby, it's not something we do.

We only have showers for the first born. We do bring gifts to the hospital and/or home for each baby that is born and for their christenings whether they are first born, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc.

aprilgail2 · 11-15-2009, 09:11 AM

Nope- not a fan of second baby showers! Of course you still bring a gift the first time you see the baby just like you do with the first even though there was a baby shower.....but no baby showers after the first child!

mjkacmom · 11-15-2009, 09:11 AM

Around here, you don't do it.

mom2travel · 11-15-2009, 09:18 AM

I say "no" also. With the exception being if there is a big age gap between youngest already-born child and new baby.

Ohiodislover · 11-15-2009, 09:20 AM

Seems to be happening more and more. I'm not really a fan.

I can see things be needed when the new baby is a different sex, or since the older one is only 15 months, I guess maybe there will be some things that the parents will need 2 of.

But I wouldn't have a 2nd "shower". Maybe a party with just really close friends/family.

Antonia · 11-15-2009, 09:22 AM

That's what I thought - no showers for 2nd baby - but I see one coming. Niece on my husband's side is pregnant with 2nd baby and I just know DMIL is gonna expect someone to plan a shower!!!!

I am already preparing how I am gonna say no. Particularly since it is not really a happy occasion in my opinion. 2nd baby, 2 different fathers and she is unmarried with little aspiration in life. Both pregnancies she has denied being pregnant until the 7th month and then says oops - she didn't realize she was gonna have a baby.

The first baby we did do a shower. This time I will give a nice gift.

LisaNJ25 · 11-15-2009, 09:23 AM

Not that closes together... I did have a shower for my first 3 kids but they were all spaced out.

legalsea · 11-15-2009, 09:24 AM

I agree! My niece is going to have her fourth child soon, and yet they are having a baby shower. I even mentioned to some of the family that it seems strange to keep having repeat baby showers for one person. My day, you had one, and any subsequent babies had to wear hand-me-downs.

quentina · 11-15-2009, 09:33 AM

I believe there is a 5 year rule in etiquette (in between kids) or if it is opposite sex we have not a full shower, more of a get together.

Mouse House Mama · 11-15-2009, 09:39 AM

No. Completely tacky.

Mermaid02 · 11-15-2009, 09:46 AM

My kids are 7 years apart so I did get 2 showers. We had NOTHING left for "baby" stuff!

15mos apart I would think they were pretty well set.........

ms.yt · 11-15-2009, 09:54 AM

Around here, sometimes people do diaper showers for second and subsequent babies, but usually only for very close friends and family members to attend.

cakesnkids · 11-15-2009, 09:57 AM

I suggest after the baby is born having a "welcoming" party. Do not ask people to bring gifts. I can tell you that as my children get older, they look at photographs, and one asked me, what, Sarah was worth a shower but not me and Abi?
Each child is a gift and deserves to be celebrated in some way I feel, and a welcome party is how we handle that here. At the expense of the parent, not their friends.

11-15-2009, 08:58 AM	#1
Antonia DIS Veteran Join Date: May 2000 Location: Nothing could be finer than to be in Carolina . . . Posts: 2,017	baby shower etiquette for 2nd baby? What is appropriate for a 2nd baby? Do people do baby showers for a 2nd baby? Especially if the 1st baby is just 15 months old? __________________ September 2006 - VWL !!! September 2006 - AKL, too!!!! June 2007 South Carolina Coast with New Boat! May 2008 - RCCL Mariner of the Seas! Who knows? First grandchild on the way!!! May 2009 New Orleans!!!

11-15-2009, 09:11 AM	#4
aprilgail2 Ikea- Swedish for CRAP Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: NY Posts: 14,033	Nope- not a fan of second baby showers! Of course you still bring a gift the first time you see the baby just like you do with the first even though there was a baby shower.....but no baby showers after the first child! __________________

11-15-2009, 09:11 AM	#5
mjkacmom DIS Veteran Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 7,345	Around here, you don't do it. __________________ Me DH dd11 ds10 dd7 ds5 dd5

11-15-2009, 09:18 AM	#6
mom2travel Mouseketeer Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: NC Posts: 444	I say "no" also. With the exception being if there is a big age gap between youngest already-born child and new baby. __________________ Me, DH, DS, DD

11-15-2009, 09:22 AM	#8
Antonia DIS Veteran Join Date: May 2000 Location: Nothing could be finer than to be in Carolina . . . Posts: 2,017	That's what I thought - no showers for 2nd baby - but I see one coming. Niece on my husband's side is pregnant with 2nd baby and I just know DMIL is gonna expect someone to plan a shower!!!! I am already preparing how I am gonna say no. Particularly since it is not really a happy occasion in my opinion. 2nd baby, 2 different fathers and she is unmarried with little aspiration in life. Both pregnancies she has denied being pregnant until the 7th month and then says oops - she didn't realize she was gonna have a baby. The first baby we did do a shower. This time I will give a nice gift. __________________ September 2006 - VWL !!! September 2006 - AKL, too!!!! June 2007 South Carolina Coast with New Boat! May 2008 - RCCL Mariner of the Seas! Who knows? First grandchild on the way!!! May 2009 New Orleans!!!

11-15-2009, 09:01 AM	#2
laurafergie Mouseketeer Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Portsmouth, Virginia Posts: 274	Not really, but I guess you could if the baby was going to be a different sex. Or if the parents needed it financially.

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11-15-2009, 09:20 AM	#7
Ohiodislover DIS Veteran Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 2,390	Seems to be happening more and more. I'm not really a fan. I can see things be needed when the new baby is a different sex, or since the older one is only 15 months, I guess maybe there will be some things that the parents will need 2 of. But I wouldn't have a 2nd "shower". Maybe a party with just really close friends/family.

11-15-2009, 09:23 AM	#9
LisaNJ25 DIS Veteran I paid $300 back in 1992. I had the big Jersey girl hair and all Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Northern New Jersey Posts: 9,408	Not that closes together... I did have a shower for my first 3 kids but they were all spaced out. __________________ dh me ds17 dd10 dd5 ds4 °o° 2001 - Port Orleans Riverside °o° 2001 - Disneyland °o° 2002 - Caribbean Beach/Wilderness Lodge °o° 2007 - Port Orleans Riverside °o° 2008 - Pop Century °o° 2010 - Port Orleans Riverside

11-15-2009, 09:24 AM	#10
legalsea The 'trick' would usually be walking away mumbing about 'next year' we shall take our vengence The Magic 8 Ball Knows All Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 2,114	I agree! My niece is going to have her fourth child soon, and yet they are having a baby shower. I even mentioned to some of the family that it seems strange to keep having repeat baby showers for one person. My day, you had one, and any subsequent babies had to wear hand-me-downs.

11-15-2009, 09:33 AM	#11
quentina The bridge has been built and crossed Old cups are just that.......old cups Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Alburtis, PA Posts: 1,002	I believe there is a 5 year rule in etiquette (in between kids) or if it is opposite sex we have not a full shower, more of a get together.

11-15-2009, 09:39 AM	#12
Mouse House Mama Luckiest Mommy in the World!!! Hello-Buddy the Elf what's your favorite color?! I wonder if they make pullups for adults I was not the farter- I was the fartee Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: The movie in my mind Posts: 9,860	No. Completely tacky. __________________ I'm a diehard flip flopper!!! Our Happy Family!!! DHMEDS DDDS DD Thanks be to God for this indescribable gift.... WL Sept. 2004,Poly June 2005,Poly April 2006 with Grandma & Grandpa, Pop Aug. 2006, WL Dec. 2006, FW Cabins Feb. 2007,AllStar Music Jan. 2008, Poly Aug. 2008,Yacht Club Aug. 2009, Poly Aug. 2009

11-15-2009, 09:46 AM	#13
Mermaid02 BL II - Blue Team Cocoa Krispies all the way! My son's hermit crab is a zombie.... I'm leaving this snake lover infested thread Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Ayuh- I live in Maine Posts: 15,381	My kids are 7 years apart so I did get 2 showers. We had NOTHING left for "baby" stuff! 15mos apart I would think they were pretty well set......... __________________ ~~~ Loreli ~~~ I'm going back inside- turning out the lights and I'll be in the dark but you'll be outta sight......JB

11-15-2009, 09:54 AM	#14
ms.yt DIS Veteran Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Arkansas Posts: 722	Around here, sometimes people do diaper showers for second and subsequent babies, but usually only for very close friends and family members to attend. __________________ 1973 - Off-site with family; 1988 - Off-site with sister; 1992 - Off-site with sister; 2003 - ASMu with son; 2004 - Off-site in Celebration with son; 2005 - Pop with son; 2008 - WL with husband and sons; 2009 - CSR with husband and sons Check out my food blog, mymamasgift.com

11-15-2009, 09:57 AM	#15
cakesnkids First Timer Thinks easier to camp with kids Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 222	I suggest after the baby is born having a "welcoming" party. Do not ask people to bring gifts. I can tell you that as my children get older, they look at photographs, and one asked me, what, Sarah was worth a shower but not me and Abi? Each child is a gift and deserves to be celebrated in some way I feel, and a welcome party is how we handle that here. At the expense of the parent, not their friends. __________________ Christmas 09, we might be crazy, but at least we'll be crazy at Disney!!

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