Would you take this free cruise if you had to leave your little ones? - The DIS Discussion Forums

kyra's mommy · 11-10-2009, 06:49 PM

I got a call from a dear friend who lives in Texas ( I live in Arizona ). She is going on a ladies only cruise with a bunch of her friends. The gal who set up the cruise for the girls is in the airline business (as am I) and she was able to get a discount for everyone. She has since had something come up and can't make it. If she doesn't come on the cruise everyone loses about $150 each so my friend wanted to know if I would take her place since I can also get the discount. My part of the cruise would be fully paid for including a shore excursion since I am taking her place and she is paid up. This is with the girls blessing as she feels like she would have to pay everyone's discount to make it right. I'm not debating the ethics of whether she should pay or not, that's a whole other discussion. I just can't decide if I'm capable of leaving my kids for 5 days. My dd is 7 and my son will be 2 on New Years Eve. Especially since this isn't a trip with my dh or a group of my close friends. I worry that I'd miss them more then it would be worth. On the other hand, I never do anything like this. I feel bad leaving dh for an evening and going out with a friend. So I wonder if it would be good for me? Plus, this is a free cruise...in a way I'm thinking am I crazy for not going?

Any thoughts?

Kae · 11-10-2009, 06:52 PM

Heck yes. If I could get all my ducks in a row at home & work I would go.

Kae

Whitty · 11-10-2009, 06:52 PM

I would go in a heartbeat. Time away from the kiddos is always good; it allows you to appreciate them more when you get back

Maddie2 · 11-10-2009, 06:54 PM

Hmmmm, relaxing vacation with the girls (basically for free) , knowing full well that the kids and DH are all fine .... OR staying home and wishing you would have gone .....

hmmmm, no brainer. Go! When will you have this chance again????

You did say that one gal is a dear friend. Do you trust her judgement in friends? If so, you'll probably gain a bunch of new friends!

mickeymaker2003 · 11-10-2009, 06:55 PM

As long as there is someone you trust to watch your children and your husband doesn't object, I'd definitely go. A little alone time is good for you. A week apart won't hurt your children and they may enjoy the extra alone time with your spouse, grandparents, etc (whoever you get to watch the kids).

It sounds like you would actually be doing the person a favor (from their perspective), so think of it as your good deed for the week :-)

Ephany · 11-10-2009, 07:04 PM

Heck yeah, in a heartbeat! It could be a great opportunity to meet new people, and you'll come back all refreshed and relaxed. I think my DH would be pushing me out the door.

ceecee · 11-10-2009, 07:24 PM

My boss (female) just took our office to Hawaii for a dental conference. Out of 6 of us, two didn't go. I couldn't leave my family for 12 days!!! I know, stupid! The other girl was afraid of flying, so she didn't go either. The longest my DD who just turned 14 has only been away from us was for 4 days (church camp) one time, she did fine...mom and dad were kinda lost!

JoyG · 11-10-2009, 07:30 PM

In a New York minute!

Derby4me · 11-10-2009, 07:38 PM

If you have your husband's blessing and support, I think you should go. Sounds like you have a very capable family. Yes, they will miss you and yes, you will miss them. However, it's probably a good lesson for your kids (and you) that if you leave for a few days, everyone will be fine. Have a blast. Catch up with the girls. When you miss your family, just think of the shower of hugs and kisses you will receive upon your return and all of the wonderful stories you and your family will have to share. Good luck!

Sarah

pixiewings71 · 11-10-2009, 07:56 PM

Uhhh, yes!!!!! LOL In fact I'm trying to plan out some time for me in Feb, so I can join the Dis Diva's 3rd annual DLR Ladies Only Trip.

penn19 · 11-10-2009, 08:01 PM

As someone who has, in 20 years of marriage, only been away from my family ONCE!!! and that was for my Dad's funeral 7 years ago.....GO!!!! Not sure how long you have been married, but I wish now that I had started from the get go making sure that I took care of myself. I always felt like a "bad" mom if I went away and now it is such a habit that I can't make myself go anywhere. You don't know me, but do me a favor and go!!

gr8leg8 · 11-10-2009, 08:06 PM

My mom would be packing my bag and dropping me off at the airport curb.

She loves her granddaughter time.

I hope you get to go and have a wonderful time

okeydokey · 11-10-2009, 08:08 PM

I would absolutely go. The only way I would have declined an invite like this is if I had a baby under a year old at home that I was still nursing. Other than that, I would go.

JoiseyMom · 11-10-2009, 08:11 PM

GO FOR IT!!! Enjoy yourself, and buy little trinkets for your family!! Look at it as re-charging your batteries!!

Tab2Disney · 11-10-2009, 08:14 PM

I just got back from cruising without "my" family. I went last minute to help out my Sis with her family, when her hubby couldn't go.
My kids are older than yours, but they missed me and I missed them too.
Like someone said before, it makes you appreciate each other a little more when you get back.
Moms deserve special time too.
Go for it!!!

11-10-2009, 06:49 PM	#1
kyra's mommy Mouseketeer Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Gilbert, Arizona Posts: 99	Would you take this free cruise if you had to leave your little ones? I got a call from a dear friend who lives in Texas ( I live in Arizona ). She is going on a ladies only cruise with a bunch of her friends. The gal who set up the cruise for the girls is in the airline business (as am I) and she was able to get a discount for everyone. She has since had something come up and can't make it. If she doesn't come on the cruise everyone loses about $150 each so my friend wanted to know if I would take her place since I can also get the discount. My part of the cruise would be fully paid for including a shore excursion since I am taking her place and she is paid up. This is with the girls blessing as she feels like she would have to pay everyone's discount to make it right. I'm not debating the ethics of whether she should pay or not, that's a whole other discussion. I just can't decide if I'm capable of leaving my kids for 5 days. My dd is 7 and my son will be 2 on New Years Eve. Especially since this isn't a trip with my dh or a group of my close friends. I worry that I'd miss them more then it would be worth. On the other hand, I never do anything like this. I feel bad leaving dh for an evening and going out with a friend. So I wonder if it would be good for me? Plus, this is a free cruise...in a way I'm thinking am I crazy for not going? Any thoughts?

11-10-2009, 06:52 PM	#2
Kae DIS Veteran Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,647	Heck yes. If I could get all my ducks in a row at home & work I would go. Kae __________________ :Me DH DD9 DS12 NEXT TRIP CSR Oct 2009-Just Me & DH!! May 2007-Pop & AKL June 2005-WL April 2005-Wyndham Palace March 2004-Marriott DTD Oct 2003-WL Oct 2001-Poly DS 1st Trip Oct 1999-POFQ May 1996-AS Music May 1994-Travel Lodge DTD Dec 1971-Contemporary DisneyLand-March 2006

11-10-2009, 06:52 PM	#3
Whitty DIS Veteran Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: So Cal Posts: 598	I would go in a heartbeat. Time away from the kiddos is always good; it allows you to appreciate them more when you get back __________________ Me DH DD4

11-10-2009, 06:54 PM	#4
Maddie2 Mouseketeer Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Midwest Posts: 443	Hmmmm, relaxing vacation with the girls (basically for free) , knowing full well that the kids and DH are all fine .... OR staying home and wishing you would have gone ..... hmmmm, no brainer. Go! When will you have this chance again???? You did say that one gal is a dear friend. Do you trust her judgement in friends? If so, you'll probably gain a bunch of new friends! __________________ ASMovies April 2004 Pop Century April 2007 Pop Century January 2009

11-10-2009, 07:04 PM	#6
Ephany DIS Veteran Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Georgia Posts: 1,164	Heck yeah, in a heartbeat! It could be a great opportunity to meet new people, and you'll come back all refreshed and relaxed. I think my DH would be pushing me out the door. __________________ Off site - October 2008 Pop Century - January 2009 Off site - March 2009

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11-10-2009, 06:55 PM	#5
mickeymaker2003 DIS Veteran Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Central IL Posts: 890	As long as there is someone you trust to watch your children and your husband doesn't object, I'd definitely go. A little alone time is good for you. A week apart won't hurt your children and they may enjoy the extra alone time with your spouse, grandparents, etc (whoever you get to watch the kids). It sounds like you would actually be doing the person a favor (from their perspective), so think of it as your good deed for the week :-)

11-10-2009, 07:24 PM	#7
ceecee DIS Veteran Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 7,400	My boss (female) just took our office to Hawaii for a dental conference. Out of 6 of us, two didn't go. I couldn't leave my family for 12 days!!! I know, stupid! The other girl was afraid of flying, so she didn't go either. The longest my DD who just turned 14 has only been away from us was for 4 days (church camp) one time, she did fine...mom and dad were kinda lost!

11-10-2009, 07:30 PM	#8
JoyG DIS Veteran When I saw Titanic for the first time in the theater I was crying so hard I was making noises...a snorting/hiccuping sound. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Buffalo, NY Posts: 3,755	In a New York minute! __________________ Read about my family's adventures in my Budget Travel Blog...updated August 2009! www.mytb.org/P05

11-10-2009, 07:38 PM	#9
Derby4me Mouseketeer Join Date: May 2007 Location: North of the Mouse Posts: 161	If you have your husband's blessing and support, I think you should go. Sounds like you have a very capable family. Yes, they will miss you and yes, you will miss them. However, it's probably a good lesson for your kids (and you) that if you leave for a few days, everyone will be fine. Have a blast. Catch up with the girls. When you miss your family, just think of the shower of hugs and kisses you will receive upon your return and all of the wonderful stories you and your family will have to share. Good luck! Sarah

11-10-2009, 07:56 PM	#10
pixiewings71 Sweet!!! Totally!!!!! YAY for good weather! It's that Disney Magic, I don't know how it works but it does! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Suisun City CA Posts: 11,104	Uhhh, yes!!!!! LOL In fact I'm trying to plan out some time for me in Feb, so I can join the Dis Diva's 3rd annual DLR Ladies Only Trip. __________________ Kerri DBF DD13 DD9 APs expired 1-3-2010, the girls are still good until 2-6-2010 but we have no plans for a visit before they expire. No plans for our next visit, it will be 2011 or 2012 before we head back. We've had fun DLR/DCA, we will miss you while we are gone. We took 14 trips from July 07-July 08 and around 16 from Jan 09-Jan 10.

11-10-2009, 08:01 PM	#11
penn19 Mouseketeer Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 146	As someone who has, in 20 years of marriage, only been away from my family ONCE!!! and that was for my Dad's funeral 7 years ago.....GO!!!! Not sure how long you have been married, but I wish now that I had started from the get go making sure that I took care of myself. I always felt like a "bad" mom if I went away and now it is such a habit that I can't make myself go anywhere. You don't know me, but do me a favor and go!!

11-10-2009, 08:06 PM	#12
gr8leg8 the big 3 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: 380 miles north of Disneyland Posts: 279	My mom would be packing my bag and dropping me off at the airport curb. She loves her granddaughter time. I hope you get to go and have a wonderful time __________________ Hope to return in Dec 2011

11-10-2009, 08:08 PM	#13
okeydokey Frosty the Snowman scared me as a child It will always be beautiful no matter what it looks like naked Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: N. Florida Posts: 3,616	I would absolutely go. The only way I would have declined an invite like this is if I had a baby under a year old at home that I was still nursing. Other than that, I would go.

11-10-2009, 08:11 PM	#14
JoiseyMom Have you had your SPANX today??? I mean, peep poop should be shiny and colored!! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Joisey Posts: 4,896	GO FOR IT!!! Enjoy yourself, and buy little trinkets for your family!! Look at it as re-charging your batteries!! __________________ 1973 Dec - First trip, off site. 1978 June - Senior trip for High School; 1980 Summer - Quick off site w/ college friends; 1998 January - January First Onsite Family Trip CBR 2001/2 Dec/Jan - First family Poly trip; 2003/4 Dec/Jan - Extended Family Trip Rented 4 bed house 2004 August - My surprise trip (no kids)!!! Pop/Poly/GF/AKL; 2004 Nov - Jersey Week AKL & Timeshare 2005 August - Surprise Trip for kids!! CSR; 2006 August - Surprise Trip for kids at CSR again!! 2007 August - 3 nite Wonder & AKL FD 3peat!! 2007 December 8 - 7nite Eastern on the Magic! 2008 August 17 DCL Magic EB Panama Canal I am Poohtiful and Poohlicious!!!! Have you had your Spanx today???

11-10-2009, 08:14 PM	#15
Tab2Disney Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: South Georgia Posts: 113	just did it!!! I just got back from cruising without "my" family. I went last minute to help out my Sis with her family, when her hubby couldn't go. My kids are older than yours, but they missed me and I missed them too. Like someone said before, it makes you appreciate each other a little more when you get back. Moms deserve special time too. Go for it!!! __________________ May 82 & April 89 & June 95 & Dec 00 April 04 Coronado Springs May 05 Pop Century June 05 & Oct 05 PO Riverside Dec 05 Fort Wilderness Cabin Feb 06 Caribbean Beach & May 06 POR July 06 & Jan 07 Bonnet Creek Dec 07 ASM/AK Lodge Nov 08 ASM & Feb 09 FW Campground Sept/Oct 09 DCL Eastern Caribbean Magic

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