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APX · 09-19-2009, 06:43 AM

Alright, now I know disney has a huge thing with the gay community (my brother freaks out whenever we used to go to it a few years back, he's gay)

But i've never really thought about it untill now... do you guys/gals get awkward looks and or annoying comments if you go to the theme parks with your lovers/friends who are gay as well?

I'm asking this because well, I am a young adult, i'm Bi-Sexual (I guess i'm still in the "closet", haven't told my parents at all) and will be going to DLR/DCA with my boyfriend for his birthday/our first date. I'm very shy about these things and tend to get a bit annoyed over the smallest things about people being rude. I just want him to be happy (he's more a girly type) and try to be as romantic/a gentleman as I can be. So if you any advice/tips about what to do/what not to do when at a park, please help.

Many thanks!

mikelan6 · 09-19-2009, 07:39 AM

Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think.

TuckandStuiesMom · 09-19-2009, 11:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikelan6

Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think.

Yeah! What he said!

You'll have a GREAT time.

maleficent's goon · 09-19-2009, 04:48 PM

If it helps---I've noticed a significant increase of gay couples in Disneyland these last few years who aren't afraid of showing it. Hand holding, cuddling, a gentle peck here and there. The point being that I think people feel "safe" there. There will always be ignorant jerks wherever you go but like others have said don't worry about them and have a great time!

mickeyfan1 · 09-19-2009, 05:12 PM

I think that you should remember that outlandish behaviour, no matter who is doing it, is unacceptable. If you and your boyfriend want to hold hands, I doubt you will get more than a glance., If you want to play tonsil hockey, you make get some rude stares. Not because you are 2 males, but because it is not what people want to see, at DL or pretty much anywhere. I think you will be very comfortable in the parks, most people are too wrapped up in having their own fun to notice much around them anyway. Go and have fun. As a pp said, you will always find some jerk who takes exception pretty much everywhere. Don't let their small mindedness spoil your day.

APX · 09-19-2009, 05:38 PM

Thanks alot guys, and no i'm not really gonna be doing some "tonsil hockey" maybe one little peck here and there, but the most will be hand holding/that holding them from behind that most couples do.

So thanks once again, now i'm getting less and less nervous from reading your replies. :D

DVC~OKW~96 · 09-19-2009, 08:35 PM

You'll be fine.

Do however be a bit alert (not paranoid, just alert) and if you get any odd vibes, follow your gut.

Not to be overly dramatic, and I can't imagine anything really nasty happening on property, but you don't want to have any creeps acting stupid off property either.

Take care now and have a great time!

OrlandoMike · 09-20-2009, 01:41 AM

I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!

Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!

A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore!

And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on!

RENThead09 · 09-20-2009, 02:21 AM

What they all said!

Just have fun when you go and remember that you are sharing a special place with a special person.

Not sure when you are going, but Gay Days Anahem is the first weekend in October. If you want to make sure you are around people "in the same boat" then cruise on over for the weekend.

APX · 09-20-2009, 05:11 AM

I would LOVE to go to DLR on those gay days, but he's a week or 2 after that, maybe we can plan something for next year... if it works out.

Also, where can we get those rainbow pins? Or was it some joke? o.o
I also would like to know if adding a "first visit pin" and a "birthday" pin on a 20 year old will get him special treatment as it does to the younger kids? I just want him to remember it and have a blast with all the characters he loves.

OrlandoMike · 09-20-2009, 12:17 PM

The rainbow pin can be found at most of the larger pin stores.

The Happy Birthday button....you can get that at any guest relations, and that is fun also!

RENThead09 · 09-20-2009, 01:35 PM

hey, I have both of those pins on my lanyard too. Great minds think alike!

Absolutely get both the birthday and first time buttons and have him wear them proudly. You never know what type of magic they will bring you

and at worse, he will have tons of people wishing him Happy Birthday!

APX · 09-20-2009, 04:44 PM

Ah, i'm sure i'll be making my way to get him that puin and buttons on his magical day. :D

Thanks alot guys/gals, i'm getting more and more relaxed and comfortable with our trip.

Also, can we purchase those disney dollars at the park or somewhere, because we won't have money, mainly using a credit card. o.o

BarleyJack · 09-20-2009, 06:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OrlandoMike

I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!

Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!

A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore!

And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on!

I can vouch for this......

APX · 09-20-2009, 06:54 PM

Now you guys are freaking me out with the "great services" thing when people wear that pin. What exactly do they do? o.o

09-19-2009, 06:43 AM	#1
APX Mouseketeer Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California. Posts: 111	Really nervous, please help me. :( Alright, now I know disney has a huge thing with the gay community (my brother freaks out whenever we used to go to it a few years back, he's gay) But i've never really thought about it untill now... do you guys/gals get awkward looks and or annoying comments if you go to the theme parks with your lovers/friends who are gay as well? I'm asking this because well, I am a young adult, i'm Bi-Sexual (I guess i'm still in the "closet", haven't told my parents at all) and will be going to DLR/DCA with my boyfriend for his birthday/our first date. I'm very shy about these things and tend to get a bit annoyed over the smallest things about people being rude. I just want him to be happy (he's more a girly type) and try to be as romantic/a gentleman as I can be. So if you any advice/tips about what to do/what not to do when at a park, please help. Many thanks! __________________

09-19-2009, 07:39 AM	#2
mikelan6 World Traveler, Usually Optimistic Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Aventura, Fl Posts: 1,669	Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think. __________________

09-19-2009, 05:38 PM	#6
APX Mouseketeer Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California. Posts: 111	Thanks alot guys, and no i'm not really gonna be doing some "tonsil hockey" maybe one little peck here and there, but the most will be hand holding/that holding them from behind that most couples do. So thanks once again, now i'm getting less and less nervous from reading your replies. :D __________________

09-19-2009, 08:35 PM	#7
DVC~OKW~96 I'm not big on gold as a color. As a metal...that's another story Spreading the word is an important thing! Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: 20 Minutes North Posts: 5,266	You'll be fine. Do however be a bit alert (not paranoid, just alert) and if you get any odd vibes, follow your gut. Not to be overly dramatic, and I can't imagine anything really nasty happening on property, but you don't want to have any creeps acting stupid off property either. Take care now and have a great time! __________________ I look into the window of my mind Reflections of the fears I know I've left behind I step out of the ordinary I can feel my soul ascending I am on my way Can't stop me now And you can do the same What have you done today to make you feel proud? It's never too late to try What have you done today to make you feel proud? Heather Small

09-20-2009, 02:21 AM	#9
RENThead09 Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Vegas Baby! Posts: 324	What they all said! Just have fun when you go and remember that you are sharing a special place with a special person. Not sure when you are going, but Gay Days Anahem is the first weekend in October. If you want to make sure you are around people "in the same boat" then cruise on over for the weekend. __________________ Proud finisher of the 2009 Disneyland Half Marathon in 2:12:38! Yep, I survived the 2010 WDW marathon in 6:22. Nope, not happy with my time. Guess that means I am back in 2011. Heck, let's get Goofy this time!

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09-19-2009, 04:48 PM	#4
maleficent's goon Earning My Ears Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: CA Posts: 61	If it helps---I've noticed a significant increase of gay couples in Disneyland these last few years who aren't afraid of showing it. Hand holding, cuddling, a gentle peck here and there. The point being that I think people feel "safe" there. There will always be ignorant jerks wherever you go but like others have said don't worry about them and have a great time!

09-19-2009, 05:12 PM	#5
mickeyfan1 Come and let me show you my tatoo Let me drive you crazy..... Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 10,015	I think that you should remember that outlandish behaviour, no matter who is doing it, is unacceptable. If you and your boyfriend want to hold hands, I doubt you will get more than a glance., If you want to play tonsil hockey, you make get some rude stares. Not because you are 2 males, but because it is not what people want to see, at DL or pretty much anywhere. I think you will be very comfortable in the parks, most people are too wrapped up in having their own fun to notice much around them anyway. Go and have fun. As a pp said, you will always find some jerk who takes exception pretty much everywhere. Don't let their small mindedness spoil your day.

09-20-2009, 01:41 AM	#8
OrlandoMike all I can say is beer hurts when it comes out of your nose! I don't think we hijacked Halloween, we just do a better job at it! Mr. Mike, plain ole head Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 7,684	I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park! Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it! A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore! And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on!

09-20-2009, 05:11 AM	#10
APX Mouseketeer Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California. Posts: 111	I would LOVE to go to DLR on those gay days, but he's a week or 2 after that, maybe we can plan something for next year... if it works out. Also, where can we get those rainbow pins? Or was it some joke? o.o I also would like to know if adding a "first visit pin" and a "birthday" pin on a 20 year old will get him special treatment as it does to the younger kids? I just want him to remember it and have a blast with all the characters he loves. __________________

09-20-2009, 12:17 PM	#11
OrlandoMike all I can say is beer hurts when it comes out of your nose! I don't think we hijacked Halloween, we just do a better job at it! Mr. Mike, plain ole head Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 7,684	The rainbow pin can be found at most of the larger pin stores. The Happy Birthday button....you can get that at any guest relations, and that is fun also!

09-20-2009, 01:35 PM	#12
RENThead09 Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Vegas Baby! Posts: 324	hey, I have both of those pins on my lanyard too. Great minds think alike! Absolutely get both the birthday and first time buttons and have him wear them proudly. You never know what type of magic they will bring you and at worse, he will have tons of people wishing him Happy Birthday! __________________ Proud finisher of the 2009 Disneyland Half Marathon in 2:12:38! Yep, I survived the 2010 WDW marathon in 6:22. Nope, not happy with my time. Guess that means I am back in 2011. Heck, let's get Goofy this time!

09-20-2009, 04:44 PM	#13
APX Mouseketeer Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California. Posts: 111	Ah, i'm sure i'll be making my way to get him that puin and buttons on his magical day. :D Thanks alot guys/gals, i'm getting more and more relaxed and comfortable with our trip. Also, can we purchase those disney dollars at the park or somewhere, because we won't have money, mainly using a credit card. o.o __________________

09-20-2009, 06:54 PM	#15
APX Mouseketeer Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California. Posts: 111	Now you guys are freaking me out with the "great services" thing when people wear that pin. What exactly do they do? o.o __________________

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